Feeling so lonely after having baby

[babyjan]

I had my baby 3 weeks ago and I also have a 4 year old

Before giving birth I found myself getting out the house quiet a lot. Me and my boy would get on the bus or take the car to our local high street, drive an hour away to go stay or visit my mum basically just try get out as much as possible.

Since giving birth the only time I've been out as been for appointment or hospital trips and once to his family home. I feel so trapped and emotional. It's always just me, baby and my 4 year old at home and I just feel so bored if that makes any sense?

OH takes the car to work and the pushchair is usually in the boot so I can't just get out plus I'm not ready to get on bus just yet. I feel a lot better down below I think I could handle walking about. The first week or so I defo wasn't ready to be walking around as it was too painful walking. I wish I could just go visit my family but they live too far. I don't have any friends round here but I'm not too bothered about that.

I'm just in tears not knowing what to do as I feel so lonely I last went out on Monday to register him and came back home straight away.

 

[Natasha2605]

Can't you take the pushchair out the car so you can get out and about?

Massive I'm also feeling quite vulnerable at the minute and it's an awful feeling!

 

[jodilee6]

Your baby is 3 weeks old! Cut yourself a break

The weather is starting to pick up, can your OH leave the buggy before he goes (even if he just puts it in a hallway?)

That way you can all go out for a short walk to a park/shops?

Do you have any baby groups near by? I've found them fantastic with 2, the older kid can play while you get to sit back and feed/cuddle the younger one and maybe make new friends?

Other than that give it time and you'll figure it out

 

[dani_tinks]

Feeling similar, J's at school and I so look forward to going to pick him up just to get out and have some normality back! Can you keep the pushchair at home so you can at least go for a little walk to break up the day perhaps? Weather should be improving

 

[laila 44]

Well it's actually part of having a baby. It's normal to not be able to go out for a while, that's just the way it is. My friends and I joke that with a newborn there are 90 days of darkness lol 3 months and then u slowly feel like yourself again. It's very normal. Just hang in there it's only been 3 weeks xx

 

[babyjan]

Yeah I defo should tell him to leave the pushchair or maybe even get a sling for lil walks

Good to know I'm not alone although I'm sorry others are feeling the same

Dani I really wanted to collect LO from nursery the other day just to get bit of fresh air

 

[babyjan]

Well it's actually part of having a baby. It's normal to not be able to go out for a while, that's just the way it is. My friends and I joke that with a newborn there are 90 days of darkness lol 3 months and then u slowly feel like yourself again. It's very normal. Just hang in there it's only been 3 weeks xx

Lol that's very true! But yeah 3 weeks really isn't much at all x

 

[EarthMama]

I'm in the EXACT same boat and my baby is almost 3 weeks old also! I just moved to this area 2 months before giving birth and have no friends...it's very hard.

 

[babyjan]

I'm in the EXACT same boat and my baby is almost 3 weeks old also! I just moved to this area 2 months before giving birth and have no friends...it's very hard.

Sorry your feeling the same earthmama

I just your other post and wanted to say hopefully with time things will get easier x

 

[EarthMama]

I'm in the EXACT same boat and my baby is almost 3 weeks old also! I just moved to this area 2 months before giving birth and have no friends...it's very hard.

Sorry your feeling the same earthmama

I just your other post and wanted to say hopefully with time things will get easier x

I know things will get better...they have to!

I'm going to try forcing myself to leave the house.

Thanks for the support...back at you!

 

[zorak]

Leave the pushchair at home and make that where it normally lives so you always have it on hand. Also invest in a decent carrier. I love the infantino sash mei tai for newborns and an ergo for older babies.

I think it's just one of those things where you have to just force yourself to get out until you get used to it again. Even if it's just 30 mins a day between feeds.

 

[Left wonderin]

Hi hope things are a little easier its daunting trying to get out and about with 2 !!!! Especially without the car !! Definetly keep the pram at home and start off with a five min walk ? And give yourself a break 3 weeks !!! Its nothing and I'm coming up on 8 weeks now and my head has only stopped reeling !! Its a HUGE transition from 1to 2 . We wil get there

 

[Misscalais]

I know how you feel. Im on my own with 4 kids 6 days a week. We only do school runs pretty much for my 5 and 7 year old. Its actually too overwhelming for me to leave the house on my own with the 2 babies. And when i do its always a mad rush to make it back before the next feed because shes boobie fed my toddler would be able to sit still long enough for me to feed her when out just yet.
i have no friends or family where i live so can't visit any one.
Very lonely and bored!

 

[zorak]

I know how you feel. Im on my own with 4 kids 6 days a week. We only do school runs pretty much for my 5 and 7 year old. Its actually too overwhelming for me to leave the house on my own with the 2 babies. And when i do its always a mad rush to make it back before the next feed because shes boobie fed my toddler would be able to sit still long enough for me to feed her when out just yet.
i have no friends or family where i live so can't visit any one.
Very lonely and bored!

I remember the fear of breastfeeding my new baby with my toddler in tow. I would put my toddler in the pram with a snack, feed baby in the car or pick a seat where toddler could play very close by. Toddler got used to it very quickly.

 

[Daddy2Maddie]

I was just thinking about how your relationship with your newborn is a bit of a one way relationship. You give them a lot of love and care, but they're not yet recipocating it in the way that they will as they get older. So I can understand why people feel this way.

You still need interaction with your friends. I've found it nice to write to close friends and family, many of them love hearing baby stories.