feeling low after c section

[clairebear]

i feel really low and depressed since my c section its like my body failed to do the one thing mummies are meant to do. i feel so sore and achy and holding my baby hurts and im having to rely on daddy to most things (hes being a star). i think im just in shock as it all happened so quickly (after they suggested a c section he was here within the hour) and i feel like i have falied x

 

[Carolyn]

didn't want to read and run sweetie. the drs did what they had to do to get your beautiful baby out...thy know what's best, chin up chick,

 

[Margerle]

DON"T YOU BEAT YOURSELF UP MAMA! YOU DID GREAT!

Your body did NOT fail you. It grew and nurtured your little baby didn't it!?!?!? Your body is also making the nutrients your little man needs right!? I'm sure you had very little to directly do with eather of those things Your body is a baby making/caring for machine! Thank it, love it, be grateful!

Next time you know what to expect and can try again. Every birth is different

These first weeks are tough on mommies. It's ok to feel blue and have a good cry. Let DH take baby and have a nice hot bath. Enjoy lots of relaxing cuddle time wiht baby, even if it's just on the bed lying close to them rather than holdnig them. You'll soon be feeling good again and can start slowly doing things again.

Hang in there, you're a terrific mama!

 

[coz]

hiya i had a emergency section too i wasnt expecting it at all , dont get yourself down about it it doesnt matter the way you gave birth you still made this beautifull baby and it grew inside you and now you can love and care for it thats the most important thing. It is hard st first too but the weeks will fly by and before you know it youl be doing everything and you wont be sore my baby is 7 weeks now and the last week i feel great and now back to my normal self and you will too xxxx

 

[Samantha675]

Love, I totally understand, it is hard to wrap your head around. I also felt very betrayed by my body after my c-section. I felt that I had done everything right up to that point, and didn't understand. 5 weeks later, I am feeling better about it. I know that at the end of the day all that mattered was Bren's safetly, but there is part of me that will always mourn the lose of the birth I wanted oh so badly, a home birth. So my best advice is to focus on your baby, and slowly work through your birth in your head. I found the first week, all I wanted to do was cry, but was afraid to do so in front of my DH and my mother for fear of them thinking I had PND, which I now realize is silly. Please know that you are not alone in your feelings about your birth.

Oh, one other thing, if you can get a stool or a plastic chair into the shower, it really helps to just be able to sit down and have a shower.

 

[x-amy-x]

aww hun. You did not fail, you grew a beautiful baby boy and brought him safely into the world. I know exactly how you feel but it does get easier. I spent much of the first week in tear as i felt so useless, unable to look after my child. But once the soreness subdues, you'll be feeling better in no time.

Take it easy hun, your body needs time to heal. And don't be afraid to say no to visitors when you feel you've had enough, it's important that you let yourself rest. The more you rest, the quicker you will heal.

I'm here if you need to talk

xxx

 

[clairebear]

thanks everyone im soglad i have u guys to talk to and help me through this xx