Difficult

[Greta]

Hi there, I just wanted to say that I am finding it difficult at the moment. Our third IVF failed a couple of weeks ago. That was the second ICSI. Christmas was difficult with my beautiful eight-month old nephew being the centre of everything. I am 41 now so time is definitely against me. My plan for next year is to get very, very fit, to see a specialist for Chinese medicine and acupunture and then try one more ICSI in the spring. I think they are recommending doing it again with assisted hatching. Last time we had three good quality embroys transferred at 3 days. Do I still have hope? Some. If I was younger I would have a lot more hope. Perhaps we would move on to donor eggs eventually. But not yet. Thanks for listening and good luck everyone. Greta. xx

 

[africaqueen]

I am sorry your attempts have yet to work, but many women in their early forties get pregnant with IVF and i read a lot of twins are bein born to older mums due to it, so dnt lose hope. I wish u all the best for the new year and hope we get our bfps together cos we will be having ivf in the spring too xxx

 

[silarose28]

Sending you lots of

Don't give up - there is still hope! It is devastating whan a cycle fails but you will feel strnger after a while. Join the failed assisted conception support group thread - there are lots of ladies there who can support you through this.xxx

 

[fluffystar]

Definitely dont give up - there is aways hope! You are making some positive steps forward and seeing the bigger picture by embarking on a more holistic approach.

Conceiving a child is not simply all about medical terms and body parts, it involves each person as a whole and perhaps only when you are fully balanced will that life energy flow and that new life will come. Thats how I see it after a failed ivf cycle and am trying to fix those areas of my ife which I know are not up to scratch so that I am a better person as a whole and much more equipped for this child when it comes.

Keep positive!!!

fluffy xx

 

[MariaF]

I agree with fluffy. Getting pregnant is not about science but emotional state. Although in our cases we do need scientific help the emotional state plays a huge role.
I've had 3 "perfect" Clomid cycles yet still no pregnancy - because every time I was a mess.

Now I'm having IUI I'm trying to distance myself from everything. Almost take it as it comes. I'm not googling anything, I'm not looking for symptoms, making plans for the new year that won't go down well with pregnancy, etc.

I had acupuncture over the last few months - it didn't help me get pg yet, but it certainly helped me relax big time.
Also, don't worry about your age too much. Lots of women in their 40's get pregnant naturally so with a bit of help I'm sure it will work for you.

And getting pg in the spring means you'll be having the baby around Christmas - perfect!!!

 

[Blue12]

I don't know what to believe hun. My first cycles I was off of work on holidays and I did everything meditation classes, acupucture, deep breathing, visualizing, positivity etc. and it didn't work and I ended up in the hospital for a week, and nearly died.

For this last cycle I didn't follow anything. I didn't do acupuncture, I gave up working out completely, I gave up visualizing, and I consumed myself with work. I figured what would be, would be.

Have you been for your follow up to see what your fs recommends or why they think it didn't work hun? I will be praying for you.

 

[JaniceT]

Hey don't give up I got my positive at our 3rd ICSI. So can you. Eating healthy and exercise in moderation. I lived healthy at my 3rd try but just didn't even think much hence my stress was low. In fact, didn't even bother to pee on a stick until day 14.

Take things a day at a time and just go along with the ride, it'll be okay

 

[rachelle1975]

Hey Greta I'm so sorry to hear your news. I take it you've had all the NK tests & immunes before going again? I really hope the assisted hatching works & 2011 is the year of the baby for you

 

[Greta]

Thanks for your replies and Happy New Year everyone. Who knows why sometimes it works and sometimes not? I guess I have never got to the real peak of heath and at least if I do I'll know I have really tried. I wish for amazing news for us all this year. xxx