Feeling down

[Imogenmommy]

I'm new to this forum. I am 39 now. It was 38 when I miscarried last March. It took forever for my cycle to come back, like 8 weeks and have been trying again ever since with no luck. When I got pregnant the first time we had only been trying two months. My doctor says my egg reserve is excellent and they put me on clomid at 100mg this cycle because they said I didn't ovulate last cycle. But I use two types of ovulation tests and both said I did ovulate on day 21 of 31 day cycle. I always tended to ovulate a little late in cycle. It's day 18 and still haven't ovulated after taking the clomid. I'm scared and sad and I'm worried what if I have literal phase defect. I don't have PCOS. My doctor said my hormone levels were normal other than my progesterone being low but that was likely because I didn't ovulate. But they tested me on day 17 and I ovulated day 21 so maybe it was too late. I don't know but this has been going on now for 9 months, and next month would have been when I would have delivered. I just want a baby so badly. My husband is in the Navy and we have only been married two years. I have never wanted anything so badly before in my whole life and I'm so sad and afraid it will never happen for me because I'm too old.

 

[Mrs. Atole]

I'm new to this forum. I am 39 now. It was 38 when I miscarried last March. It took forever for my cycle to come back, like 8 weeks and have been trying again ever since with no luck. When I got pregnant the first time we had only been trying two months. My doctor says my egg reserve is excellent and they put me on clomid at 100mg this cycle because they said I didn't ovulate last cycle. But I use two types of ovulation tests and both said I did ovulate on day 21 of 31 day cycle. I always tended to ovulate a little late in cycle. It's day 18 and still haven't ovulated after taking the clomid. I'm scared and sad and I'm worried what if I have literal phase defect. I don't have PCOS. My doctor said my hormone levels were normal other than my progesterone being low but that was likely because I didn't ovulate. But they tested me on day 17 and I ovulated day 21 so maybe it was too late. I don't know but this has been going on now for 9 months, and next month would have been when I would have delivered. I just want a baby so badly. My husband is in the Navy and we have only been married two years. I have never wanted anything so badly before in my whole life and I'm so sad and afraid it will never happen for me because I'm too old.

Your not to old ! and this will happen for you, i understand your hurt as i have been trying for awhile now and also mc. BUT you can't lose faith/hope you need to STOP saying and thinking negative stuff let just cross your mind but don't meditate on it, This will happen it's taking a little longer then expected but it will happen this is what you need to say to yourself, don't stop believing.

 

[Imogenmommy]

Thanks I am trying to stay positive but it's so so hard. I'm really upset with the doctors. The Navy covers IVF but they won't do it once you are over 40. But I asked when I started trying if I should get on the list just in case, because there is a long waiting list. I was told no it's ok because your just now 39 so you have that year. Now though the fertility specialist says no that was incorrect information and since I would turn 40 while on the waiting list that IVF isn't an option for me.

 

[Mrs. Atole]

You lost me, you can't do ivf cause ur 39? Or the navy insurance won't cover cause your 39?

 

[Imogenmommy]

Navy insurance won't cover it. We would try outside on our own but it kisses me off I would pay out of pocket due to them telling me the wrong thing about when I should get on the waiting list.


I am so highly confused today. It's cycle day 20 for me after my first round of clomid. He had me take 100mg days 5-9. I use two types of ovulation tests at home: clear blue fertility monitor which is digital and very expensive and a cheap over the counter dipstick from Walgreens. Last month both tests told me I ovulated on cycle day 21. Today the digital test told me I ovulated but the dipsticks say no. So I have no clue if I ovulated or not. Doctor wants to check my progesterone tomorrow as that would be peak on cycle day 21 if I had ovulated in the day 12-17 window but since I ovulate later I'm worried that is too early to tell if I actually ovulated or not. I think I may push off the progesterone blood test to day 23 and try to split the difference. Do you think the digital tests are more accurate?

 

[Joybell]

So sorry for your troubles. Are you monitoring your temp? That would help you so much with your ovulation questions.

I've trying for over a year now and had an early miscarriage in December/ January. No luck since. It's so frustrating. Hard to understand why I fell pregnant easily within a few months and now it feels impossible.

You're not old-39 is fine.

I had a 10 day LP before I had my son too but a B6 complex helped me lengthen it to 11-12 days

 

[Imogenmommy]

I just started monitoring temp because I just got the right type of thermometer. I only have taken three readings so far. It seems like it went from 97.7 today 97.34, but it's not enough time points to tell anything I guess.

 

[sarah2211]

Imogenmommy,

I didn't want to run and read but we are in a similar position in some ways.

My husband is in the army. I'm a bit younger than you and we aren't looking at IVF (yet anyway). I'm on Clomid and like you haven't responded in the expected time.

If you want to, feel free to private message me.

 

[Imogenmommy]

Update, I ovulated! 'My digital picked it up day 20 but my cheap old school test picked it up day 21. This was my first cycle of clomid so it didn't change anything as I ovulated last month on day 21. However I had cramps last night which is very new as I don't recall having cramps when ovulating before. Oh fingers crossed! I had my progesterone blood draw today but again I'm afraid that will show false negative for ovulation since I didn't ovulate until day 20 (Sunday).

 

[Dollybird]

Hi there! My story is almost identical to yours Imogen, and I just wanted to give u some hope. I had a mmc last April at 9+5, which resulted in a d&c a week later.. I waited 8-9 weeks for af then I most definitely had a luteal phase defect after as I was tracking. Sometimes my luteal phase was only 7 days! I was distraught and went to my doctor, who grudgingly ran tests, but told me that it was most likely stress causing it because of the mmc. My tests came back pretty normal, even though previously I'd been told I had pcos, so I was surprised to see my hormones where normal, including thyroid etc. Anyways long story short he must've been right. We stopped trying come the December.. figured it just wasn't for us, and we have a son already so we decided we were lucky just to have him. We took out a loan and started refurbingsing our house in may..I was so focused on that, we were staying with his parents, dtd literally once during my cycle, and fell preggo. I actually still can't believe it. All that trying, to finally give up and fall preggo in one go. So.. as much as I hated my doc at the time I guess He was right, for me at any rate. I also had started a new job in the January, which made me a lot happier, and due to healthy eating post 1.5 stone so maybe that helped too.
Try not to worry about late ovulation too much, I'm usually around day 20, and actually when I fell preggo with my son I ovulated cd23 (or around that), and this pregnancy was around cd26.. some ladies just ovulate later.
Good luck to you!

 

[Imogenmommy]

Thank you Dollybird and everyone. It does help to here that maybe late ovulation isn't necessarily a problem. How long was your luteal phase? I guess mine was 10 days last cycle but I don't recall what it was cycle before. I'm hoping maybe the clomid will extend my luteal phase at least if it didn't shift my ovulation date.

 

[Dollybird]

Thank you Dollybird and everyone. It does help to here that maybe late ovulation isn't necessarily a problem. How long was your luteal phase? I guess mine was 10 days last cycle but I don't recall what it was cycle before. I'm hoping maybe the clomid will extend my luteal phase at least if it didn't shift my ovulation date.

The cycle I fell preggo this time I'm not really sure what my luteal phase was as I wasn't tracking. The cycle before I think it was only 9 days but that's a guess as I'd pretty much stopped tracking by the January/February. Xx