Extremely Upset With My Doctor! >:(

[Dottiee]

Hey ladies, this is more a vent than anything but it's warranted.

I'm so upset with my doctor. He's making this a WAY longer process than it has to be!

I've been TTC for 24 months, and my cycles have always lasted 4-7 months.

Here's what's happened so far,

1. Send me to get my blood done for Prenatals only

2. Sends me for more blood work, non-hormonal, and said we'd do the PAP next time. Blood work comes back fine.

3. No PAP. Refers me to an OB/GYN, who's soonest appointment isn't for 7 months. He also sends me for a US, which comes back fine.

4. Mention I haven't had a period in 6 months. He recommends I book a PAP (are you kidding me? I've already booked 2). So I book a PAP.

5. I go in to see him and I'm CD 15, AF finally showed. I mention I had a faint but clearly visible BFP 3 days before AF. HE FREAKES OUT. Tells me he can't do the PAP and tells me I may still be pregnant (I know I'm not). He sends me for a US (again), prenatal blood work (again), and HCG blood test. I also noticed on the requisition that's he's getting my testosterone tested? I don't know why.

This has been over the span of almost a year, since his next available appointments are always months away.

Now I'm just waiting for the call to tell me when my ultrasound appointment is. Last time I didn't get that call for a week, and the appointment wasn't for another 3 weeks.

I'm dying to get everything out of the way for when I see my OB/GYN so we can move on to the next steps, but my doctor is making that impossible. With the 7 month wait to get this initial OB/GYN appointment (which is Dec 3rd), I don't want to have to keep going back to him and waiting, for things my doctor could have done.

I'm so frustrated and 100% done running around in circles. I want some answers or at least be working towards answers!

Anyway, thanks for reading. I really needed to get that off my chest.
Am I over reacting? Or is my doctor being a complete D-bag?

Edit: When the doctor freaked about the BFP he literally said, "You could have conceived twins and your body could have rejected one. This would cause what looks like a period but it's actually the aborted fetus expelling. You may still have a viable fetus!"

I know he's trying to be cautious but he sounds like a nut job.. Freaking out over the least likely scenario.

 

[Myshelsong]

Hi, that is super frustrating.

I know family Drs are few and far between in Cambridge, but why dont you go to another Doctor? Even going to a clinic and trying to see if their Drs have any openings etc.
It sounds like he is really taking his sweet time with this for no reason and I would just keep pushing for test. You are already on a referral list so what is the harm in shopping around for another Dr in the mean time to get the REAL blood work done (Day 3 and 21 of cycle to confirm hormone levels) and see if they can do some tests while you await the referral.

Wish you lots of luck.

 

[Dottiee]

Hi, that is super frustrating.

I know family Drs are few and far between in Cambridge, but why dont you go to another Doctor? Even going to a clinic and trying to see if their Drs have any openings etc.
It sounds like he is really taking his sweet time with this for no reason and I would just keep pushing for test. You are already on a referral list so what is the harm in shopping around for another Dr in the mean time to get the REAL blood work done (Day 3 and 21 of cycle to confirm hormone levels) and see if they can do some tests while you await the referral.

Wish you lots of luck.

He was supposed to retire last month, but decided to stay for just a few more. Once he retires, he's going to be replaced and hopefully that doctor is a lot better.

 

[Myshelsong]

I seriously hope the next person understands the how important this is for you.
Fingers crossed for you.