Firstly, hello to everyone! I'm a newbie on BnB and loving it so far! Thank you all for making me feel so welcome.
Now, down to the nitty gritty. I've already got 3 kids (girl/boy/girl aged 11/10/7) from my first marriage which ended 5 years ago. I've been with my new partner for 18 months and we're in serious discussions about adding a new team member!
My problem is my parents. I live 200 miles from them, so only see them a few times a year on visits. My mum is absolutely insistant that 3 kids are more than enough and I'd be crazy to have any more, but my body and mind are telling me different. I do have a lot on my plate because my eldest 2 kids are diagnosed with Autism so can be fairly challenging, but that simply doesn't stop me yearning for another child.
Having said that, my OH doesn't have any kids, and he is well and truly aware of how much I want another one, but I have promised to leave the final decision to him whether we go for it or not because it's a much bigger jump to go from childless to a parent than it is from 3 kids to 4 kids... right?
He's spoken to his parents about it and they are totally up for having a grandbaby to add to the mix and have offered to help in any way they can... but there is a small niggling voice inside me that worries how the hell I'm going to tell my Mum I'm expecting if we do decide to TTC.
Help?
Now, down to the nitty gritty. I've already got 3 kids (girl/boy/girl aged 11/10/7) from my first marriage which ended 5 years ago. I've been with my new partner for 18 months and we're in serious discussions about adding a new team member!
My problem is my parents. I live 200 miles from them, so only see them a few times a year on visits. My mum is absolutely insistant that 3 kids are more than enough and I'd be crazy to have any more, but my body and mind are telling me different. I do have a lot on my plate because my eldest 2 kids are diagnosed with Autism so can be fairly challenging, but that simply doesn't stop me yearning for another child.
Having said that, my OH doesn't have any kids, and he is well and truly aware of how much I want another one, but I have promised to leave the final decision to him whether we go for it or not because it's a much bigger jump to go from childless to a parent than it is from 3 kids to 4 kids... right?
He's spoken to his parents about it and they are totally up for having a grandbaby to add to the mix and have offered to help in any way they can... but there is a small niggling voice inside me that worries how the hell I'm going to tell my Mum I'm expecting if we do decide to TTC.
Help?