Feeling lost.....

[T'elle]

I've just got home from my first IVF appointment and i feel totally ..... depressed shall i say, the dr hardly spoke a word of english let alone spoke at all so nothing really made sense ... he said to me im severely overweight and wants me to get to 12 stone before April 5th how can i do that when im convinced i have PCOS as my weight goes up and down soooo easy one month i lose 2 dress sizes the next month i go up a few!!?? i felt so ashamed and the other thing is many big girls have healthy pregnancies and i feel they dont want to waste their time on me for IVF its not fair i cant explain how shitty i feel right now and nothing helped me today at all at the appointment he even lost my notes after my first comsultation!!>???? i dont know what to do i seriously feel like im losing hope and i feel such a waste of space?! sorry didnt mean to depress any of you girls its just i have no one to talk to hope ur all well! xxxx

 

[chefamy1122]

I am really sorry you had such a bad appointment

 

[ariel]

I remember my first appointment to discuss our options and the doctor wasn't overly sensitive to what I was going through. Anyway, when I got home I probably cried for days, felt very anti-social and cancelled all social functions. I felt very depressed. We changed clinics and our experience was much, much better, I actually felt that I had options whereas the first clinic I did not. Do you have the option to go somewhere else?

 

[T'elle]

I don't think i do have an option to change hunni!! its only IVF wales which is based in my local hospital xx

 

[brokenbits]

Sorry you had such a bad experience, my fertility specialist is also foreign, female, but she speaks quite well. She is quite hard faced, you know, stern. I guess after years you stop feeling sorry and sympathetic for the patients and just lay down the facts and get on with it. I'm not trying to justify how your Dr was, I think the lack of communication and information is atrocious, especially at a first appt which should be overflowing with info that you can't cram into your brain!

I'd maybe ask the fertilty dept if you can see another consultant next time, or check that the chap you saw wasn't a stand in for the regular consultant. You do have options, you're not stuck with him - hope you feel better soon. You're certainly not a waste of space and i'm sure your husband would be devastated to hear you say such things about yourself (I'm saying this from experience, as I once told my DP that I didn't care if I died blah blah blah and he was VERY upset with me).

 

[T'elle]

Thanks hun!! really nice of you i hope things get better at the appointments because its knocked my confidence so much now! xxxxx

 

[Puddleduck]

Oh hun, it can be so depressing and so lonely an experience sometimes even though you know people are there for you. It is such an emotional rollercoster LTTC. Hope you feel better soon

Good luck sending you a BIG xxx

 

[T'elle]

Thanks hunni xxx

 

[Helen_26]

Sorry you had such a bad experience hun.
TBH I'm really worried now as I have my 1st consultation at IVF Wales on the 2nd April and I have quite a bit of weight to loose. Which consultant are you seeing? It says MR Griffiths on my appointment letter.

 

[FJL]

Did you explain to him how your weight fluctuates uncontrollably? Perhaps if you do this, he will be a little more lenient, or even put you on something that might help you to have a consistant weight loss?

Sorry you're feeling down...IVF is just shit...whether you're starting it or doing it...nothing nice about it.

 

[T'elle]

Sorry you had such a bad experience hun.
TBH I'm really worried now as I have my 1st consultation at IVF Wales on the 2nd April and I have quite a bit of weight to loose. Which consultant are you seeing? It says MR Griffiths on my appointment letter.

My consultant was foreign hun sorri i cant even spell or pronounce the name because he hardly spoke a word of english he just muttered badly i hope you will be ok hun i dont think it was MR griffiths i had hun. good luck xxxxx

Did you explain to him how your weight fluctuates uncontrollably? Perhaps if you do this, he will be a little more lenient, or even put you on something that might help you to have a consistant weight loss?

Sorry you're feeling down...IVF is just shit...whether you're starting it or doing it...nothing nice about it.

yeah hun i did explain to him about my weight i have always been like it and i explained i've dropped 2 dress sizes since my wedding in august but it went in one ear and out the other i was so shocked i have family friends that have been a uk dress size 26-28 maybe bigger and they have had healthy pregnancies and some of the women in the waiting room today were about my size some were bigger! so did we all get told the same? i think he was very rude and ruined my confidence how am i supposed to lose weight if i have got PCOS which i think i have? sorry thats not a rant directed to u hun i was answering ur quote and got carried away im so sorry, i just feel so hurt by today xxxx