dizzy nurse!!!!!!!!!!

[hopefuljaners]

Hi ladies,

This is my first time posting on this site since my loss in June. I just needed to get this out basically - sorry for the rant!

So i miscarried on 5th June, havent had AF since and found out on 14th July that I'm pregnant again - I know that its not left over HCG as since my loss til the bfp i had gotten 11 negative tests and since 14th july til today i have 9 positive tests. So i went to my docs last week to ask for a blood test to confirm it and also to check hcg levels so that i would have a better indication of how far along i am. I had to make an appointment for today just to have bloods done!

Anyway i went to the nurse and as soon as i walked in, she asked me if i smoked, i said no, she asked me did i ever smoke i said no - she didnt explain why she was asking this but anyway then she goes, ok i'm going to take your weight - still hadn't looked at my notes or asked me what i was there for yet!. I said aw my weight is bad but...and she cut me off and just left the room and said c'mon with me to check your weight! - stupidly i got on the scales and we went into the room where you get the blood taken and she very patronisingly said you do realise you're very over weight. I said, well like i was trying to say i already know that im overweight but thats the last thing on my mind at the minute so can we get on with it.

She just said ok so what are you here for!! I felt like getting up and leaving there and then! but i knew i wanted the bloods done. I said well i would like a hcg check, and she said how far along are you and i proceeded to tell her that i miscarried on 5th june, didnt have a period since then but got positive pregnancy test on 14th july. she pulled a face, didnt say sorry about my loss, didnt show that she was embarrassed for weighing me - which she should've been and just said "are you sure you're pregnant"!!!!

I said well yes as ive had 11 negative tests after my loss and now 9 positives in the last week. she just did a stupid face and took my arm for the blood. I asked her to make sure that they recorded the hcg level in my notes as it would give me a better indicator of how far along i was, and what she said next really annoyed me, she just goes "well, i dont really know how this all works as we dont normally do this very often..." WHAT?? a nurse in an established doctors practise doesnt know how hcg works in pregnancy??? I started to explain it to her that my hcg level was being monitored every two days before, and she started looking through my notes to see, and i said, no, in the hospital just before my loss, and she said, "why? do you work in the hospital or something?" - JESUS! Then i said, no, hcg levels double or rise 60% for it to be a viable pregnancy and as i was having spotting mine was being monitored then i miscarried. Again she didnt apologise for being so thick, nor seem embarrassed that she had made me have to explain to her about the pregnancy hormone!!! She left it by saying ring in this day week for the results! and i just got up to leave and she just goes " aw good luck this time".

I was fuming when i left the place!!! How dare she first of all start going on about my weight and then show no compassion whatsoever to what im telling her and then be so thick that she doesnt even seem to know what shes doing!!!! whatever happened to patient sensitivity and care. My god i'm in tears writing this - maybe its the hormones but im so mad!!


Am i over-reacting? anyone else had a similar experience or any other nurses out there that would've done it differently??

sooo sorry for this long rant i just needed to get it off my chest!!

xx

 

[pinkgem100]

Aww hun, you are not over reacting, i would be feeling exactly the same. can you not contact your docs and find out if there is a way of putting a complaint in about the nurse, as her attitude sounds to be bang out of order!!

i know when i went to the docs this time to confirm pregnancy i had a nurse that didnt seem to know what she was doing, had to keep checking (which wasnt a problem as i understand that people have to learn!!) however if i had been spoken to the way you had i would be fuming!!

xx

 

[kmac1975]

omg...how rude. I suppose not everyone knows how to react when you tell them about a miscarriage...but a NURSE! Sorry you had this experience and I wish you the very best of British!

 

[Sarah27]

Ahh thats terrible, honestly some people!
I had a similiar situation with my second son (who was stillborn at 36wk) I went to meet with the consultant and the mw at the hosp weighed me before I went to see him and she was as she said "disgusted at the amount of weight I had put on in 12 weeks!" I was mortified! And like you very upset. They then arranged a glucose test for me which was neg! Waste of time! Some people gain weight at different times in their pg. Funny thing was, she was really over weight!
ARGH!!! XXXX

 

[hb1]

Poor you - she sounds awful - you did well to bite your tongue with her!

hx

 

[KitKatBit]

Poor you I think I would have cried with the state my homones have been in! You did really well to keep it together. I have to admit that I'd probably have to lodge a complaint just to make myself feel better. How dare she?!!! At least it would stop her making someone else feel so awful.

My nurse didn't seem very clued up on hcg tests etc either, but at least she was pleasant with it.

 

[hopefuljaners]

she was easily in her late 40s, a nurse most of her life probably and didnt know how a hcg test worked? im laughing about it now, well actually im laughing at how mad i got, OH just kept quiet for fear i would take it out on him lol the fact that she is so overweight herself is what was worse and the fact that after my loss, i bought a cross trainer and lost 4lb in a week but then the cross trainer broke and then i found out about being pregnant again so i stopped - so at least i was trying, us big girls dont have it easy trying to lose weight lol

xx

 

[goddess25]

I am a nurse and nurses like the one you unfortunately had just sounds so disinterested in her job. There are so many utterly fantastic nurses out there that are clued in, interested in learning there role and taking on new challenges, yes you come across issues at times that you have not dealt with before but I would imagine in a GP practice its not particularly uncommon despite what she told you. I think her attitude towards you was patronising, rude and really uncalled for, it makes me sad to hear your story. You did well not taking her down a peg or too, unfortuantely in the NHS you are going to come across doctors and nurses like this who just don't give a stuff, and clearly have no compassion.

How were your HCG levels anyway? Everything ok with you.

 

[hopefuljaners]

Thankyou Goddess!!! I have a lot of respect for nurses and what they do - which is maybe why i held it together, but that woman was foul, in my gp practice it takes a week for blood results so i got them taken yesterday, so i wont find out until next Tuesday!! and by then they will - hopefully - have doubled three times anyway, at least in the hospital they take the bloods and you find out a few hours later, the wait will be very hard!! My doctor said i will have a MW appointment at 8 weeks and probably a scan at 15 weeks!!! surely as ive miscarried before they should do one at 8 weeks too just to put my mind at rest?

xxx

 

[Mizze]

Janers - sorry about the horrible nurse - I probably wouldnt have held it together nearly as well as you did.

Generally speaking they wont offer special treatment after 1 mc - they are so common its not regarded as a risk to this pregnancy (which is comforting in a way)

I had an early scan this time but that was after 2 very similar mmc's. It was massively reasurring though so if it doesnt cost too much you could look into getting one done privately.

Mizze x

 

[eckarta]

WOW... she sounds awful!!! the only thing is maybe since it was a GP's office maybe she really was dumb when it came to all of that.. thats my only thought since i would hope not all nurses are rude and all that jazz... Im glad you let it all out!! just be thankful that you at least maybe taught her something in life?! who knows actually with people like her!! hahaa.. HH 9 months ahead for you!!!

 

[hopefuljaners]

turns out the nurse was as dizzy as i had thought, i ended up getting my hcg level back today - 592, putting me nicely at just over 4 weeks, conceiving on 5th july like i thought - fxd for H&H 9months to us all!!xxx

 

[goddess25]

glad she was dizzy and you were right whoppeee.... you should push for an early scan. If the NHS dont give you one you could always pay for a private scan early on they are not that expensive and it would give alot of reassurance. I have had 2 m/cs both here in Canada and i threatened to mc with my son... so this time around at 6 weeks I was booked in for an automatic scan and they are keeping a fairly close eye on me which is good. I would state your case to your midwife.

 

[hopefuljaners]

thanks goddess25! i registered with a new GP surgery today, i just dont have the confidence that me or my my baby would get the best possible care at my current GP surgery so im booked in with nurse next thurs for a registration medical/physical - not too sure what to expect as ive never had one before, and 1st MW appointment for 23rd August dating me at about 9 weeks, just have to hope and pray that i get that far!!!i would love if i got a scan at the 9week appointment as HB should be visible and everything!!!

xxx