Did everyone take RUDE pills??

[terces]

The title word "rude" is the nicest thing I could think of. So for the last week people seem to be well umm a$*holes. It started in Thursday when I saw some one that I haven't seen in YEARS. She walks up to me and says! I heard you got married congrats, give me a hug. Then, she says "I hear you're trying to have a baby. Stop trying." I just kinda looked at her then explained that I have some problems and am going back to the dr. She went on to say, " I'm telling you if you would just have fun with it and stop trying you'd get pregnant." By this time I'm getting really ticked. I explained again that I've ovulated 2 times in the last year and a half. She just walked away and said, "I'm telling you if you relax you would get pregnant." AHHHH can I punch you.

Then Saturday I saw someone else and she asked when I was going to get knocked up. I said again we'll see I'm going back to the Dr. Tuesday to find out what's going on. She responded with "the universe just isn't lined up for you yet"

The same night I get home and my husband has a buddy over who asks when we are going to have kids, then looks at my husband and says, "what are you shooting blanks buddy." My husband said no and he went on and on about steroids and how they affect your sperm. My husband isn't and never has used steroids.

That brings us to today. I'm sitting in church and listening to the pastor talk about sin and for some reason he decides to talk about abortion. I do believe abortion is wrong, but I don't think the needed to talk about it for 15 minutes and then explain what they do when they do it. I started playing a game on my kindle after he talked about it for 5 minutes then stormed out after he explained the process. AHHHH people need to get a clue!

Sorry for the rant, but this is the only place I can post stuff like this without someone seeing it and freaking out on me.

 

[trying hard]

sorry hun, I got something like that from my dad of all people the other day... He asked if we knew what hole to put it in. hmmmm ????


The whole not worrying thing is a crock... we weren't worried about it for the first year and that didn't help us now did it. Some people aren't blessed with being super fertile ya know.

I just wanted to lend you some sympathy and let you know you are not alone.

Are you going to be put on clomid soon?

 

[bexxc]

people can be such $h1ts! i'm sorry. could you imagine what it would look like if all the ladies in ltttc piled up all the "just relax"es people have told them over the years. i think you should be allowed to punch anyone that says that! when will people just understand that relaxing does not take the cysts off my ovaries and it doesn't make dh's sperm motility problem magically vanish?????!!!!!!!!

 

[terces]

sorry hun, I got something like that from my dad of all people the other day... He asked if we knew what hole to put it in. hmmmm ????


The whole not worrying thing is a crock... we weren't worried about it for the first year and that didn't help us now did it. Some people aren't blessed with being super fertile ya know.

I just wanted to lend you some sympathy and let you know you are not alone.

Are you going to be put on clomid soon?

I was already put on Clomid, and it didn't work for me . I took it for 5 months and it made me ovulate twice even on an increased dosage.

 

[Armywife84]

Argh! They just keep coming don't they? And when you try to correct them, they insist that they're right!

You should've told your friend, "I didn't know you were a fertility specialist! Where did you go to med school at?". Then walked away. Bitch.

This is exactly why I suffer from social anxiety (since LTTC). I'm afraid of what ignorant comment is going to come out of peoples' mouths and what I'll say in return.

 

[hopingforit]

I'm sorry people are being rude. If they know you are going through having trouble, they should be sensitive about it. Even if they don't know, they still should mind their own business. One of the things I HATE the most is when people say, it will happen when it's meant to happen. I also hate the just relax thing. If they say those things, they've clearly never tried long enough to go through the pain of having it fail every month. Cheer up and just ignore those people. They don't know what they are talking about. As for the pastor, that is just plain WRONG. I would've walked out too. I'm sending you lots of and . Hopefully you get your BFP soon!

 

[felecia]

I'm so sorry that people were a-holes! I have my own mother that is the biggest factor that bothers me! When I get emotional she acts as if I shouldn't be that emotional because she knows exactly what I'm going through. She says she does because she had 2 boys and wanted a girl so bad, so that is exactly the same thing. However IT IS NOT THE SAME THING! She at least had 2 children and she could get pregnant whenever she wanted. People can be so cruel, what is even more cruel when they know it upsets you but never want to listen. Mom has also told me I need to relax and I will get pregnant... I have not ovulated at all for almost a year; she then tells me it's all in my head to stop me from ovulating! I don't wish this process on anyone; it's heart wrenching and it's even worse when others are so inconsiderate. FX for all of you women, this is probably the hardest obstacle many of us will go through.

 

[mammag]

I swear there should be an extra class in school of inappropriate things NOT to say to people. You need to just "relax" is the one I absolutely hate the most. Are you freaking SERIOUS??!! Relaxing will NOT ever unblock a tube, increase a mans sperm count, thin out blood with a clotting factor, fix an RH- facor or any of the other million and one things that can go wrong. People can be so f'ing insensitive. And everyone with 5 kids in four years has the best ideas on how to get pregnant. I'll lend you some of MY fertility. Have you heard that one before?? Because that one honestly has me considering how much I would really mind a life sentence

 

[cooch]

Wow, I would have punched her face!!

And its not that these other people are very fertile, all it is- is that they're bodies work right, ours need a little help. So don't put yourself down, with the right medical help you'll get your baby, as will we all xx

 

[SLH]

I am so SICK of hearing this. I seem to get it a lot too. Yesterday my mom told me the same thing, maybe if you relax and take a year off you'll get pregnant. Um, yeah right. If I can't get pregnant while trying, I'm certainly not going to get pregnant while not trying. Relaxing does not get you pregnant if you have problems.

 

[hopefull85]

sayings from fertile B*T*H*S

it will happen soon, just dont think about it, maybe its your husband, oh look at me im 16 and pregnant, im telling you if you just stop trying you'll get pregnant, just dont think about it, there is nothing wrong with you, you just arent having fun with the making a baby process, just dont think about it while you are having sex, BLAH BLAH BLAH

i have heard all of the above way too many times. i too am so tired of hearing it but if you stand up for yourself then you are the one thats selfish and should be happy for others. well so not here i have been trying for 5 years so i am not the person to come to if you want someone to be happy for your pregnancy .

 

[hopefull85]

sayings from fertile B*T*H*S

it will happen soon, just dont think about it, maybe its your husband, oh look at me im 16 and pregnant, im telling you if you just stop trying you'll get pregnant, just dont think about it, there is nothing wrong with you, you just arent having fun with the making a baby process, just dont think about it while you are having sex, BLAH BLAH BLAH

i have heard all of the above way too many times. i too am so tired of hearing it but if you stand up for yourself then you are the one thats selfish and should be happy for others. well so not here i have been trying for 5 years so i am not the person to come to if you want someone to be happy for your pregnancy .

 

[Bettydraper]

This thread made me laugh, people can be so ignorant! I have to deal with these comments from my OH of all people, erm honey, haven't you heard anything I have said in the last 6 months. I'm 39, have cysts and a history of miscarriage. I know he means well but 'chill out' (when I'm not actually stressed) is very annoying!

 

[trying hard]

A friend said to me the other day... Do you know you can get these things call ovulation predictor kits which tell you when to have sex then you will get pregnant straight away............*sigh*

 

[SLH]

A friend said to me the other day... Do you know you can get these things call ovulation predictor kits which tell you when to have sex then you will get pregnant straight away............*sigh*

Haha, I wish!

My cousin was trying for months, and then as soon as I told her about online ovulation calculators she got pregnant the very first time using it. Now she has a 2 year old, and I'm still stuck in TTC hell. Why do some ppl have it so easy and others struggle?

 

[trying hard]

yeah I have a different friend who was on her second month TTC and we were chatting and she bought up the topic of lube to which I said oh no you shouldn't be using normal stuff you should try pre seed. She got pregnant the next month. GRRR

 

[SLH]

I know women how use abortions as a form of birth control. Some people make me sick.

 

[trying hard]

uuuuggh

people like that make me sooo mad!!

 

[terces]

I know women how use abortions as a form of birth control. Some people make me sick.

WOW! It makes me so angry, sick, upset, hurt and much more that women do this stuff. I don't understand why they don't just get their tubes or do something. Why kill the pool LO?

 

[urchin]

Oh yes - RELAX! Of course - why didn't I think of that?

In fact, I bet it was the RELAXING that finally got me pregnant - yups ... I relaxed as I injected myself daily with buserelin, relaxed as I inserted pessaries and swallowed tablets, relaxed as Mr Urch went to do his doings in a cup, relaxed as the good doctors mixed those doings with donated eggs, relaxed as they fertilised in a petri dish and relaxed as the two best embies were transferred into me

Yups, it's the relaxing what done it for me *nods*