ECS with first child... not scared of another c section but petrified of..

[Mum2befirst]

the hospital stay. I did labour till 10cm and had ecs due to undiagnosed breech. i was a trooper when dilating and i felt so relaxed during csection..i also recovered very well and was up doing housework 3 days after, however..the thought of 2 nights in hospital is scaring me i had a dreadful time. my baby was the one crying all night long and i was so tired (due to husband leaving me week before baby was due) i just needed someone to come and help rock my baby so i could sleep as nothing was settling him. I was breastfeeding but dont think milk was coming enough until i got home..i remember lying in bed crying trying to strech to reach my baby and i couldnt get him..and ringing the buzzer and nurses looking at me like i was incompetent. i had only had csection 5pm were they expecting me to get baby out myself?? mmy body was still numb and i was bleeding tons. I was fed up of buzzing to ask someone to change me and my bed and pass me my baby. I really dont no whether to opt for natural birth but my baby was 9lb 3 and i expect another big baby..so im frightened i would end up with a ecs anyway. I de rather it be planned if anything as obviously this time round i have a 3 year old to consider at home x

 

[Mum2befirst]

Did anyone else struggle with the first night in hospital?? x

 

[MrsT2B]

the hospital stay. I did labour till 10cm and had ecs due to undiagnosed breech. i was a trooper when dilating and i felt so relaxed during csection..i also recovered very well and was up doing housework 3 days after, however..the thought of 2 nights in hospital is scaring me i had a dreadful time. my baby was the one crying all night long and i was so tired (due to husband leaving me week before baby was due) i just needed someone to come and help rock my baby so i could sleep as nothing was settling him. I was breastfeeding but dont think milk was coming enough until i got home..i remember lying in bed crying trying to strech to reach my baby and i couldnt get him..and ringing the buzzer and nurses looking at me like i was incompetent. i had only had csection 5pm were they expecting me to get baby out myself?? mmy body was still numb and i was bleeding tons. I was fed up of buzzing to ask someone to change me and my bed and pass me my baby. I really dont no whether to opt for natural birth but my baby was 9lb 3 and i expect another big baby..so im frightened i would end up with a ecs anyway. I de rather it be planned if anything as obviously this time round i have a 3 year old to consider at home x

I could have written your post!!! I also had an ECS with my first LO, was induced, got to 10 cms, pushed for 2 hours and then he got stuck so had to go to theatre. C-section was ok, was very tired but recovery was not to bad.
Hopsital stay however was hideous! I was in a private room (by choice) and like you, had to keep buzzing for help with getting baby, moving etc. I felt like such a burden and was exhausted. I begged them to let my OH stay but they wouldnt.
I honestly hated it and cried the whole night until my OH showed up next morning, I went home the following evening as I couldnt face it there anymore.

This LO - I am scheduled for a planned c-section in 1 week as bubba is breech. I am ok about the section, just dont want to stay in hospital! I have said to my OH that i only want to stay 1 night (assuming all ok) as i also have my 3 year old to think about and dont want to be away from him.

My midwife keeps saying it will be different, make sure you ask for help etc but I am nervous.

Sorry i cant offer any advice but just wanted to let you know i totally understand!

xxxx

 

[mitzee]

With my first night in hospital I felt a nuisance with the buzzer and although probably not advised I just put my little girl on my chest with the bed rails up and both of us got little chunks of sleep - she didn't go in the cot at all. No one came and said we shouldn't etc so it worked for us.

My first baby (born naturally at home) really, really cried her first couple of nights as she was thirsty and my milk hadn't come in - this really upset me. This time round I gave formula and maybe coincidence but she was much more content.

Good luck whichever way you have your baby x

 

[Mum2befirst]

Thankyou for replying both of you.

I tried putting him on my chest as that was the only way he would calm but i got shouted at everytime i felt like a child. I want to breastfeed again but i cant bear the screaming and milk not flowing properly. I no your not supposed to use dummys but when i got home i did and it helped and baby managed to feed fine,,dont no if this is wise in hospital tho?? so nervous

 

[MrsHippo]

Uggh don't even start on the hospital stay. I HATED it. Same as everyone else here.

My surgery was an emergency (also undiagnosed breech after being in labour for over 15 hours). It happened around midnight, went to our room after recovery which was right next to the nurse's station. Come 2:30, my OH was practically thrown out so hardly had any time with his newborn daughter. At first, when Beau cried the nurses came in and passed her over to me but then once the shifts were passed over to the day staff I had to keep pressing the buzzer for them to pass Beau. At this point I could feel my legs ect but was in quite a bit of pain (they were tight on the painkillers!!). So that annoyed me. My OH wasn't allowed back in until 10am then was thrown out again at 8pm. The second night I had to do everything myself, was in loads of pain still. All they'd give me was paracetamol and some other tablet. It wasn't very strong though. I had to keep asking for liquid morphine. That night was awful though, I hadn't slept at all the night before and wasn't getting any sleep the second. I was BF but I was so exhausted I physically couldn't do it. I felt horrible, I was crying my eyes out and called a midwife. Asked her to sooth Beau for me as I went to the toilet. Then when I came back, decided to give her formula. I was literally pouring my eyes out while feeding her because I felt so bad for doing it and all I wanted was my partner. The next day I asked to go home. I couldn't stay there any longer. I needed sleep and while I was there I certainly wasn't getting any. Even in the day when my OH was there!! Everytime I'd go to drop off, someone would come in!!

Labour was fine, I think I could have gone through it naturally without any problems. I was so angry that no one had realised Beau was breech. The hospital stay was defo the worst part of it all. NEVER AGAIN!!

 

[hulagirl]

My stay was pretty much the same
I had emergency section do to baby not being happy after 3 day labour and not dilating past 7cm.
Csection went fantastically but on the ward omg
They wheeled me down at 2am waking everyone else up and basically left me to it.
I buzzed the first time for 20 min and no-one came so I shuffled over to get little one, I managed to manoeuvre the bed to a height that brought me to same height as bassinet. The only time I saw a nurse was when they came to give me and lo medication.
I was lucky I had my mum and oh during the day.
Also a trainee mw came to see me everyday whilst I was in there to ee how I was doing (she was with me during me labour) she was fab.
I was not breastfeeding and they didn't help one bit (all the other women were breast feeding and as soon as they buzzed got help, none had a c section)
I was in for 3 nights as bubs had severe jaundice and had photo therapy due to blood condition
in the end I had an arguement with the head nurse and they let me out (lo was doing well by then)
This time round I am hoping as its an elective section I am only going to bein 1 night, am just praying this lo doesn't have the same blood disorder, as I will go crazy spending another 3 nights in there and away from my first lo.
This is a very brief description of what happened I didn't want to go to in depth and bring back lots of memories I am trying not to think about. Xx