feel completely traumatised - please help

[miss h]

I got my on saturday morning. Ran out and bought a clear blue digital and took it later on in the afternoon - and told me I was 1-2 weeks.

Went to the docs yesterday and chatted with the receptionist who took all my details and worked out that I was actually around 6 weeks gone. Trying not to get too excited is damn hard when they give you a due date.

Last night I started getting bad AF cramps. I wasn't too concerned as i read that it can be normal. I then started getting bright red blood that got heavier as the night went on. I think that I passed 2 "normal" days worth of blood in about 8 hours.

Went and got examined by the doc who sent me straight to emergency gyne unit.

Got there had bloods taken and urine test. The whole experience there was just horrendous. I heard the nurses talking outside my curtain and heard from them chatting to one another that my urine test was 20 mins before the doc came to talk to me. He made me feel like I was completely dillusional and I very nearly got my mobile out to show him the pics of my two tests.

So he did an internal and found my cervix high and closed (and of course made my pain so much worse). I have to go back on thursday for more bloods so they can look at my hcg levels and then they will (supposedly) call me on thurdsday to let me know what the results are.

He mentioned that what I am experiencing could be just my period! For one thing I have never had a period feel like this before. Or, it may be a threatend M/C.

I don't know what to do, what to think... if theres any hope at all. They have a negative urine test (but I had 2 positive just 4 days ago) but my cervix is closed - surely that means it's not a simple period??

I know there is little hope if I am pregnant but I just feel so lost at the moment.

 

[AP]

Hey honey,

I can tell you that your bloods will give them more answers. i have been in the EXACT position you have too, internal scans, CB digitals, pics on the mobile, the flippin LOT!, and they made me feel like a liar. The blood tests finally showed the HcG levels in my system.

 

[JessicaP]

Hi

I felt exactly the same!I bled on the friday and was in and out of hospital all weekend. I went into hospital when started bleeding they examined me and my cervix was closed everytime.

I had a threatend miscarriage or a missed miscarriage. I had it 5 weeks ago and are still getting a positive pregnancy result.

Im sorry to tell you my sorry but this is what happened to me but i know women that do bleed when they are pregnant.

xxx

 

[miss h]

sb22 - what happened with you?

I know that I am probably having a miscarriage at the mmoment, but what I am having problems dealing with were his comments that I was probably not pregnant and the pain I am going through at the moment is "Just a period".

 

[lauraperrysan]

i am so sorry you are going through this. my doctor told me their tests are not as sensitive as alot of the shop brought tests these days. hense why it may not show up on their tests as your levels are not high enough. some shop tests are as low as 10 mui but doctors ones can be as high as 50 mui. It's very unfair the way they treated you and made you feel, if it's made you so upset write a letter to the hospital to express how the doctor made you feel.
i hope you get some answers soon, and i hope you get some great results. i have heard of so many women who had bleeding and have been fine. i am keeping everything crossed for you xxx

 

[AP]

Hey honey

I did mc. I'm sorry i couldnt give you any more hope.

I only discovered something was going on when I was bleeding and my CB indicator would not shift from 1-2 weeks.

The next day I went to the EPU where the midwives looked at me as though I was mental. I had a scan after I persisted and showed then my pics on my mobile. They had never heard of the CB indicators either, and another midwife had to come and explain to the others and the songographer what they measured etc.

The scan shows sod all. And my cervix was closed.
And they kept saying it was a late period. I was like, "Are they taking the piss? They must think I am crazy!?!"

They then took my blood and asked me to call back that afternoon, when they told me my Hcg was 8 and it looked like a very early miscarriage ,that the pregnancy just had not stuck. I was glad my blood tests proved to them!

Now I know this may not be of much comfort, but in my position, I had already suffered a much more difficult miscarriage, so this was easier for me. And it least it prooved to me I could get pregnant, and knowing my HcG levels were so low, I knew I could TTC pretty much after the bleeding.

It was just as well. I had some spotting after the bleeding, but I ignored this. i never had another period afte this. A few weeks later I did get a new positive test, and the beanie finally stuck, and here I am.

I'm only explaining this to let you know there is always light at the end of the tunnel - somewhere!! I am so sorry things arent working out for you just now.

 

[Dixielane]

Hey hunny,

I just went through a bad experience with the doctors as well, I had low hcg numbers and they stressed me out about a mc so bad I never got to enjoy being pregnant. I did MC, but I wish I had of just tuned the doctors out half the time, it would've been much more peaceful however it went.

Please, please dont let them upset you. Doctors have a very cold way of saying things, they see 100s of patients every week with pregnancy issues, and I think it becomes too "normal" for them, and some do not realize your heart is broken

I hope you are okay, and just take care of yourself.

 

[Caroline]

hun, sorry you are having such a rough time.

Dr's are pretty insensitve & I think they just see you as another stastic/set of nos.

I mc @ 8wks, waited around for ever for a scan & when they did it, there was nothing left, I'd lost everything. The git hafd the cheek to ask if my period were regular, implying that I'd just missed a month out completely even tho I'd had loads of strong bfp's.

By that time tho I was so numb I didn't care I just wanted out of there.

Fx'd for you its good news & your hcg levels are nice & high

 

[Windmills]

I know exactly how you feel, I MC'd last Monday (..over a week already?!) and they made me out to be a liar. I showed them pictures of my and they still said it was 'just a late period'. Almost 9 weeks late? Ha.
Anyway, they discharged me at 4am, and my Mum made me go back the next day. They did bloods and decided it was a MC after all.
I hate how they made me feel, like I was completely irrelevant and the fact I was heartbroken didn't matter.

xxx

 

[Dixielane]

I know exactly how you feel, I MC'd last Monday (..over a week already?!) and they made me out to be a liar. I showed them pictures of my and they still said it was 'just a late period'. Almost 9 weeks late? Ha.
Anyway, they discharged me at 4am, and my Mum made me go back the next day. They did bloods and decided it was a MC after all.
I hate how they made me feel, like I was completely irrelevant and the fact I was heartbroken didn't matter.

xxx

Alot of drs call every early pregnancy, a chemical. And, have heard the unfortunate stories of doctors terming as miscarriage as "abortion", I was ready to knock the doctor in the face if I was given that term, thankfully I wasn't.

 

[miss h]

Alot of drs call every early pregnancy, a chemical. And, have heard the unfortunate stories of doctors terming as miscarriage as "abortion", I was ready to knock the doctor in the face if I was given that term, thankfully I wasn't.[/QUOTE]

Yep - thats what my doc kept calling it - an abortion (thats if it wasn't just a "late period". I wanted to throttle him.

I know I have lost the pregnancy - my body has completely changed since monday night (first time in 3 weeks that my nipples have gone down and breast are not sore). I can deal with it, just as long as these docs skip all that bullsh*t and tell me straight - my G.P did and when I went to the hospital they completely screwed with my head.

The hardest part at the moment is trying to make my other half understand. He was there holding my hand through it all and seems to have grasped at any tiny bit of hope the doc may have given us. I have told him that I don't think there is any hope and that we have to focus on getting through this so we can start again, don't think it's sinking through to him though

 

[borntobeamum]

Oh hunni, bloody doctors, we put all out trust in them and no one ever tells us that they can screw our heads up.