eyeopener

[LTEx]

for some reason, this weekend has been a complete eyeopener for me. I've decided to change my whole way of thinking & its all cos i've had some 'me' time over the weekend to realise i haven't been the best parent i could be..

I've realised i need to stop being so hard on jayden & be more rewarding towards the good things he does i think the main thing that will help me be a better parent will be to try & stay calm & positive, which is a little hard to do being a stay at home mam & a single one at that hehe

So ladies, what helps you stay calm? Me time? Certain way of thinking? Or is it just me whats the only one who's wound up 24/7

 

[Sophie1205]

I know how you feel hun. I find I get very stressy and wound up with Leo quite easily. Having "me" time definitely helps. Whenever LO goes to his Dad's, make the most of your time! Do whatever you need to do around the house, see friends, go out and relax most importantly. I find whenever I've had that time away from LO I feel totally refreshed and start to deal with things better. It's just maintaining that feeling. I'll be watching this thread because I'm trying to think of other ways to keep my cool with Leo xxx

 

[LTEx]

i definitely need to find a way on keeping calm & a clear head aswell! Because if i stay like this jayden will no doubt pick up on it & thats last thing i need. I've done well today, whether thats cos its the 1st day of me thinking differently & seeing things in a different light, i dont know. Just hope i keep it up

& thats all i seem to do when he's at his dads, bloody housework never ending when you have a child even when they're not there lol xx

 

[LTEx]

i definitely need to find a way on keeping calm & a clear head aswell! Because if i stay like this jayden will no doubt pick up on it & thats last thing i need. I've done well today, whether thats cos its the 1st day of me thinking differently & seeing things in a different light, i dont know. Just hope i keep it up

& thats all i seem to do when he's at his dads, bloody housework never ending when you have a child even when they're not there lol xx

 

[Sophie1205]

Yep!! Housework is all I ever bloody do too Yeah I've been okay so far today. Leo's at pre-school now but we had a very calm morning. Let's hope it continues for both of us haha xx

 

[LTEx]

aww what hours does he do? Does he see the dad at all? Jaydens been well behaved today until naptime then it was 'dont wanna sleep, ive pooed, need a wee, im hungry, wanna drink' haha basicaly anything to stop himm having a nap Xx

 

[Sophie1205]

Just 3 hours a day Aww bless him, it's amazing the way they can manage to get out of doing things isn't it? Well, we had a pretty bad day to be honest. He wet himself 3 times even though he's been potty trained for 5 months. But I've made him a reward chart tonight to see if it helps at all. Yeah he sees his Dad He stays with his dad every other weekend and then sometimes in between if his Dad asks to see him. What about Jayden?? xxx

 

[LTEx]

sees him once a week for 4-6 hours, no set day as ex works .. He stayed at his weekend just gone but only 2nd weekend he's ever had him its not a regular thing

Aww no mmight just be having an off day with the accidents hun .. Jaydens been abit of a git today aswell! I put some right effort into jaydens reward chart reminds me i need to get him a new book for getting more stickers ha!

He's been in bed since 8pm & im still up & goin in his room every 2 mins to put him back in bed as he keeps sleepin on the floor xx

 

[Sophie1205]

Awww bless him! Maybe he's comfy on the floor haha! Leo has been in bed since 7pm and I've been in about 5 times to him crying saying he's cold even though the heating is on and he's obviously got his vest, PJ's and quilt on :s
Aw do you do books for rewards? I've not decided what the reward will be yet. Only something small after he gets 12 stickers....one sticker for every time he uses the toilet. Hopefully this will stop the peeing on my bloody floor! xxx