Egg sharing - Anyone done it or have considered it?

[Springflower]

My OH and I have been told we should go down the ICSI route. I've started researching this and have found out about egg sharing. I understand if I donated some of my eggs I would get a free cycle in return. I'm really not sure how I feel about it. I'd love to hear from anyone who has done it or considered doing it. I'm looking for postives and negative to help me make a decision.

 

[Starbright]

Hi chick
I may not be much help, but I have considered egg sharing recently - my hubby suggested it to me. But I'm not sure if I could so it. I've heard stories of people who've had negative treatments and then found out that the recipient had a bfp. Personally, I'm not sure if I could cope with that. But, if you're waiting for a donor it must be wonderful to find out that someone is willing to share.
Have you checked out Fertilityfriends.co.uk? They have a forum devoted to donors and recipients. It might help to have a read on there.
Good luck whatever you decide to do
Hopefully someone will be able to give you a better reply!
xxx

 

[Springflower]

Thanks Starbright

This was going round my head a lot last night, I think I'm coming to the same conclusion as you. In theory I think its a wonderful idea but I'm not sure I could cope with the emotional side.

I will have a look at Fertilityfriends.co.uk as well though.

Good luck with everything, we'll get there in the end!

 

[hayley1982]

ive done 3 lots of egg sharin at the lister in london.it is one of the best clinics in london.i have no regrets for doing it and im happy i have helped 3 ladies out there and have given away nearly 30 of my eggs.my 1st cycle bfn,2nd bfp but mc at 6+6 and 3rd cycle i had our twin boys who are just over 20months old.im normally a poster on fertilityfriends.co.uk and there are alot of nice ladies to chat to on there ) if you want to know who i am on there msg me on here so i can give you my user name )

 

[HopeSprings]

I haven't done egg sharing, but I did donate eggs twice before meeting DH. I was looking into adoption as a single mom because I wanted kids no matter what! Donating felt right for me. I got to help two families create the babies they wanted. It also kinda feels like my genes are out there somewhere. One woman had twins, and the other conceived a single. Now we are TTC with no luck, but at least I can really empathize with the couples I got to help! I would go back and do it again in a heartbeat.

 

[CurlySue]

I have considered it. I did think that it might be something I'd done but then I tried to accept the fact that a child that was biologically mine might be walking around whilst I don't have a biological child of my own.

That's always been my sticking point. What if it didn't work for me but it worked for the lady I shared my eggs with? she'd have my child. I wouldn't. I can't handle that.

 

[Oneday]

The other thing to consider is hope I'm right in saying this can he/she come and find you when they are 18? That may open a whole new can of worms x

 

[HopeSprings]

I don't believe that's the case in the U.S., at least not egg donation

 

[Oneday]

Ah maybe not but definately the case in the uk. Before my ivf I thought about donating any frozen embryos I may not use but didn't really think about the implication. Has it happens we had nothing to freeze anyway. Good luck with whatever you decide x