Exhausted, no $ for IVF, nothing else to try, anyone else?

[valoredei]

We don't at the moment and probably for a while have $ for IVF but have been trying for #2 for 2.5 yrs. I'm 29 dh is 31. I've had laparoscopy and got the all clear. 5 rounds of Clomid, one year of progesterone, and HCG shot that failed. Anyone else strapped for cash and feeling helpless?

 

[Mikihob]

I am in the same boat. We are completely broke. We spent money on an IUI last month and have to this month. DH is working tons and tons of overtime to compensate for all the baby stuff. It's exhausting for him and for me.

We are doing IUI# 4 this month or early next and after that are completely done. We are too broke. We need to save, save, save in the hopes that we can afford an IVF. We have thought about fertility grants, loans, programs, etc. We are wary about adding a new monthly bill. UGH. So frustrating!

Sorry you are dealing with this issue. I wish more companies and insurance companies offered fertility coverage. I should move to a state that mandates coverage.

How are you doing today?

 

[babyvaughan]

Dec marks 4 years of TTC for #1, I just had a lap done to remove scar tissue that had been cutting off my uterus, tubes, ovaries, and intestine's. It can grow back rapidly. First cycle BFN this is my second cycle of TTC since. Praying I get it this time otherwise doc said due to what he saw in there with my scarying IVF is our only hope! :/ Its so hard. IVF would require us waiting like another year and half possibly two years!

 

[Mikihob]

babyvaughan I am so sorry about the scarring. I hope that you can pregnant soon. We would have to wait probably close to the same so we could save enough money. I created a donations page with GoFundMe for IVF donations, BUT I haven't gotten anything from anyone I know. I lady on BnB gave me a donation, but no family or "friends" that I know. It was heartbreaking realizing that no matter what, we had to do it ourselves.

You should set up a page and see if you can get some donations. Post it on Facebook and send it to relatives and just tell everyone for birthday's and Christmas NO PRESENTS- just give us money on our donations page.

 

[babyvaughan]

I just recently shared it with my mom, but I have kept my issues really private. A few friends are aware but my family is very judgmental so I haven't opened up. We aren't married yet but will be next year so at that point I think we will share, his family is aware but only my mom on my side. I'm going to ask my OB monday if IUI is something we could try or if it wont work cause of my issues. It's just so illustrating that I ovulate, I have normal periods every 28 days, my eggs are good everything that needs to be is just damn scar tissue is ruining it all! They are trying to pass a law here for infertility coverage to be mandatory I hope it passes because that could change everything!

 

[Mikihob]

I just recently shared it with my mom, but I have kept my issues really private. A few friends are aware but my family is very judgmental so I haven't opened up. We aren't married yet but will be next year so at that point I think we will share, his family is aware but only my mom on my side. I'm going to ask my OB monday if IUI is something we could try or if it wont work cause of my issues. It's just so illustrating that I ovulate, I have normal periods every 28 days, my eggs are good everything that needs to be is just damn scar tissue is ruining it all! They are trying to pass a law here for infertility coverage to be mandatory I hope it passes because that could change everything!

I hope it passes. I think every state should be required to provide infertility coverage. It's annoying having an insurance company that pays for fertility treatments but work for a company that won't include them in the covered treatments.

Where is the scar tissue? If you have scar tissue in your uterus it could prevent proper implantation. If your uterus is fine, you are ovulating and OH has good sperm an IUI might help. It can bypass the scar tissue and get right to the uterus. Having regular periods and always knowing when you will ovulate makes the IUI easier and cheaper cause you won't need constant monitoring to track the ovulation.

 

[Bkrispy]

I saved for most of my 8 years of marriage for IVF. I lost both of my fallopian tubes early in the marriage due to ectopics.
I was there though- I don't have many comforting words, just that I know the frustration.
He left early this year, hes off playing daddy to a new woman and her kids. So obviously I am no longer trying at all... and with only my income (he took NONE of the bills but over half the income) I am barely keeping my head above water. So saving for the future is out of the question.
Like I said though, I spent a long long time in the not trying time frame. Saving to try. Hoping to try someday... it's terrible. I never got to try, so I can't say it's worse than getting a chance and failing. But I always wondered what that would be like, don't lose hope.
It's easy to hang on to hope when you are going through treatments, because even if you try and fail every time you are doing something that can produce results, but the waiting period is trying too- because you're not doing anything that seems productive.
If I were back in those shoes, I'd take a couple years, try your best to save as much as you can.
Work on your credit- get rid of any monthly bills or loans. Try to pay off your cars/personal loans, credit cards.
THis way- if you don't save enough, getting a medical loan will be more realistic.

 

[Bkrispy]

OH! and babyvaughan be careful. The woman above me recommended IUI, and that's great if it works, but if your uterus is fine, and you already mentioned it on your tubes.
Just be careful.
Ectopic is the worst. Worst pain ever emotionally and physically. I'd rather cut my own finger off with a steak knife than do that again, and the hospitals here wouldn't do anything! They just kind of said "well, we don't do that kind of surgery you need to book something with your OB"
both times, I was almost dead by the time they finally got me under the knife. Only for them to act like it was nothing, just like removing tonsils or something... ugh. If I knew then what I know now, I would not have tried to get pregnant at all until I had an all clear from a very skilled surgeon.

 

[babyvaughan]

I just went to OB again now 2.5 mo post op. My scar tissue is everywhere but on the outside of it all. I mean my ovaries, uterus, tubes, and intestines covered with thick dense scarring. They could only see my uterus at first til they started cutting. My OB said IVF is the only option for me because of it being on my tube's is stopping my egg from traveling down. She said the inside of my uterus looks great so I shouldn't have any issues with IVF. They did remove some scarring but she said it will keep growing back, and I can feel it already has because of the pains I get. ;/ We plan to do IVF in a little over a year from now if our finance's allow. My in laws are offering to save to help us so hopefully by two years it can happen! If god doesn't bless us with a miracle before!

 

[Ilovetomatoes]

Hi there,

I recently stumbled upon this site: https://www.affordingivf.com/2012/12/15/ivf-grants/

It lists multiple grants available for people who need help for IVF procedure. I am not associated with any of them. I am just a BnB user who is also going through IVF and understand how expensive it can be. But, you'll do what needs to be done to have a baby or two (hopefully) .

I hope that site can help anyone who needs help to go through IVF. Good luck ladies!

 

[Bkrispy]

I am in the same boat. We are completely broke. We spent money on an IUI last month and have to this month. DH is working tons and tons of overtime to compensate for all the baby stuff. It's exhausting for him and for me.

We are doing IUI# 4 this month or early next and after that are completely done. We are too broke. We need to save, save, save in the hopes that we can afford an IVF. We have thought about fertility grants, loans, programs, etc. We are wary about adding a new monthly bill. UGH. So frustrating!

Sorry you are dealing with this issue. I wish more companies and insurance companies offered fertility coverage. I should move to a state that mandates coverage.

How are you doing today?

Alaska?
I grew up there, moved away at 19. Anchorage though... fairbanks is beautiful too.
Do you even have a clinic there that does IVF? OR do you have the added expense of going to WA for treatment? Sorry if that's a rude question