Emotions - seeing other people sad

[lightweight]

I was at the hospital for my 23 week (at 22 week though) doppler scan as I'm on heparin today plus appointment with consultant. All was fine, but whilst in waiting room, I saw a lady coming out of the recurrent miscarriage scan room crying and I really struggled to control my emotions. Watching that poor lady go through the pain reminded me of coming out of the scan at my first pregnancy loss and it really got to me. I didn't want to cry as I knew I was having BP taken etc soon and didn't think it would help, but I just felt so sad for her.

Just wanted to share.

 

[hb1]

Empathy can be a very strong thing when you have lived it.

hx

 

[SugarFairy]

Poor lady

 

[kanga]

 

[heva510]

I remember same happening at Epu I want to hug the poor woman I ended up walkin outside and crying x x x

 

[Blondie007]

I had this happen too. I started crying for the poor lady. The thought of other people having to go through what I did, breaks my heart.

 

[seaview24]

hi know how she feels

 

[goddess25]

Its tough. I remember with my DS i had a previous mc and was bleeding really heavily i was at the epu and waiting to be scanned and feared the worst.... I had my scan all was well and then a girl i worked with came out with her husband crying, her baby had sadly died a few weeks earlier and they were taking her to the OR for a D&C. I felt so sad for her and elated for me at the same time and I remember feeling guilty. We have all been there and know how these women are feeling and its pretty powerful to know that.

 

[secretbaby]

I lost my son shortly after prem birth. I was in day unit a few weeks ago and they brought someone in who was just over 24 weeks pregnant and after she got there it was realised something was very wrong, and then it was realised she was just about to have her baby - it was awful they were telling her not to push as they had no ressus stuff there - and I heard the mother begging them to save her baby asking the same questions I did. They rushed her off to delivery and the midwife did find out for me that the baby survived but was on ventilation in NICU and I know that doesn't mean everything was going to be good. (I like to believe it was though)

I was really upset as I know exactly how she was feeling - and I was on bp monitoring! so mine went sky high - they gave me a cup of tea and started it again.

It was like reliving my loss - and then I felt guilt as it shouldn't have been about me.
It is so very hard when you know what they are going through.

I HATE the fact that people have to have scans that tell bad news in the same place as they people who are having scans when everything is o.k. I know they can't do anything else but it seems so cruel.

 

[Rabbittchild]

I would agree our EPU is in a small separate room - all glass walls and to get to it you have to walk past all these lovely pregnant ladies waiting for scans or for antenatal clinic. It's so hard walking out of there trying hard not to cry when you've had bad news. I wish they would move our EPU but sadly I know it's not feasible. I'd like to believe there are one or two ladies that see me coming out after bad news and know how I might be feeling (not that i'd wish a mc on anyone but ykwim).