Enlightenment about TTC Daddy's to be..

[NeyNey]

I'm a little peeved off at myself right now


Yesterday I found a baby item at a reduced sale price. Not just $10 dollars off, it was actually 75% off, saving almost $200.
I wanted to get it, but DH got a bit stroppy. So I left it alone and we went home.
I was a bit annoyed as it is something we will definitely need.
When I confronted him about it he blurted out with "Well what if we never get pregnant?
It's not looking promising is it?"
oh girls I was so crushed....I didn't know how to respond, I just started at him.
He is my biggest TTC supporter, I think sometimes wanting a baby more than me.
To hear this from him was so heartbreaking. He started to appologise instantly and went on
to tell me he was feeling very defeated. He thought our family would have been well and truly
started by now and he's starting to feel like he'll never been a dad. It was a real eye opener.
I always knew that I went through those fazes, but I kind of forgot about the good old solid as a rock DH.
I never realised that he went through them too. I always drag him along to visit friends newborns,
or drag him shopping to the baby sales...He always smiled and coo'ed at all the adorable items.
Not once did I think that his heart was breaking inside like mine....I felt so awful and angry at myself for
not thinking of him before.. I just held him for the longest time while we both had a little cry...
It brings tears to my eyes to remember it...It has definitely bought us closer together..
and I know that I will share my feelings with him more, and hope he does that same to me...

God bless those men of ours..

 

[wishes]

bless him hun... think we prob all need to remember our men a bit more!

 

[miel]

oh neyney...you have one of the best DH i am glad you have a great communication .I do to with mind .You are a strong couple and you will be a strong family very soon

 

[Vickie]

I think it's easy to forget that our OH's go through a lot of the same emotions that we do, they just don't always show it

 

[Samo]

oh sweetie bless the both of you, that really brought a tear to my eye. I do hope that all this waiting and trying you two are going through, that you will be blessed with a miracle someday. Never give up hope I am cheering for you!

 

[diva4180]

aw hun it's very easy to forget sometimes, but it's good you talked it out, it will only make you even stronger. You're very lucky to have one another.

 

[Arcanegirl]

NeyNey

 

[Mervs Mum]

Bless you both darling. Glad you're seeing it as a positive thing - I would too.

 

[dreamer]

Oh Neyney

I know what you mean though, I have often said or done things that I would never of thought DH would care or think about himself but how wrong I have been in the past.

The other day DH and I were joking around with each other, I jabbed him in the ribs and joked come this Christmas he'll be 35 and I'll be 30, we then had another discussion about how nice it would be if we had a human addition ( I'm mad on animals!) or at least one in the oven ( as DH put it ) by Christmas. I got a little worried about whether I can actually conceive but never told DH instead just got edgey. The reason I got worried is because we have close friends who tried to conceive for 10 years they did get pregnant once but miscarried Now they have gone done the IVF route and pleased to say they are expecting next month Anyway these friends of ours have always been healthy eaters do excercise and look after themselves but had those troubles, which made me think I'm no where near as healthy as them, I'm chubby and do do excercise, but probably not enough.

Anyway to cut a long story short hubby had the exact same worries as me about him, but I never stopped to think a man would be worried about his fertility, I don't know why!

 

[Rumpskin]

Dont be too hard on yourself lovely. Sounds like you have a fab hubby.

 

[SwissMiss]

Oh NeyNey... That really touched a cord w/ me as well. My DH's nickname in German is "murgu"... there's no good translation, but it basically means someone who NEVER shows emotion or feeling. Ever. So I know how it is to be able to become completely ignorant that ttc affects our men too... Bless you both!

 

[polo_princess]

Aww twinkle, we seem to forget what the men go through in this whole process. We whinge and moan but they can be so supportive.

 

[jo27]

Aw hun, it must be so frustrating for you both after trying for so long as suppose he's just finding it really disappointing like you say you don't imagine you're going to come across these problems until you start trying. Give him a bit of TLC, you will get there one day xxx

 

[genkigemini]

I have done that to my DH as well. I have said how upset I am and he always listens but not too long ago he asked me, "How do you think I feel?" I felt awful. I guess this just shows us how much our men love us and wish for a family with us, right?

Don't worry. I am confident that we will both have our BFP too!!!