feeling alone

[youngmomma100]

I know this is a wierd topic, but its just my fiancee lives a while away and i just feel like im going through this alone right now! i mean as much as hes excited when we are together, he doesnt seem excited while we are a way from one another and it sucks i mean i need him to want to talk you know even tho we arnt living close togehter i just want some of his attention on me and for him to be excited while im away! it just feels like hes always sidetrack on whats going on near him when im away i mean i told him i felt sick and hes just like cool, its just i dont feeling neglected when im not around if that makes any sense to you guys! sorry for my ranting just felt like i should let it out instead of keeping it bottled in! since i already confronted him and he just rubbed it off =(

 

[StirCrazy]

Unfortunately us guys are very good at cutting off our emotions and even better at pretending not to be phased. I know it is hard (and it's something that me and wobbles/OH went through too) but bear with him, he'll talk when he has it sorted in his own head. Pushing the issue can sometimes have the opposite effect.
Until he's ready, rant away

 

[youngmomma100]

Do guys ever get over that stage? I mean the most emotion i saw was when we had the u.s he started to cry (happy tears ofcorse!)

 

[brownhairedmom]

When did you have your ultrasound done??

 

[Blob]

Thats a fair bit of emotion i think!! I dont live with my OH either he lives elsewhere during the week. I think its that its not happening to them, like nothing is growing in them so there is no constant reminder. But if he is happy and exited when he is with you then i think you should be fairly happy with that, some people dont even get that.

 

[youngmomma100]

its just sometimes i feel right alone i mean my mom isnt talking to me .. my fiancee is living else where and i have 3 more weeks of this drama i mean i want my mom to appreciate that im having one of her grandchildren! and i want her to be included in my pregnancy you know!

 

[youngmomma100]

Blob we are expecting around the same time

 

[Elli21]

Just thought id over a hug
Your not alone when you have us at bnb ....always someone here to chat too.

I know its not the same but try to think of positives...

 

[youngmomma100]

thanks! its just hard.. i dont even no how i feel with this whole situation u no! i mean so many different things are happening with the baby growin in me and all

 

[mummy2b]

Lads show their emotions in weird ways!! I live with my partner and sometimes i can feel as if i am going through it alone, although i know deep down that he cares deeply and is really excited! Some days he goes all day without even asking how I feel etc, and other days he is talking to my belly and not letting me do anything lol! I think it depends on how he feels as to how he shows his emotions lol!!

 

[Elli21]

Oh of course! Your going through a process that is confusing, but it is all worth it
My hubby is never emotional...he was nearly asleep when i was in labour with our kids and he has always been very laid back..but he loves his kids with all his heart and you can see it. I bet your fella is probably like that too.

 

[brownhairedmom]

its just sometimes i feel right alone i mean my mom isnt talking to me .. my fiancee is living else where and i have 3 more weeks of this drama i mean i want my mom to appreciate that im having one of her grandchildren! and i want her to be included in my pregnancy you know!

I thought my mother was going to murder me. I actually drove 8 hours away and told her on the phone so she could flip out away from me haha. Your mom just found out, she just found out you're 18 weeks pregnant too. So you're not JUST pregnant, you're 18 weeks. I told my mom when I was 6 weeks. That is a LOT to absorb.

But here is the thing. I am assuming that you are graduating this year because you're leaving in 3 weeks and the schools around here, I am guessing, are ending then. So you made it through high school, you're 18 years old, you have a fiancee, and you're going to be JUST fine. Make some arrangements to do some post secondary distance in Sept while you're home. At MUN you can do entire degrees, CONA offers programs through distance. Get some plans in place, it will look to her like you are more stable and mature and ready to have this baby if you start planning for your future.

You are not the only one alone, I'm doing this by myself too, as are many other girls on here.

 

[Maria+Cookie]

You are not the only one alone, I'm doing this by myself too, as are many other girls on here.

This is true because i though my babys father was gnna be there but he actually backed out after finding out i was pregnant. So during the 9 months of pregnancy i was alone without him there the only ppl that where there to help me was my family because his wasnt bein very supportive until the end he thinks that jst because hes the babys father that he can take her for a while but i kno thats never gnna happen because if he wasnt there from the begging why should he be there now. But if ur OH is happy when ur with him then thats a gd thing atleast u still have someone to be there for u dnt think bad about the situation it will all work out when u guys r together again

 

[Blob]

its just sometimes i feel right alone i mean my mom isnt talking to me .. my fiancee is living else where and i have 3 more weeks of this drama i mean i want my mom to appreciate that im having one of her grandchildren! and i want her to be included in my pregnancy you know!

Yaaay i have someone close to me! But you only thought u were like 5 weeks ( jealous!! I thought i was 13 then got told i was only 10 )

You're mum will get over it dont worry, there are so many people on here who have the same problem and then their mum is the biggest person ever in being happy about the baby. I was kinda lucky and my mum was happy and my OH parents are good (i think) about it too.

Hope its just hormones getting you down, honnest i would have passed out if my OH had cried during the scan. He's dead exited, but more to teach him/her things when they are older, so not so much about now. I think though you should try and think positives like if he's happy and exited when you're together then thats good. Also the fact that he doesn get it when ur not together, i mean what do you say if he's ill, you kinda feel bad but cos ur not seeing them its not the same Maybe thats just me?

Hope you feel better soon though. Anyhooo feel happy you're MILES further on than you thought you were

See if im thinking of the wrong person i will die (but i thought i saw ur photo in first tri saying 5 weeks and then that you were 18 grrrr..)

Hope you like my looong rambling essay here

 

[youngmomma100]

well i kinda got really upset and started getting mad at him last night .. and i went on a rant to him! about how i feel during this time and how i need more support! i mean i have lots of support here! u no i mean i love you all u guys are so helpful! and i know im going to make lots of friends! If any of u guys need to talk or want to have a chat PM me!

 

[anamaz]

im sorry things are really hard for you at the mo but if you are engaged he obviously loves you very much try and make sure you talk to him every day on the phone and try your best to see each other more

 

[youngmomma100]

Well he came to see me this weekend and we talked baout it and he told me how he felt and how its starting to feel real to him! we decided to go baby shopping on Saturday, and i guess the more and more we bought items for the baby, the more he felt it was real! he turned to me saturday night and he was just there rubbing my belly and everything and when he got home on sunday he paid alot of attention to me and talked for hours about getting a house and how he thinks the baby will look like! so i guess you guys were right he just needed sometime!