Did you expect you would end up on LTTC?

[SweetJennie]

I was just wondering if any of you ladies expected you would end up in LTTC before you even started to TTC?

Me and OH were NTNP for about a year and a half before we started to TTC. The reason we started NTNP so early was because we had a feeling it would take a very long time for us to get to our goal. I have PCOS and at the time I wasn't having a proper cycles at all. After 1.5 we switched to TTC and were TTC 1.5 before we got our BFP. Unfortunately that ended in a MMC and we are back to TTC. Irronically my cycles have been going great for over a year with the help of metformin and our main problem is actually OHs spermies but long story short, was anyone else expecting to be here? I always had a feeling we would be here and unfortunately I was right.

 

[Cridge]

Not a clue! All I ever wanted to be was a mom and when we started ttc I figured it would happen right away. I'm not sure why I thought that because my cycles had always been irregular since the beginning. I even talked to a dr. about it and she just told me to go on bcp. I have to admit that I knew little about how a woman's body should work before I started down the ttc path. I figured out pretty quickly - within 2-3 months - that I had PCOS, but unfortunately it was so unheard of at the time that my doctor had no idea what I was talking about. Thank goodness for the internet.

How long did it take the metformin to start regulating your cycles? What dosage are/were you taking? I've been on 2000mg for over a year and my cycles are still messed up. Meaning, I don't ovulate at all on my own. Did you ever ovulate on your own before met?

 

[SweetJennie]

I wouldn't ovulate without it. I would have no period for half the year and the other half I would continously bleed to the point of needing blood transfusions. I was put on Metformin last summer and within 1 week the bleeding stopped and I ovulated that very month and haven't missed a month since. It truly is a miracle for me. I was put on 1500mg. I know it doesn't work that well for everyone.

 

[readyformore]

I've been ltttc twice now and I NEVER expected it, either time, lol.

We had/have unexplained infertility. Regular cycles, good SA, etc.
Actually, my mom had prepped me for how fertile I would be. Her entire family is super fertile and she thought it would go to me too.
I am always shocked when I'm not pregnant by 3 months time.

So, no, I never thought I'd land here.

 

[rosebud_01_99]

hi,

i never in a million years expceted to be still ttc no 1 16yrs after starting ttc, it scares me even saying that. Ive know so many couples who after 5yrs get something to work and if not ive known a few who got something to work at 1oyrs but i know nobody ttc longer than 15yrs and still childless, and we have tried absolutely everything available in those years, there is nothing i hav'nt had tested or no treatment i havent tried, its just so unfair how im so unlucky.
rosebud

 

[dizzyshell]

I knew it forever because i had that feeling from day 1 .Ive had 1 pregnancy 5.5 years ago.

Since the loss ive been NTNP for 4years and 19months TTC.

Me to have had many tests and nothings wrong .DH is fine too.

Im 28 and i always had this feeling it would take forever grrrrrrrrrrr xxxxx

 

[Cridge]

rosebud

I have a friend with unexplained infertility that ttc for 12+ years. They ended up adopting 18 months ago and will adopt their 2nd baby in a couple of weeks. So really, for them it's been about 14 years. Sometimes I feel like my body is the only truly freaky body out there that won't work, so I wanted to let you know that you're not alone!

 

[rosebud_01_99]

thanks cridge,

unfortunately i also tried adoption but was refused as i have a chronic back condition. so even that avenue to parenthood is blocked to me,

i appreciate your kind words

rosebud

 

[Cridge]

I'm so sorry rosebud! we actually tried adoption as well and it didn't work for us either. Sometimes I wonder what my (our) purpose is in this life if it's not to be a parent. Maybe there's something amazing you need to do that you can only do without children. I feel like if nothing else, I can help and understand those that are going through the same thing I am. I wouldn't be able to do that if I didn't experience it.

Sorry - I didn't mean to hijack this thread. Carry on!

 

[Ber]

You see so many people getting pregnant at the drop of a hat and having sex-ed and contraception drummed into you at an early age because getting pregnant is so easy. Yeah, I knew some people were infertile, but there was always a reason for it wasn't there

I didn't appreciate that some people just can't do it and for there to be no medical reason why not. It never even occured to me that I would be one of them.

 

[Amber3]

We also somehow had a bad feeling before even starting ttc. Then I conceived the first time we tried and it turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy. Because of that I felt desperate from the beginning of ttc and always feared the worst. But deep down I never thought that we would still be a childless couple after 4 + years of trying.
Now I hope we will soon finally have a family since I will start (again) a fertility diet which has earlier has an amazing effect on my fertility.
I wish you all the best
Amber

 

[anniehope]

I feel exactly the same.

You see so many people getting pregnant at the drop of a hat and having sex-ed and contraception drummed into you at an early age because getting pregnant is so easy. Yeah, I knew some people were infertile, but there was always a reason for it wasn't there

I didn't appreciate that some people just can't do it and for there to be no medical reason why not. It never even occured to me that I would be one of them.

 

[Armywife84]

Hell no!

Both his family and mine are all fertile myrtles..but we're having an issue due to my DH's low count and motility. We thought we would be average and conceive within a year. It's been 18 months and not even a false positive. Never would have imagined in my worst nightmare, that this is a reality. It's the most difficult time in my life.

 

[StorkStalker]

I always saw myself as a mommy.. My family is too big, always too many people pregnant at the same time.. My grand mother, has like 10 great great gradnchildren now... So.. I thought I had to be cautios and worry about birth control for the first years of our marriage (DH is an only child due to divorced parents).. If only I had known... But a year passed before our BFP, so I began freaking out at around month 3 of trying.. And... I must say, when I got my BFP I had this little voice inside of me constantly asking if everything was going t be alright... even at the doctor´s appointment I asked him was everything ok, I don´t know what that was, but I was very scared that we would end up losing the baby, and I was extra cautious.. and we did end up losing the baby and have never become pregnant again... So I don´t know what´s that about... Did my mind know something was not ok?? Was it normal for me to have that fear?? Anyway... I never ever ever on my worst nightmares dare to imagine we would be childless 4 years on trying... nor pregnant...

 

[_Nell]

'yes' even though i had no reason to think we'd have problems i just had this feeling for us it wouldn't be easy......i do wonder how much of it is a self-fulfilling prophecy tbh.

amongst friends who have always said 'when we have kids' (and did get them!) I have always said ' i don't know if we can have children' and never taken it for granted.

 

[lovie]

'yes' even though i had no reason to think we'd have problems i just had this feeling for us it wouldn't be easy......i do wonder how much of it is a self-filfilling prophecy.

i felt the same, we had no reason to expect ttc would be anything other than easy, but i just felt we wouldnt be one of those couples who get à bfp easilly.... I think its because i Wanted it so much, its all i can ever remember really wanting and i think i thought its bound to be hard if i want it that much!

X

 

[doopersgurl]

i always thought ttc was relatively easy-ish but i can honestly say that is not the case in my big family know one ha had problems and then it comes to me and my oh we been ttc for a year and nothing! it gets us down i have decided after the new year i will go to my doctors as im getting down about this even my younger bro has a baby on the way i just dont think its very fair

sorry about that rant

 

[Skoer1360]

Umm if I want to be super honest with myself yes, but I was actively thinking that it wouldn't take much longer than 3 months (I was really hoping for a honeymoon baby- that was 4 months in), what with all the sex ed 'information' crammed into my skull that it takes no time at all to conceive. I always had painful periods, so I've suspected endo for a long time but I didn't expect an LPD that's for sure (didn't even know what an lp was before August It's amazing how little we know about our own bodies) just thought it was interesting that I had shorter cycles than everyone else I knew..

 

[Maurie]

in a word... Yes

As a kid I was diagnosed with scoliosis, It was so severe, and progressed quickly I had to have back surgery... with this came many many x-rays. they didnt put the lead belt on me, just little magnets on the screen to block the reproductive organs. however they were not diligent to make sure they were on correctly.(I come from a family of fertile myrtles.) So I've always had a suspicion that that has something to do with our struggle. When I talk to doctors about it they say it has nothing to do with it. (even though they think my egg quality may be low.) I also thought DH's sperm couldn't be that good; He is a little over weight. ... but he showed me, he has the best SA I've seen.

 

[wonderstars]

I absolutely did due to past medical issues but that didn't prepare me at all for the emotional aspect. I knew what the tests would be etc... But didn't realize how difficult it would be to cope with infertility in a fertile world. Before I even thought of a family I always surmised I'd need ivf but boy, it is one tough mother f'n road!

There is nothing out there that prepares a woman for the emotional toll, nor for the man. The tests are available, the REs and Gynes all have a plan but it's just not that simple.

Here's to hoping for a bfp for everyone! We deserve it.