Fertility after a M/C

[em1]

Hi

I've very recently gone a M/C. I know it's quite soon but i can't stop thinking about when we will be able to try again. How long should we wait?

I've read somewhere that after a miscarriage you are very fertile, is this true?

Myself and my OH were so happy when I found out I was pregnant and are devastated that I have miscarried. I can't stop worrying about this happening again but don't want it to get in the way of enjoying it next time. Even though I hadn't had much chance to get used to be pregnant, knowing that I was was so exciting and for that short amount of time I really enjoyed it, but know that next time i'm going to be stressing the whole time. It would be nice to hear how other people felt being pregnant after a M/C.

 

[Ang]

I know exactly how your feeling. I had a m/c on 18th May and AF has just arrived today. They say you are supposed to wait at least one cycle in order for accurate dating, but there is no medical reason not to wait. This is what the doc told me. We didn't wait and tried again, but unfortunatley it didn't work.

We were delighted also when we found out I was pregnant and devestated when it went wrong, just like yourself. I am desparate to get pregnant again. Im here if you want to talk.

I am hoping that the fertility surge stays for a few months to help us out!
xx

 

[em1]

Thanks for that. Sorry for your loss.

Sometimes I feel guilty for wanting to try again so soon after. Having a M/C is an awful experience but it's made us realise even more how much we want a baby. We are going to start trying as soon as we both feel ready. I don't know anyone who has gone through a M/C so it's nice to talk to people who know how I am feeling.

Hope it works out for you soon.

 

[Omi]

I was told i could ttc right away at the hospital, after my d&c.

Most women go on to to have nornal pg's after a mc so im hopeful as well that i'll get a bfp again.

You are more fertile after a mc because you have proved your body knows what to do, you have conceived, and very often that helps you to get pg again.

Good luck, and very sorry about your loss,

Hugs, Omi xxx

 

[NickyT75]

Hi Em

Please dont feel guilty about TTC again... it is a very strong biological urge you are feeling right now - (like a lot of us on here)

As mentioned already, docs advise waiting for 1 cycle but its mainly for dating purposes so other than that... theres no reason for you not to try straight away as long as you feel ready. xx

 

[nat212]

Hi Em

So sorry for your loss. I too had a miscarriage end of March. Waited one cycle before trying again. Currently in 3rd cycle of trying and eagerly awaiting

Take care

 

[NikiJJones]

Hello Em,
I MC end of May and like you was totally devastated, and don't feel I'll be able to get over it until I am pregnant again. I'm also worried about how I'll cope with another pregnancy though: will be constantly scared of losing it again.
Two doctors and my acupucturist told me to start TTC again straight away. Apparently we are more fertile just after a MC, yes. We've been trying this week as I just OVed yesterday, and I am wishing so much for a again in 2 weeks time, but deep down inside me I know the odds are stacked against me.
My doctor told me that the only reason ladies are advised to wait till after AF is to make the dating easier for doctors. He said there is no risk whatsoever to another baby even if you get pregnant before AF.
If you feel that you are ready to try again now, then just go for it. If we get our s together, then we can help each other through the worry and stress of it happening again.
and more
xxxx

 

[golcarlilly]

I had a m/c in March which was a long and drawn out process and I am trying again now following first AF which finished on Sunday - am so excited but also scared to death!!! the nurse I saw during my medical management said there was no reason to wait as long as we both feel ready

Good luck chick x

 

[NikiJJones]

Glad to hear you are finally TTC again Golcarlilly. It has been such a long wait for you! I'm sending you lots of and good luck for a speedy .
xxxx

I had a m/c in March which was a long and drawn out process and I am trying again now following first AF which finished on Sunday - am so excited but also scared to death!!! the nurse I saw during my medical management said there was no reason to wait as long as we both feel ready

Good luck chick x

 

[em1]

Thanks for your replies.

When I found out I was pregnant, I was so excited and although I knew that miscarriages were more likely to happen in the first 12 weeks, I never thought I'd go through one.

We have decided to try again as soon as we can, it's just such a waiting game.

The emotions that we have to go through month after month is so agonising, I just hope it happens again soon.

Good luck to all those who are ttc, I hope it works out for you all!

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

I had a misscarriage two weeks back...and have just stopped bleeding! nurse told me to wait for first AF - but i don't think I can! Want to get back and start trying as soon as possible!

good luck to all those who are TTc

xx

 

[em1]

I know how you feel. I stopped bleeding after a M/C quite recently and this morning have noticed CM that I usually see when I am ovulating.

I am going through mixed emotions now. I'm still feeling sad about M/C but at the same time I'm feeling excited that my body is getting back on track and am wondering whether to take the opportunity to start TTC.

My partner is worried that it might be too soon.

Aaaarrrrraaahhhhh - what to do?????? My doctor had advised to have at least one AF before trying again but said the only reason is for the dates.

Any advice anyone?I'm so

 

[NikiJJones]

My doctors (2 of them) told me no need to wait. It does help dates if you have one AF after, but if you get PG again before AF, there is no risk to the baby at all. If you feel emotionally ready, then go for it. I've just OVed this week, and we gave it a go. I'm of the mind that I won't emotionally get over the MC entirely until I've got another little one in there.
Do what feels right, and Good Luck!!!!
xxxx

 

[em1]

Thanks NikiJJones

I have everything crossed for us both. You never know we might end up in the Pregnancy -First Tri at the same time!!

 

[NikiJJones]

Thanks NikiJJones

I have everything crossed for us both. You never know we might end up in the Pregnancy -First Tri at the same time!!

I hope so!!!

 

[todteach]

Maybe I'll be there with you two. My AF arrived on Tuesday. I so want to be pregnant again. But much like everyone else, I am also scared.

I also don't want to replace my little angel with a new baby.

I just want to be a mommy so much. Lots of mixed emotions right now.

 

[NikiJJones]

Maybe I'll be there with you two. My AF arrived on Tuesday. I so want to be pregnant again. But much like everyone else, I am also scared.

I also don't want to replace my little angel with a new baby.

I just want to be a mommy so much. Lots of mixed emotions right now.

You won't be replacing your angel. Your new baby will be another LO for you, but I'm sure you will always remember your angel. We all will, I'm sure, but hopefully will less pain than we are all feeling right now.
xxxx

 

[Lanyloo]

I had a MMC in Jan after falling pg in month 2. We found out at our 12 week scan our baby had stopped developing at 6 weeks. We opted for a D&C and was told to wait 3-6months before trying again.

Other girls I was in touch with who miscarried at the same time were told after first AF, 2-3 months so I guess anything goes.

We've been trying since first AF and were still not pg 6 months later. Most of the other girls are pg again and 2 got their BFP's in first month after it taking 6-12 months the first time and are 21 weeks now!

I guess anything is possible after a mc and I'm sorry you've had to go through this too. Good luck with TTC when you do start again, I know I was desperate to start again straight away!

 

[Sambatiki]

Hi Everyone,

Firstly wanted to say how sorry I am for all your losses.

All I would say is just go for it when ever you feel both physically and mentally ready. For me it wasn't straightaway but for others it was. Never worry about thinking guilty about trying to replace your angel, as we all know that we'll never be able too.

Everyone that has had to come on this thread has been through so much... I can't believe I have finally reached the light at the end of the tunnel... for those of you that have recently MC, I promise it gets easier..... but unfortantley it doesn't happen over night.

I wish everyone loads of luck TTCing when you're ready and hope to see 's in the future.



MUCH LOVE KERRY xxxx MWAH!!!

 

[wantababybump]

I m/c December 25th 2007 and like you I also wanted to get pregnant again right away. I did wait until my AF which was January 23rd and got pregnant in March 2008. Sadly, I have m/c again June 2008. I had a d&c on June 12th and found out babys hb had stopped on June 9th. I was 14wks. I am acheing to be pregnant again so I definitely know how it feels. We arent protecting ourselves from getting pregnant again and the docs said they seen no reason that we couldnt TTC but said I should wait one cycle and like some of the other girls have said its more for the dating aspect of it. Meh I dont really care about that and am hoping I will be pregnant again soon. I have also heard you are more fertile after you have m/c and I believe it to be true as I have easily gotten pregnant after my first one! Good luck TTC!! Hope you get a BFP soon! xo