Ex's rights

[LegoHouse]

My ex is on my daughters birth certificate. I'm aware that this means he has equal rights? But I look after her all week. He sees her for 24 hours 3 times a month.

If I request to have time off school during term time, and he disagrees, can he stop it going through even if the school agree? She's only 4.

 

[lemontree12]

i think he can, from what i gather, you are both equal with choices. when i was asking my fob to be on my daughters bc, my friend told me its prob best he isnt, as he has full rights when choosing schools, leaving the country etc.

im only guessing but if he has doubts and phones the school, then mayb they will rethink their decision. im only going by what i think and what iv been told.

hope this helps

 

[LegoHouse]

We're not leaving the country and she has no legal need to be at school Ahh x

 

[lemontree12]

what you mean no legal requirement, sorry im abit dumb sometimes.

 

[LegoHouse]

Yeah, until the term after she is 5 she doesn't legally have to be there.

 

[lemontree12]

then if theres no law saying she has to be there, then no i wouldnt think he has a say. is he trying to say otherwise?

 

[LegoHouse]

He's saying he can call them and they can make me not take her?

 

[lemontree12]

unless the school states that no holidays taken during school holidays, i couldnt imagine he had a leg to stand on.

 

[LegoHouse]

I'll speak with them tomorrow. I've calmed down now. If he makes me have to re-arrange then so be it. I'll still be the one waking up with her on her birthday

 

[Ceejay123]

i think he can, from what i gather, you are both equal with choices. when i was asking my fob to be on my daughters bc, my friend told me its prob best he isnt, as he has full rights when choosing schools, leaving the country etc.

im only guessing but if he has doubts and phones the school, then mayb they will rethink their decision. im only going by what i think and what iv been told.

hope this helps

I always found this very odd? Does that mean that if your ex disagrees with your school choice, or holiday location he can stop you from taking your child or sending your child there? I know they have a say in medical decisions if they're on the birth certificate, but surely he'd have to have a reason about the school or holiday? X

 

[Bundle of joy]

The dad always has almost the same rights as you if he's on the birth certificate I have herd. Hope everything goes ok for you xx

 

[LegoHouse]

He can have all the rights he wants but if I'm not breaking the law why should he be able to over rule my decision to go on holiday? I don't think he can

 

[Bundle of joy]

He can have all the rights he wants but if I'm not breaking the law why should he be able to over rule my decision to go on holiday? I don't think he can

I totally Agree with you, I'd just go and not tell him, not like your leaving the country xx

 

[Ceejay123]

Can they stop you leaving the country for holidays??. Seems ott x

 

[LegoHouse]

I'm not leaving the country anyway we're only going to Skegness lol x

 

[Bundle of joy]

Why would he have a problem with that? That would be nice for your kids! Xx

 

[LegoHouse]

Because it's in term time. Even though she's only 4 she is in full time school. It just isn't a legal requirement. He thinks I shouldn't take her out of school. The school have said it's fine and there's nothing he can do about it as neither they or I are breaking the law!

 

[Ceejay123]

It sounds as though he's just trying to be picky and put his foot down to show his rights. He's not thinking about your daughter at all.. x