do any of you single parents feel sad that....

[jenfirstbaby]

You won't have children close in age?

I've always wanted to have lo's close in age, like probably a 2 year gap at the most. There's a 2 year gap between me and my older brother and we were best friends growing up. I wanted that for my kids

BUt now that im a single parent that's just not gonna happen, and it makes me really sad x

 

[Natsku]

Makes me sad too I wanted a 2 year gap as well

 

[emeraldbaby]

yes I feel a bit sad about it. I always wanted 2-4 children , it was the dream. But because of my circumstances (recently separated from my abusive husband) I have come to terms that this may be my only pregnancy and child. I am very thankful to be having this baby and I feel very blessed. If he is my only forever, I won't be disappointed.

 

[jenfirstbaby]

Emaraldbaby- I am sorry to hear that! But you have the right attitude, we are all blessed to be able to have at least one! I'm very thankful for my little girl but I hope shes not the only one x

 

[Natsku]

I hope Maria isn't my only one too. I did, drunkenly, tell my new fella that I want more kids and he didn't run away so hopefully she won't be my only one!

 

[jenfirstbaby]

Lol well that's a good sign! I'm sure il have more in the future (unless I never meet someone else lol) but id have loved all my children to have the same dad and be close in age.

Maybe in the future il slip something in his drink and just use him

 

[teal]

Sending hugs to you all I doubt I'd be able to have anymore anyway - was advised I'd never have a child at all xx

 

[Lu28]

I always wanted about a 2 year age gap but obviously that's not going to happen. I did actually end up going through a bit of a grieving process that I may not have any more children but I'm out the other side of that now. I'm absolutely fine now if Aisling is my one and only, I'm incredibly lucky to have her and I'm not going to miss out on enjoying her but focussing on what may have been xxx

 

[jenfirstbaby]

I had a dream last night that I took a test and it was positive but I was panicking because my lo is only 3 months old lol I even had a 3d scan in the dream and the baby was already. Huge! X

 

[Abby_]

When i was pregnant, i was happy with just having one baby. But now he's born, i'm gutted he won't have a sibling close to his age. I guess being fairly young will mean even longer.

 

[whoops]

I'd like Lily to have a sibling, close in age or not, but at the same time, my worst nightmare would be something going wrong in a new relationship and me ending up on my own with two children. I just about cope (financially, etc) with one.

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

We had the policy of "one and done" because of my type 1 diabetes, my career, and our finances.

Now I will have to reconsider this policy if I ever find a man good enough to marry, if he doesn't already have kids

 

[aidensxmomma]

I get sad about not being able to have another child soon sometimes, too. I really wanted my kids to be relatively close in age (my first two are 16 months apart, my second two were 28 months apart). But now that my husband and I split up, I will be waiting a while to be trying for another. I'm also very sad that all my children (if I have more in the future) won't have the same father.

 

[mummy_ellie09]

Yep I get sad about it too. Me and Josh's dad said we wanted 4 kids with about 2 years age gap. Now Josh is almost 3 and no chance of a boyfriend on the horizon let alone another child. Like a PP said, I'm also a bit worried about something going wrong again and being a single mummy of 2 or more.

 

[MumToBe2012]

I always wanted a close age gap between kids I have because there's a 4/5 year ago gap between me and my brother and I didn't like it. Having my little girl now though, if I ever do have more babies I think the bigger age gap is better because having one young child is hard work!! x

 

[rebeccalouise]

deffo, I really wanted all my children close in age & with the same dad. it does upset me but I guess there isn't a lot I can do now

I do also worry if I have another, something will go wrong & I'll end up a single mum of two.. I really want to find 'the one' before having another baby! x

 

[jenfirstbaby]

deffo, I really wanted all my children close in age & with the same dad. it does upset me but I guess there isn't a lot I can do now

I do also worry if I have another, something will go wrong & I'll end up a single mum of two.. I really want to find 'the one' before having another baby! x

me too, I want to wait and have another with someone I know il stay with, I don't want to end up having a different dad for all my kids lol. I guess you never know what's going to happen tho, obviously you wouldn't be with someone if you didn't think it would last ! But it doesn't always work out :\ x

 

[rebeccalouise]

deffo, I really wanted all my children close in age & with the same dad. it does upset me but I guess there isn't a lot I can do now

I do also worry if I have another, something will go wrong & I'll end up a single mum of two.. I really want to find 'the one' before having another baby! x

me too, I want to wait and have another with someone I know il stay with, I don't want to end up having a different dad for all my kids lol. I guess you never know what's going to happen tho, obviously you wouldn't be with someone if you didn't think it would last ! But it doesn't always work out :\ x

I agree! x

 

[Laura2919]

No. I had always said I wanted the twins to be in full time school before I had another child anyway. I suppose for me the girls have their own bond and I doubt that anyone would come close to that so the age gap doesn't prove a point.