Do what's right for you you don't need someone treating you like that any time never mind on your LO's first xmas.
I do think the wording of the last comment above isn't helpful. This is the single parents forum. A lot of us have had abusive relationships or painful breakups, I think the "NEVER let" is a bit harsh. It's not always as simple as that.
Do what's right for you you don't need someone treating you like that any time never mind on your LO's first xmas.
I do think the wording of the last comment above isn't helpful. This is the single parents forum. A lot of us have had abusive relationships or painful breakups, I think the "NEVER let" is a bit harsh. It's not always as simple as that.
Do what's right for you you don't need someone treating you like that any time never mind on your LO's first xmas.
I do think the wording of the last comment above isn't helpful. This is the single parents forum. A lot of us have had abusive relationships or painful breakups, I think the "NEVER let" is a bit harsh. It's not always as simple as that.
What on earth...? The poster was saying her mother never let them see their dad on christmas. It's a statement, and I don't see how you could be offended by it. It doesn't sound from the OP's post like she has any issue with actually letting LO see her Dad, and of course it's best for a child to be able to see both parents where possible.
I kind of forget about christmas tbh. It's just a day (unless you're deeply religious) and can be recreated on another day around the 25th. Are you going to be able to see people on 25th, other than your Mum? I personally found it easier to let LO go for christmas with FOB one year, then me the next. It just makes it easier to organise things.
Ill be honest, I found it offensive as well. I felt like by saying that she never got to see her dad on christmas day and she wished she had, that she was implying i was acting like her mother and my daughter would feel the same way. It didn't feel it was constructive at all and felt it was meant to make me feel guilty for the choice I am making. I dont know if her dad abused her mum or if her mum was doing it out of spite but it seemed to me the second was being implied and that was being projected onto me. I might be reading too much into it but thats how it made me feel. Maybe teal found it offensive for similar reasons?
On Christmas Day we should be seeing my dad and his side of the family which will be nice. It's not an option atm for LO to be left alone with FOB especially with his family around so its going to be a juggling act every year with visits unfortunately so while a year each would be simpler it's not an option. I think FOB sees Christmas as not a big deal though because his family aren't into it as much so maybe he will not mind if its not actually that day he does his Christmas bit. Hopefully anyway