Does anyone else dread....?

[Armywife84]

It when your friends get married? I mean you're happy that they found someone, buy them a lovely gift from Pottery Barn, but you dread the part of where they start TTC and of course they'll be pregnant before you.

Or your friend who just popped out their #1. You don't really see her since you're struggling with infertility and well she's busy with her new baby (and you two barely have anything in common now, since her baby is her world). Once that baby's first birthday rolls around, you know the next time you see your friend she'll already be knocked up with #2. While you're STILL trying to get your number 1. What's even worse is when they keep on asking you when you're going to start ! We should just have "Infertile" tattooed on our forehead so everyone will shut it!

It's like the only friends that are safe are your single friends ! Unless they get knocked up by a one night stand, or miraculously asexually reproduce ! Rant over.

 

[wonderstars]

Yep.

I like hanging out with the girls where I used to work because many of them are my age and single. It's fun as I don't have to worry about them announcing anything.

I really do miss hanging out with my longtime friends, I must admit. I was sitting here last night feeling bad that I didn't even stay for our last girls day out because I couldn't stop crying when my last girlfriend announced her pregnancy. I have a hunch that my best friend is also pregnant with #2 as I know she wants to have a baby in the Year of the Dragon (Chinese Zodiac Year).

Le Sigh. What else can I say. I need this test done in December so we can either move to clomid with or without IUI or I can finally know if I need to go on to IVF. Maybe I can join all the baby mamas by the end of next year! (I'm trying to inject positivity but I'm not sure I'm convincing myself, lol).

 

[dili]

well..i felled bad when both of my sisters-in-law got pregnant in same time and my cousin too and me, that was trying so long didnt, but i stayed very hopefull when my aunt that was trying since long long time and loose two babies got pregnant...all in same time...

 

[mjemma]

I have taken it one step further recently and begun to get upset when my friends get engaged!! I think it's partly because I know the inevitable steps are marriage and kids but also because they are so happy and have something to celebrate, and I just wish I could have that feeling, instead of everything being tinged with sadness.

 

[Damita]

I worry out of my group of female friends - two already have kids (and are planning their 2nd babies next year) and two are getting married very soon (last two are single), and I am pretty sure they will be TTC afterwards.. I'll just be the one left on the shelf watching everyone else raise their babies

 

[Armywife84]

It sucks because you used to be able to relate to all your friends, but you can't relate to the ones who have children because that's all they talk about. Or they can't go out anymore because they can't find a sitter. Plus they don't know what to say to you.

Then your single ones, don't want to go out with you as much because they don't want to be the third wheel or set up on some awkward blind date. They also have no idea what to say to you about your infertility because they don't even have a boyfriend (or they lack a biological time clock)! So frustrating, feeling alone all the time.

Maybe we should put an ad in the paper for infertile couples that want to meet other infertile couples?

 

[terces]

I do get tired of the "when are you guys going to have kids?" My personal favorite is "you do know how you get pregnant, right?" Gotta love all the ignorant &*$^&* out there. Also when friends tell you. Don't get upset if your not pregnant this month!!!UGH!! I really want to know how someone does that?!? Ok I need to stop venting too. Good luck to all you ladies. Fx'd and prayers for BFP and healthy babies!

 

[wonderstars]

I've been telling everyone we're holding off on TTC because we're planning a big vacation next year.

I'm really hoping that vacation isn't somewhere in the country for IVF!

 

[lovie]

I facebook stalk the people i think are likely to get pregnant soon and look out for signs that they are secretly pregnant... such as feeling tired or sick! also im very happy when i see these friends post things about alcohold such as enjoying a nice glass on wine this friday night as it means they are not pregnant... crazy!

 

[Armywife84]

Hahaha, all I have to do is cruise the home page and there's some damn announcement that majority of my friends have already congratulated on. No stalking required!

 

[Damita]

It sucks because you used to be able to relate to all your friends, but you can't relate to the ones who have children because that's all they talk about. Or they can't go out anymore because they can't find a sitter. Plus they don't know what to say to you.

Then your single ones, don't want to go out with you as much because they don't want to be the third wheel or set up on some awkward blind date. They also have no idea what to say to you about your infertility because they don't even have a boyfriend (or they lack a biological time clock)! So frustrating, feeling alone all the time.

Maybe we should put an ad in the paper for infertile couples that want to meet other infertile couples?

Totally agree with you

maybe we should! I would like that - I know no one off line with fertility issues.. one girl on facebook was complaining that it had been 9 months next week she was preggers.. and has now had her little boy. So it's back to just me

 

[Armywife84]

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IF(infertile) couple seeking friendship with other IF childless couples.

LMAO, I bet we would get people replying that are interested in 4somes!

 

[berki]

I am so with you on this.. and it is SO hard.. I have been through it so many times already ... the dreaded announcement and secretly praying my friend is going to say she is going to wait a year to TTC... it is so hard to see everyone pass you in life and feel like you are avoiding them because you are envious of what they have that you don't... its tough... sigh

 

[Damita]

-------Personal Ads----
IF(infertile) couple seeking friendship with other IF childless couples.

LMAO, I bet we would get people replying that are interested in 4somes!