feeling blue

[MrsF]

i really dont know what to do with myself. After yesterdays events i'm feeling so down and not with it at all. Been trying all day not to burst into tears, but i can't stop it now. Have had so many people offer to come round but i can't bear to see anyone right now cos i'm so scared of people thinking i'm overreacting.
We have tried for so long to get pregnant and i have never been so happy as i was last week when we had two positive tests, and now i feel my whole life has jsut stopped.
i'm scared i'll not stop feeling like this, and i'm scared it's never going to happen.

i wish i could see into the future right now, i'm struggling so much with all this

 

[Vickie]

I don't think there is a right and a wrong way to deal with a loss. Each person has to do what's best for them. It will happen for you, you will have your baby

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh sweety, allow yourself to cry. You will feel a bit better if you do.

I am 2 months on from my m/c and I am okay.

You will be too xxx

 

[niknaknat]

I can't say I know how you feel hun..because I don't.
What I will say though is you have every right to grieve...no-body is going to think you are over-reacting, and those that do have obviously never been through the pain of losing a baby.
It isn't important what others think or feel, you just concentrate on getting through this however you can
And chick......it will happen for you.
Thinking of you

 

[Wobbles]

Nice to know you have people that care but its nice to have the space you need so look after you. It never goes away I can't lie but it does get better - you will get stronger.

 

[maddiwatts19]

Oh sweetey!!! bless you!!
Thats poo!.
There is no set way of dealing with this, and it'll come to you in your own time. But i completely understand how your feeling. People keep saying im so amazing and so strong, but some days i cope with it, and other days i want to burst into tears! thats just how it goes.
Im so sorry, and always here if you need to talk...
xxxxxx

 

[miel]

sweetheart don't lose hope ...it will happen . Thinking of you.

 

[Omi]

Sweetie

I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through, I've been there, too...
Please feel free to feel what ever you want and don't think anything you do or feel is unatural, its natural to you and its how you need to deal with it!

I will tell you what my friend said to me, and she had miscarried a month before me- you will feel better, you will. In the meantime just take all the time you need and be good to yourself. I didnt do any housework for a week and could barely bother to dress..this site was a godsend to me. All the kind words and advice made me feel better..but we are all different. Its been 3 weeks since my d&c and i feel quite normal... i think about it a lot, but im not distraught anymore. It was a terrible shock what happened but i feel optimistic that it will happen again, and i take some solace in the fact that after a mc one is usually more fertile.

Take care, sweetie..thinking of you..

 

[toot]

So sorry for you loss... I know how you are feeling I have been there too and it does suck!! With time you will start to feel better i am not going to lie you will never forget but the hurt you are feeling right now will go away. Don't worry about what others think who cares. Until someone has gone through a m/c they have know idea what toll it take on you. I will keep you in my prayers take care hon.

 

[jonnanne3]

I am so sorry hun! We are here for you! Just take time for you right now. Just rest and take time to heal from this. Do it on your terms. I know it is hard, but everyday that goes by for me is just a little better. I will be thinking of you and praying for you! Take care!

 

[maybebaby]

I agree with everyone, there is no right way to get through something like this. Each person has to do it in their own way. Just keep your head up, and do whatever you need to do to get through it. I was devastated after my m/c in October. I can't know exactly what you are going through - but we are all here for you

 

[carmen]

I also agree with the rest of the girls...its all about time.

With mine ...one time i was feeling strong than the next i was devasted snd angry cos i was like everyone looking forward to it.

I think the turning point for me...is when i felt my body returning back to normal. It made me stronger again and i thoguht i know now how much i want this...and i m happy again that i can start trying.

I know nothing seems to make sense for a while but i agree that this site was a good start for me... cos you hear all the girls talking about their experiences and it lets you know your not alone.. That there is someone somewhere feeling the same pain..and everyone on babyand bump gives support through the bad times and also when we hear that good news again... they are all here for us.

Its going to get better for you...and you know along the way if you need to ask something or you just need to let of air...we are here

 

[shockd&amazed]

Hi Mrs F,
sorry for what happened to you. Like Omi said, I couldn't be bothered to dress/ get up for days after my miscarriage and everything felt very dark and dismal - as if there was no hope.
Then one day i just thought: sod this, I have to carry on. I got up and can't lie, i felt miserable, but day by day it's got better and now I am feeling more positive (still sad) but more positive about the future.
We just all have to keep trying.
This site helped me a lot and remember everyone is rooting for each other.
Hope you feel much much better bit by bit and very soonxx

 

[jacky24]

Chin up ladies, most of you gals know my story and if you dont go search for my story R18 very sad i posted about 1month ago. READ IT.

iam still today going thru hell on Cd41 and no , slight cramps but nothing!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now i woke up one morning and soz for the language but i told myself, "Get the Fuck over it, pull yourself together, thank the lord he spared your own life and make the best of every day you have."

Now i know it is so damn hard each and every day, i have even contemplated taking my own life once before, but hell no i won't go down without living my life to it's fullest. Read all my posts and you tell me if im lucky to still have the courage to get out of bed each day?????

Girls, cause sometimes all we need is just a hug and a shoulder