Family is going a bit wack!

[Landingmach3]

So my mum and I have started to tell my aunts and cousins and such that I am pregnant. I am overseas so she does most of the telling and then calls me to tell me what happened. Well my family has been supportive but a few odd things have happened. First of all, when my mum told my cousin, she cried! My cousin got pregnant at 20 and now has a 6 year old son. She said "Nooo, why did that happen? It'll be too much! It'll all just be too hard for her!" And that made me feel awful. If she is saying that after 6 years...boah! And the other weird thing...one of my aunties said she wants to have a chat with me when I get back to the states about talking me out of having baby....she said it'll simply be too hard for me to handle. So she wants me to give it up for adoption. I've already made up my mind for goodness sakes! Baby will be mine and I will raise her/him. If my mom can accept it why can't my auntie? The last thing is- my mum won't tell my dad's mum! She is afraid she will go loonie and have a flip fit. She wants to wait til I get back to the states....the day I get off the plane and take me to my gram's house and just show her! How appalling! I can't seem to talk my mum out of it either..... Sorry for the long rant

 

[nikky0907]

Ok,your AUNT has no business in your pregnancy.You told her because she is still your aunt,but talking you into putting your baby for adoption?! This doesn't concern her at all and was very rude in my opinion.

You cousin I can understand.I mean,she had a baby young she knows that it will be hard and is simply looking out for you.But once you get a chance you should explain to her that it has already happened,your mind is set and you are gonna have a baby.

As for your grandma,well would you telling her be that bad?
Chin up babe...you'll be back in the states soon...

 

[Landingmach3]

20 more days tomorrow until the flight...I like Germany but I'm sick of it : )

 

[Younglutonmum]

The whole extended family finding out is a nighmare when you're young isn't it??

I personally think it would be wrong to turn up at your nans door with a bump & say SURPRISE!! If you're mum isn't willing to tell her over the phone or what have you then I think you need to do the adult thing & call her yourself to break the news. My nan found out about my pregnancy through my cousin & was quite upset that me or my mum hadn't told her ourselves. A month later she passed away. Life's too short to keep secrets from loved ones especially secrets that should be out in the open & celebrated regardless of your age!!

As for your cousin being upset please don't take it too mean life as a young mum is awful. She's probably upset because she knows how hard it can be at times & as her little cousin she doesn't want to see you struggle. I'm sure she'll support you 100%!!

And finally, your aunty. As you've said your mind is made up & you'll be bringing up your bubs. Just stand firm on this & i'm sure in time she'll be fine with it

to you & bump xxx

 

[Serene123]

My family were suprisingly alright with it. Shocked to start with. Sorry they're acting like that. Seriously, you just need to tell them to get stuffed!

 

[Landingmach3]

My family were suprisingly alright with it. Shocked to start with. Sorry they're acting like that. Seriously, you just need to tell them to get stuffed!

I've been a bit cheeky since I got pregnant so I just might....lol

 

[TashaAndBump]

I expect that once they get used to the idea, and get it into their heads that there's nothing they can do about it - you are having a baby! - they will calm down and become a bit more supportive. Until then, you have your mum and all of us for support! Big Take care x

 

[xarlenex]

I think your gran might appreciate it, if you tell her before you show up with a bump. Its a bit much to just chap the door and show her, in my opinion.

As for the rest of your family, they can always have their opinions, but thats all they are in the end. My dad tried the whole talking me out of it thing. Although he wanted me to have an abortion. It is completely your life at the end of the day xx

 

[polo_princess]

Blimey you got a bit of a random mixed reaction there!! To be honest i think by the time you actually get back the idea will have sunk into their heads a bit and they probably wont be as harsh as what they were initially like.

Not that its anyone elses business why/when/how/where you decide to have a baby hun!!