Finding time for you.?

[jaytee146]

My mom told me if i fixedMyself up i'd "find" a husband or a man to date long term. i should try making myself presentable for the opposite sex (make up, heels, new clothes)and start caring about me. i found this simply because there's no timeFor all of that! i barely have enough for food let alone trying to make myself up. to look for some "man" i will admit i'd like to learn how to applyMake up, just in case lo wants to wear it, i'll be able to teach her. but honestly i don't have timeFor me. majority Day's there'sNothing left for me or anyone else i findMyself daydreaming of sleeping in until ten or enjoying a meal i don't have to swallow fast cause lo flips my Plate. maybe a movie here and there but honestly i'm too tired for a man right now. too many bad Memories and i t.Hink i've given upOn love. (sorry for the misspelled words in advance nursing a wiggle worm twelve month old) do any of you ladies have "me" time? what do you doFor you?

 

[jaytee146]

AND while i'm at it let me add i dispise fob because he's selfish prick who has the time to be an alcoholic which he claimed he gave up for his child and because everything social he's in the mist and i'm sitting at home wishing for a break to take a hot shower! jack@@@

 

[jaytee146]

 

[Ceejay123]

Bless you Honey - I'm not a single parent but you seem very upset and nobodys here to reply yet so I thought I would, I can't even start to understand how difficult it is for you Try to concentrate on yourself You'll know when you're ready to find a guy.
Your FOB sounds like an idiot - Just remember, things will get easier and he IS the one missing out, not you. For all of his lie ins, and pathetic alcoholic binges, he has nothing to show for it. You have a beautiful child that you can say you raised, and did your best for! x

 

[AbbynChloe]

it gets better, i know it is an easy thing to say, my lo in nearly 4 and it has just gotten easier - if you had asked me when Chloe was 1 or even 2 if i thought i'd ever be wearing makeup and working full time, i'd have told you to sod off! but as they get older, the sleeping becomes better, they communicate better - it really does make a differentce.

I still have my moments, like last night, feeling incredibly lonely and overwhelmed, and i find it easy to depress myself with the thoughts of longtime struggles, but then a few other single mummies reminded me i was doing this all for my LO and anything else doesn't matter

 

[Dezireey]

I totally appreciate the simple things now because doing everyday stuff, like you said is a military operation lol. I try to incorporate or adapt 'me' time with doing stuff with my boy. If I go shopping he comes with me and I sometimes I buy myself a treat. He has a jumperoo that is now in the shower room and for the first time in ages I am lazing in a bath whilst he is there happily giggling at me playing his toys and jumping about in it. As far as men are concerned, I think even if I had loads of me time ( e.g loads of babysitters so I could go out on regular dates) I wouldnt want to. I am at my most unattractive and haven't lost the baby weight and men just annoy me frankly!

Enjoy these times if you can, before you know it your babba will be in school then college, then in a job and you will be wondering where the hell all these years went lol

xx

 

[jaytee146]

thanks ladies, after another heated debate with fob, I've decided I'd search for soe type of counseling services because I honestly don't want to walk around angry and upset all the time... I know heonly did to me what i allowed him to, and I want to be better, stronger, and a wonderful mother for my daughter. I don't want her to make the same mistakes I did...

My mom and I were talking earlier and she told me how much of an alocholic my father was, and how controlling he was, and even the guy she's dating now he has substance abuse issues... I feel like I"m walking along the same path with fob, and this on again and off again situation because I'm not brave enough to say HEY LEAVE ME ALONE and stick to it.. Guy's I really need help and i'm scared of the unknown, but i have to use lo as my motivation to get better or at least to get the chance to talk to someone who can guide me through this pain and anger.

 

[Ceejay123]

Well said Sweetheart. x