Embarrassing Pregnancy Problems - Advice Needed

[Bella B]

Hello! I am a regular user on here, but I am so embarrassed by these issues I want to talk about that I have created a new account.

I have 2 problems that are really embarrassing and I want some advice from someone who might have been in the same situation. Warning that this post is very TMI.

First Problem: I am currently 25 weeks pregnant and it's my first pregnancy. For much of the pregnancy I haven't had much of a sex drive. However as of recent weeks I have been more interested. However the problem is that every time DH and I have tried to DTD, it has been a really bad experience. We DTD a couple of times in the first trimester, and it was OK. These days though it's really a struggle. The problem is that my vagina just feels so swollen and so tender inside that the friction feels bad and even painful around the entrance. And there is such a limited range of motion that DH can explore without hurting me that it's not so enjoyable for him. I feel like we can never find a comfortable position that we are both happy with and I feel like, despite all the weird discharge I have, it's sticky instead of slippery and when we're DTD I am not producing all the same stuff I did before, so no matter how much lube we use, it's always too dry. This is all very frustrating. If I persevere, I end up stinging and sore. I'm kind of weird and I've never been really turned on or interested in "other" things than just conventional sex in the bedroom, so although I am willing to explore, I don't feel like that would be a great solution for the next several months. DH isn't pressuring me, although I am pretty sure he's a bit disappointed and was expecting we had the time in the pregnancy before the birth and baby when sex would be hard to come by. Not to mention I'm frustrated myself. If anyone has been in this situation and has any advice, I'd be thankful.

Second Problem: I've been having a lot of digestive problems with this pregnancy and for the first time in my life I have a pile. It's not a super-serious as of yet; I only notice a bit of pain when I am having a big BM or if I touch it, but I know they can become very painful so I'd like to get it resolved while it's non-serious if possible. If anyone has any recommendations that are safe for pregnancy, I'd also be very happy to hear them.

Thank you for listening, ladies!

 

[broodymrs]

Don't be embarrassed!

I have piles and am using germaloid cream. It's safe to use in pregnancy and is working.

For the friskiness issue 😉 I'm swollen down there too. We don't dtd when I'm pregnant for numerous reasons so my suggestion would be just do foreplay and/or solo fun 😊

 

[Lalaloopsie]

Creams didn't work for me, I got a bottle of witch hazel and soaked a cotton pad in it and left it on there over night, massive improvement x

 

[justplay91]

Unfortunately there's not much I can recommend for the swollen lady bits. That's an unfortunate part of DTD while pregnant for me. User lots of water based lube (oil tends to get sticky) and go slow. That's about it!
I also get hemorrhoids (piles) and they always go away several months after birth for me. I use dermoplast (the non-antiseptic kind), which is a spray they will give you after birth, if they get really painful. Usually they don't. You are also allowed to take some stool softeners (my doctor recommends Colace) to try and nip it in the bud. Keep in mind it may not make much of a difference, since the pressure of pregnancy and birth will give you piles anyway. Hopefully yours go away like mine always do!