feel dead low atm :(

[stevon111]

I Just feel so low at the moment guys

its been 2 years nearly since our daughter was born.
ive been through so so much its just unreal in the last nearly 2 years and it was My X gfs birthday yesterday and again for the 2nd time i got her a card from our daughter and a box of chocolates and again ive just never had a simple thanks.

just cant understand how someone can turn so so bad..... i havent had a birthday card from this year or a fathers day card...even if it was just from our daughter but her mum just writing her name on there as shes only nearly 2.

Its me who took LO into hospital 2 weeks ago when i made the decision that she wasnt well and needed more attention to be seen to and its me who goes down in the middle of the night when my x gf is saying she is being sick etc etc..

and its me who gets shouted at in the hospital by my x for thinking im the perfect father to my daughter which i generally feel that im so protective over her i do my total best for her and provide for everything she needs with most of my wages going towards making her happy.

ive tryed again and again and again to sit down and talk to my xgf becouse im not happy with fayes behaviour as shes only nearly 2 and shes gertting really hard to be able to handle at the moment and i know where her keep trying to hit all the time is coming from (her mums attitude) ive asked her to seek help from a health visitor for both of us but it seems that she keeps on putting off and off all the time and my x keeps passing our daughter to her sister to look after for 2 days at a time and then i have her on the saturday and sunday so my x has only had her for 3 days and she is now doing this more and its happening every 2 weeks so i have to go and pick our daughter up from someone who i dont really want to see each time.

ahhh im totally stuck at the moment and i just dont know what else to do. im paying csa for my daughter which my x doesnt have for 4 days at a time on a regular occasion now.

 

[whatwillbe]

Sorry hun, you sound like your doing your best for your daughter, her mom sounds a bit selfish tbh, if i wad you i'd just collect your daughter when you have to and keep any communication just bout lo, ws it a mutual split ? Do you think she's bitter because of it ? It doesnt sound good her leaving lo with other people for days either, if you cant speak to her bout it, what about talking to one of her family, such as her mom? , i have these down days too, but 2 morow could be the best day ever, you never know, good luck x

 

[stevon111]

the split was not mutual i caught her cheating on me when lo was 3 weeks old when she was on my computer downstairs talking to other lads and arranging to meet people etc..

her background isnt really that good to be honest... her mother is an alcoholic and her dad has not been to see our lo in months which is quite sad. in some ways i feel sorry for her becouse it just looks like its her sister who is willing to help her out with taking her for days etc...but through the week my x goes to visit her mother. so i cannot talk to any of her family to be honest....
my X has not really had a role model through life and thats the sad sad thing..
i get called becouse she thinks i class myself as the perfect dad for faye but im crying out inside to ask her ...well where is your dad then..or how would you class a perfect dad to our daughter...but i cant becouse that would be very cruel...but i think she knows herself deep deeep down inside 'well where is my dad...he only lives just down the road..why isnt he not coming to visit when our lil 1 is in hospital hes our lil 1s grandad'

but its me who always gets it....its like im a punch bag and im only needed when something goes wrong..if you understand what i mean...when our lo has been poorly through the night ive always offered to come down to hers to see how she is even though i dont drive id get a taxi down costing 10 pounds ..or ill sit up all night texting each hour making sure things are okay.

when i need help for e.g im not sure what to feed lo becouse everything i try lo is not eating wether it be kids meals or them little tub meals you can buy kids from sainsburys ...i ask for her to write me a list of what things lil 1 likes so im not wasting food...but it never gets done..and when i think lil 1 is poorly then i text my x to let her know and she wants me to text her with how she is...when ive had to take her to a doctor before its me again making the decisions and also when i had to take her to hospital my x turns up 3 hours later....

a thing the previous poster mentioned is concentrate on everything around LO....your right and thats exactly what i do..nothing is about life or anything like that and i only ever text my x on the friday night to let her know what time im picking lil 1 up ..there is no speaking or texting through the week unless theres a problem with lo or anything.

 

[whatwillbe]

Sorry youve had to go through all of this, if only more dads could be like you, and your ex, im pressuming shes young, her background doesnt sound good and it can affect the way people behave ect but shes responsible for her actions, i dont know whst to advise apart from carry on being a great dad and she might not think it but i think your ex still needs some one stable like you in her life x

 

[Dezireey]

I know it's hard now and there is not much you can do about your ex girlfriends personality etc but be patient, keep being a good Dad and doing what you are doing and give your little girl all your love. Try not to upset the mother too much unless you really have to, be the better person at all times. And you know what, one day in the future that little girl will start making her own decisions. She will think 'hey, my daddy loves me so much, he's always there for me, always takes care of me, I want to spend most of my time with him because my mum isn't nice to me' So if your ex continues to behave in this way she will pay the price for it in the future, that's a fact. Either she will get her act together and shape up or your little girl will end up with you anyway one day, when it's her choice to do so. just keep doing what you are doing and rise above your ex's bad behaviour, you have to.

 

[Mummy2B21]

So sorry hun, Things will get better stay positive. x