"Fears, Cheers & Unclears"

[tasha41]

Hi girls - we had this presentation sort of thing when we were in grade 8 getting ready to go into high school, I'm changing it up a bit so it applies for us!

Everyone has to say one thing they are afraid of about what's to come (the birth, being a mother, etc.), one thing they are excited for, and one thing they're really not sure about (and if someone has an answer or some insight, please feel free to post it!!)

Fear: that my baby will cry uncontrollably all the time, I won't be able to calm her down, that my parents will think I'm an idiot, people will look at me like I'm stupid, and that my baby will just hate me.

Cheer: I already cannot wait to see baby's first toothless little smile! I know it's still awhile coming though.

Unclear: Honestly, I know it's been said before... but how the helllll I am going to get this baby out of my poor little vagina, LOL.

 

[fernie3]

fear: getting high blood pressure preclampsia, I had it with my son and it came on so quickly i got really ill quickly and took me nearly a year to come of medications etc which was terrifying! I am really afraid of it this time

cheer: I cant wait to see my little baby look at me for the first time

unclear: coping with three - I am excited about the baby but at the same time once she comes I will have three kids under five which seems like it might be hard lol

 

[sammie18]

Fear:I wont know what the baby is crying for and wont stop crying.

Cheer: I cant wait to see my littl girl, and hold her!!

Unclear: How am I going to get threw this birthing process..seems scary!

 

[insomnimama]

Hey Tasha,

The Sarcastic Journalist from Baby Gaga has a funny piece on one of your fears, if it makes you feel better

When I was a teenager, it wasn’t uncommon for me to yell that “I didn’t want to be born! Nobody asked me if I wanted to be born!” Usually this happened right before I slammed my door and cried my eyes out into a pillow because my parents wouldn’t let me stay out past midnight.

At the beginning of my pregnancy, nine months seemed like a really long time. Anytime I had concerns about the baby or parenting, I’d remind myself that it was a long time away.

But here, at 35 weeks, having a baby isn’t that far away anymore! Considering that 36 or 37 weeks is when many doctors won’t stop you from going into labor, the actual having of the baby moment is getting pretty close.

I don’t know how many times I cried because I was sure my baby would “hate me.” I know I’m not alone. I have a friend who, at 38 weeks, worried that her baby would, in fact, hate her.

It doesn’t exactly make sense that our babies would hate us. I’ve never met a baby in my life that hated its mother. If anything, babies love their mothers more than anyone else in the world. We are the mamas! We are mommy!

I’m going to go out on a limb and blame it on the hormones. Let me tell it like it is: Your baby will not hate you. It is not going to want a different mom. It isn’t going to open its eyes, give you a once over and act embarrassed.

It will at least have the decency to wait until it is a teenager to do that.