Me and my girlfriend, who turned 35, about a month ago have been trying to have a baby since last august. Admittedly some of those months we were seperated by long distance have only managed to be together a couple of times around the fertile period. Anyway like everyone here it hasnt happened as soon as expected, so I've been trying to do my research learning about charting, diet and so on; however, I'm now getting this feeling that she is only half-heartedly TTC, which i find a little surprising given her age. For example i am often having to remind her to take a temperature every morning and then its me who is having to compile a proper chart. She isn't doing any reading about how to improve her chances, which dissapoints me when i see the efforts of various women on forums such as these. Sometimes she gets frustrated during intercourse if its taking a long time or gets up soon after rather than lie on a pillow and allow the sperm sufficient time to swim. She is also not making much effort to improve her diet, take vitamins or seek dietary or lifestyle advice from an expert. A few days ago (probably a week after ovulation) we were at someones place for dinner and she had already had a few glasses of cocktail. I don't forbid her to drink in moderation, but on this occasion i told her that she had already had more than enough yet while my back was turned she started another glass. Am I right to be feeling like this? I try not to put too much pressure on her but sometimes i feel like she doesn't care very much and may even be doing harm to a possible child by drinking like this.