dunno what to do

[stevon111]

Hey all and hope your having a good evening.

was kinda a really strange day yesterday when i had to drop faye off and i thought i was going to be abit late so text X gf thinking i was going to be about 10 mins late and got a reply saying (can you text me when your leaving) i decided to ignore it and just just go as soon as i was able to get a lift down there...
i see a car i noticed from the day before parked outside my Xs house and knock on door and X answers and theres some unknown lad sitting in her living room...felt so so awkward i just didnt know what to say i was just so shocked and i didnt know who this person was or anything so i just said hello and that was it.

I want to be really really protective of faye as a father and i have had no explanation of who this person was or anything...i had an agreement with my Xgf that faye would only get introduced to other lads when we were both in quite a serious relationship and ive always let my Xgf get on with her life and ive never interfeared but i HATE that feeling of someone else being around faye who i just dont know or anything
How do you treat someone else you have never seen before? how do you act towards them...i want that person to know im there and im active in fayes life and to respect me for that but i dont want that person to walk all over me by thinking im scared.
just wish my X wouldnt have to tell me to text her so she could have got rid of him or for him to drive round the corner like he did on saturday and hide till im gone....

 

[Ceejay123]

Hmm.. I wonder why she'd do that..

Have you tried asking her? X

 

[fairyflowers]

in all fairness she did ask u to let her know, she may have asked him to leave before the lil one got home

 

[emalou90]

She asked for you to text her before you leave? You probably should have done that. But nevermind!
fact is im sure she's got your daughters best interests at heart, just like all maternal mothers do.

ive made massive mistakes getting into another relationship after a split but i made those mistakes and moved on not ever getting my daughter caught up in it.

try not to worry too much but what harm is there in approaching the subject? NICELY though! xx

 

[teal]

in all fairness she did ask u to let her know, she may have asked him to leave before the lil one got home

Agreed. She could have had every intention of asking him to leave once you had text to say you'd left.

 

[kirsteen]

in all fairness she did ask u to let her know, she may have asked him to leave before the lil one got home

Agreed. She could have had every intention of asking him to leave once you had text to say you'd left.

Yes, but still he is worried about this other man being around his daughter, rather than whether he hid or left. Unless she asked him to leave because LO was coming back? in that case you can see she was thinking about your daughter and being cautious rather than going behind your back x

Seeing as you are both raising your daughter together, even tho your apart, I think you have the right to know who she is around (your LO not your ex) so maybe explain to your ex how you feel about this? and ask her about it.. nicely tho, she also has your LO's best interest at heart x

 

[Ceejay123]

in all fairness she did ask u to let her know, she may have asked him to leave before the lil one got home

Agreed. She could have had every intention of asking him to leave once you had text to say you'd left.

Yes, but still he is worried about this other man being around his daughter, rather than whether he hid or left. Unless she asked him to leave because LO was coming back? in that case you can see she was thinking about your daughter and being cautious rather than going behind your back x

Seeing as you are both raising your daughter together, even tho your apart, I think you have the right to know who she is around (your LO not your ex) so maybe explain to your ex how you feel about this? and ask her about it.. nicely tho, she also has your LO's best interest at heart x

Definitely! He has the right to know who his daughters around. However, his Ex's life is her own life! And vice versa! x

 

[resursval]

Hey all and hope your having a good evening.

was kinda a really strange day yesterday when i had to drop faye off and i thought i was going to be abit late so text X gf thinking i was going to be about 10 mins late and got a reply saying (can you text me when your leaving) i decided to ignore it and just just go as soon as i was able to get a lift down there...
i see a car i noticed from the day before parked outside my Xs house and knock on door and X answers and theres some unknown lad sitting in her living room...felt so so awkward i just didnt know what to say i was just so shocked and i didnt know who this person was or anything so i just said hello and that was it.

I want to be really really protective of faye as a father and i have had no explanation of who this person was or anything...i had an agreement with my Xgf that faye would only get introduced to other lads when we were both in quite a serious relationship and ive always let my Xgf get on with her life and ive never interfeared but i HATE that feeling of someone else being around faye who i just dont know or anything
How do you treat someone else you have never seen before? how do you act towards them...i want that person to know im there and im active in fayes life and to respect me for that but i dont want that person to walk all over me by thinking im scared.
just wish my X wouldnt have to tell me to text her so she could have got rid of him or for him to drive round the corner like he did on saturday and hide till im gone....

I think it was a bit disrespectful of you not to text her when leaving and just show up like that. One could think it was a behavior of either ignorance or control behavior.

You and your ex are entitled to meet whomever you want and hopefully you both care for your daughter and make good decisions...

 

[teal]

in all fairness she did ask u to let her know, she may have asked him to leave before the lil one got home

Agreed. She could have had every intention of asking him to leave once you had text to say you'd left.

Yes, but still he is worried about this other man being around his daughter, rather than whether he hid or left. Unless she asked him to leave because LO was coming back? in that case you can see she was thinking about your daughter and being cautious rather than going behind your back x

Seeing as you are both raising your daughter together, even tho your apart, I think you have the right to know who she is around (your LO not your ex) so maybe explain to your ex how you feel about this? and ask her about it.. nicely tho, she also has your LO's best interest at heart x

I agree that she could let him know who their daughter is around. What I meant was she may have just been seeing him while her daughter was with her father, in which case she wouldnt be around him.

resursval - agree with what you've said!

 

[kirsteen]

in all fairness she did ask u to let her know, she may have asked him to leave before the lil one got home

Agreed. She could have had every intention of asking him to leave once you had text to say you'd left.

Yes, but still he is worried about this other man being around his daughter, rather than whether he hid or left. Unless she asked him to leave because LO was coming back? in that case you can see she was thinking about your daughter and being cautious rather than going behind your back x

Seeing as you are both raising your daughter together, even tho your apart, I think you have the right to know who she is around (your LO not your ex) so maybe explain to your ex how you feel about this? and ask her about it.. nicely tho, she also has your LO's best interest at heart x

I agree that she could let him know who their daughter is around. What I meant was she may have just been seeing him while her daughter was with her father, in which case she wouldnt be around him.

resursval - agree with what you've said!

Oh I see sorry x

 

[Laura2919]

I'd want to talk to her about it if it were me.