Family issues . . . :(

[Lydiarose]

Hiya im lydie ive been posting on first trimester for a while now but thought id pop over here say hello and ask for some advice,
Me and dan have been keeping this pregnancy to ourselves sinse the begining,Im 12 weeks now had our first scan yesterday. (Beautiful!!)
Because i am so so scared well we both are of being judged on it the last time i fell pregnant none of my family belived we could cope or dans and they really looked down on us.And tried there best to get me to have an abortion (they gave me all the mumbo jumbo about living your life first etc and that i couldnt cope) sadly it ended in MC.

So this time we decided to keep it to ourselves as it is so much less stressful,
unfortunetlly my elder sister has found out on facebook and has txt my mom saying what the hells going on? My mom knows and has been great so far but i just know shes going to side with everyone else and ultimatly say get an abortion which me and dan absolutly refuse on.

Im 18 and hes 22 so were both adults were mature and i wish people could see it.

Im now sitting here crying my eyes out,
i feel so angry at people for being like this towards me i love that baby so so much and i am fiercly protective over it to the point where i actually want to run away just so no one can get to either of us.

 

[xMissxZoiex]

Awwh hunni, i have no real advice for you as i have never been in the situation but this is your and your OHs baby no one elses you will both make great parents and give your baby everything He/She will need and you both know that! Dont let them bully you!, Sorry for your previous loss hunni xxxxx

 

[Lydiarose]

Thanks chick,
i wouldnt say its bullying just patronising if you know what i mean?
Either way i hate it! xx

 

[MissDee-89]

I know what you mean, im 20, had 3 miscarriages since september, stupidly told my family with the 1st one although it was early, and when i told people this time i can tell they are expecting me to fail, my mum is so patronizing and i know she hopes i MC
With everything she is TELLING me how i will be, how i wont breastfeed, how i'll choose drugs at birth, how i won't use cloth nappies and will use dummies... just because she did doesn't mean i will, i swear it was everyones nagging that made me MC ....Anyway, going off topic lol.
Your family will get used to it soon enough, who ever causes drama is probably just jealous, you'll be a great mum, take care and good luck

 

[PleaseBaby]

Well it's happening so they'll have to get used to it, stay strong they cant make you get rid of your bubba

 

[Mummy2Asher]

its your choice, and this baby is loved by you and OH, no matter what your family say they will come around later. i wuold just stick to your guns, and 'ride the storm'. its your baby and your choice.
congrats on your baby and having a good scan! xx

 

[Lizzieeeee x]

Congratulations

Its your baby, NOT theres its your choice to keep it, so prove them all wrong！prove to them you will be a good mum

They will come round when they get used to the fact you are going to be a mum.

I was 15 when i had to tell my family, stay stong for your baby
Good Luck xxxxx

 

[xgem27x]

My family were the same as yours last time I was pregnant, which also sadly ended in miscarriage! Me and OH started trying again, and when I fell pregnant again, my family weren't surprised at all, in fact they expected we would start trying again!

In a way, they kind of admitted defeat, I wouldn't have an abortion last time, and when I miscarried, I ended up trying again for another anyway!

My family are all really supportive now, and couldn't be happier! It can hard for them to get use to, but at the end of the day, they know they have to, because you and your OH want this baby!

Hope everything goes OK! Congratulations on the pregnancy and to reaching 12 weeks! xxxx