Does anyone live far from FOB?

[beanzz]

At the moment me and FOB live round the corner from eachother and he see's LO for an hour on a monday and thursday and then alternate Saturday nights...

A city about 3 and a half hours away has taken my fancy for the future (wont be going anywhere soon) does anyone have any experience with making it work with FOB still seeing LO whilst living this kind of distance apart?

obviously i dont want to ruin their bond but moving could mean better job, more money, more affordable houses as everything is ridiculously pricey here. With where i live now being a holiday spot jobs are only seasonal and there's few going each year. im going insane stuck here!

 

[daneuse27]

Yes, my FOB lives very far away from me and LO. Its about a 20-hour drive, or a 4 hour flight. He has seen her once in the past year when he flew up for her first birthday. He calls almost every week, sends money and his love but of course it isn't the same as being nearby. I don't know what the future holds; I would like him closer, but at the same time I would hate to lose my daughter every 2nd weekend if he was just around the corner.

I'm not sure what to suggest in your case. At 3 hours away, I'm not sure what the mode of transportation would be but I'd guess they could probably see each other once a month? You just have to work out what would be best for you guys. Sorry I couldnt be more help!

 

[beanzz]

Wow 20 hour drive is a long way! Thanks for the reply anyway, you're right it does suck not being with LO on his weekend with FOB cos I miss him like crazy but at the same time it's a nice little refreshing break. It'd be horrible the first few times if it did happen but it'd get easier and you'll gradually start to be able to make the most of child free time

Me and FOB both drive and have cars so transport wouldnt be an issue its just figuring out when they'd see eachother :l

Don't know if i'm being mean doing this on purpose instead of people who have no choice :/

 

[Mummy1995]

If you both drive then you could arrange it once every other weekend sat afternoon-Sunday afternoon? Then you could drive half way to meet? So they'd see each other about twice a month? I don't think it's mean if it'll mean a better life for the two of you x

 

[Dream.dream]

My sons dad live 3 hours away . He always came into see my son because it has to be supervised but it was actually better because I didn't want him spending 6 hours a weekend in a car . I use to have to do that to see my dad and it's kind of brutal

Can you get dad to come to where you are to see LO ?

 

[Natsku]

FOB lives about 2 and a half hours drive away. He sees her a lot (officially first and last weekends of the month and the 3rd week but it varies depending on our plans) and sometimes I travel half way to make the journey less for him. She got used to the travelling very quickly.