do you still get hopefull?

[lizzywiz]

I’m in the TWW (DPO 8) and every single time I believe it will happen. That is a lot of believin’! In a weird way it feels good, because feeling hopeful is better than how I feel CD 1- hopeless.
But, isn’t it a bit sick that I haven’t grown a thicker skin in the last 5 years? I mean, I haven’t even had a chemical in all this time.
Does anyone else still believe like this? Do you think it is good or bad to be optimistic?
The let down on CD1 is devastating and I am a mess for a couple of days, so I wouldn’t mind being a bit more pessimistic.

 

[IrishGirl]

Hey hun
I was like this every single month of TTC for the whole 5.5 years of TTC#2.After many many failed treatments and 1 very early loss we got a Natural BFP!!!!!!So it can happen!!!It is possible!!!Im living proof after 5.5 years.Hope this helped hun xoxox
Tonnes of baby Dust xoxoxox

 

[Lisa2701]

I have been TTC for just under 21 months, which is NOTHING in comparison to 5 years but yes... 1DPO and I am sat here VERY hopeful about this cycle. I don't know why I am so excited about this particular cycle, but I am. I normally have long irregular cycles and so the drag of the long cycles drags me down...but this cycle I have a very normal AF and then got a +OPK on CD19 (believe I Ov the same day), don't know why, but i just got a great feeling about this cycle... hope I don't regret being so positive FX.

GL honey

 

[lizzywiz]

IrishGirl, my family is of Irish descent, so I am taking it as a good sign that you were the first to reply and you got your BFP!
Lisa, I don't think you'll ever regret being positive,...it's just that after a while you start to feel silly
Thanks for the thoughtful words.

 

[Sophe]

I am the opposite, no belief at all... don't know whats worse? maybe we could swap? LOL

 

[SpicyWolf]

I tell myself every time that I shouldn't get my hopes up but I do anyways But you're right - I'll take the false hope of 1 DPO than the horrible sadness and hopelessness of CD1 anyday

 

[Amber3]

I have been trying for 4+ years and in the first year or so I always hoped and got terribly sad when AF arrived. Then I went into treatment after a long time and realized just how imblalanced my reproductive system was and then I knew that without treatment I would not become pregnant probably. So since then I have only ever gotten my hopes up whenever I was on some new treatment or trying something new. I have only experienced dissapointments so far because even when something seemed to make an improvement in my cycle the next month I was not seeing the effect.
I think I am trying to protect myself from dissapointments by now.
Amber

 

[readyformore]

I tell myself every time that I shouldn't get my hopes up but I do anyways But you're right - I'll take the false hope of 1 DPO than the horrible sadness and hopelessness of CD1 anyday

Yep, same here.

 

[scoobydrlp]

I've been TTC for 21 months, and I go through the same thing every month. Disappointment and hopelessness on CD1, telling myself I should just stop caring so much, then near ovulation and into the TWW I become hopeful, and start spotting symptoms, and then AF comes and it starts all over again. Kind of makes me crazy really. But I'm not ready to give up, and hearing about people who have success after years of trying just makes me want to keep going!

 

[stellargaze]

I completely understand-- it's that hope that keeps playing with my mind. Those last few days before af, are always the hardest, when I test like crazy and keep getting bfns. I keep looking for signs anyway and end up disappointed.

I've been ttc #1 for over 3 years, almost four. I finally gave up hope over the summer. DH and I figured we should look into adoption. I had really prepared my heart for the truth that it would never happen. That same day we scheduled an adoption information meeting, I also had an appt with the doctor. My gastroenterologist had referred me to a gyn because my severe IBS turned out to be severe Endometriosis, in both ovaries and all over my colon. I saw the gyn only a couple of hours before the adoption meeting, and without me saying anything ore even asking about it, he told me that I needed a lap and that he thought I could get pregnant!

I had the lap just over a month ago, and I'm back to being full of hope again-- it's my first cycle on clomid after everything's been cleared. I have PCOS and kind of temperamental health, but I can't help thinking this has got to be it. After all of this, it must be my chance.

I suppose for some of us it's impossible to ever really give up hope.

 

[lacebaby]

So glad to hear others are in the same boat. DH and I have been TTC for 5 yrs now as well. We have gotten as far as 2 chemical pregnancies. I am worried that it is my age. I will be turning 40 soon. After 10 IUIs and 3 IVFs, when is enough's enough??! We have done EVERY test in the book (even genetic testing), but everything has come put totally fine for both me and DH. So I am left thinking I must just have bad eggs. I thankful to hear some positive results for those who conceived after 5.5 yrs. Maybe my turn will come soon. I still remain hopeful but it gets harder and harder.
On day 1 of cycle now, so will be starting Stims soon for another IUI (cuz insurance covers this). Anyone else on same cycle?

 

[lizzywiz]

Sophe- how about we split it 50/50 and find a happy medium? You take 1/2 of my crazy and I take 1/2 of yours,...at least it would change things up!
Scoobydrip- “Disappointment and hopelessness on CD1, telling myself I should just stop caring so much, then near ovulation and into the TWW I become hopeful, and start spotting symptoms, and then AF comes and it starts all over again.”
This is me exactly- I am 10 dpo and I have so much hope despite telling myself to calm down…
Stellargaze- “I suppose for some of us it's impossible to ever really give up hope.”

I have crazy ‘THIS IS IT’ thoughts and crazy ‘ IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN, LET’S SELL EVERYTHING AND MOVE TO EUROPE’ thoughts all in the same 15 minutes.
I also direct a lot of my crazy feelings at my hubby and I hate it but I can’t seem to stop.
But, just typing this all out has made me feel better so I know I was right to start seeking support in this journey.
Thanks for the thoughtful replies.

 

[Armywife84]

For some reason I still have hope it can happen. But I gave up spot checking months ago.. I even roll my eyes when my period is late. This whole TTC crap has made me cynical.

 

[LTTTCMomOf2]

Ten years and still trying (never could take no for an answer), now I am just more determined than ever and am making a "fertility plan"

 

[Soili]

Oh absolutely! I'm not even ovulating, for all I know, and yet I'm always hoping to take a test randomly and find out I'm pregnant! Sometimes I would intentionally not test and just pretend for a few days I might be pregnant, if I get a teeny bit of symptoms. Every time I go for ultrasound, I'm hoping they'll tell me "here's your baby!" when all I'm prepared to see is bunch of cysts on my ovaries. Absolutely hopelessly hopeful every single time!

 

[dizzyshell]

I know it's nothing compared to ,4,5,6 years LTTc.But me and O/H been TTc 21months and nothing.

I could understand alot more if something was stopping us getting pregnant but ive no problems ando/h has high swimmers .Ive been thru every test and nothing.

So im unexplained i guess , but 5.5yrs ago i got pregnant NTNP and ended in loss but ever since ive been NTNP when in realtionship and no bfp and no bfp 21 months offically .

i own a CBFM always peak and ovulation tests always postive every cycle .I guess im very very lucky not to have issues like some of us lovely ladies.

I dont know how you all cope , have any of you gotpregnant before /ever ???

cuz if ive been pregnant before surely it will happen again or will it ??

big hugs to you all ladies wishing everyone of you a sticky bean xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[babyhope2011]

hi ladies,i know how u feel wweve been trying for nearly 4 years on my 3rd round of clomid, im 4 days late done a test a this morning but bfn,just so fed up! but ive got my appointment 2moro shes referring us 4 ivf so least sumthing happening good luck ladies!x

 

[leax]

Hi I am like u 2 Lizzy wizz get sooooo hopeful and spot signs, I feel so stupid wen the witch arrives and I also feel extra irritable! But then think well next month could be my month I then work out what month the baby would be born (yes just in case!) I feel it kinda keeps me going in a strange way because if I just gave up or didnt care 2 much it defo wudnt happen 4 me I need something to keep me goin

Baby dust 2 all x

 

[lizzywiz]

Keep the hope alive, sweet ladies.
It just happened for me.
After 5 years, who would have thought?

 

[scoobydrlp]

Congrats!!!