First time away... Miss her so much :(

[CaptainMummy]

Me and my partner of 3 years just split up the other day. I wouldnt say it was on good terms, but not on bad terms either.
I have no problem with him having Paige staying with him a few days, but I never realised how hard it would be.

I miss her loads, but the thing that worries me, is that I feel like she is going to hate me for not being there (she is staying with OH 3 nights, thurs, fri, sat) and Im scared that when I go to get her on Sunday, she wont be the same. She has always been a total mummys girl, and I love it, and now Im scared she wont love me the same.

As much as I want her to be with daddy too, 3 nights a week is going to be so hard for me to be away from her.

Anyone else have this much time away from LO?

I would ask him to take her a night less, but he would just get all pissed off etc, and I dont feel I have the right to do that. Even though when we were together, I looked after her 90% of the time and he just sat/slept/smoked.

Support or advice is welcome! Thanks ladies
xx

 

[angelpkj]

aww i bet
he prob feels like that himself when he doesn't see her so just be "thankful" you get more time than him with her

 

[xxsteffyxx]

Some men don't even get 1 night a week, so I don't feel it would be unfair to take one night a week away. You are Paige's mummy and if you need her then she needs you espcially if he didn't bother with her much whilst you were together.

Sending you my love hun, I am in a similar boat myself so I feel your pain xxx

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

just curious hun but what makes you think you don't have the right to request a night less? Your her mum, you carried her, brought her into the world & seems like you were her main carer for her even when you & your ex were together. 3 nights does seem alot & it would cripple me hopefully, if it stays at 3 nights, it will get easier for you. Maybe suggest friday morning to sunday evening? X x

 

[george83]

just curious hun but what makes you think you don't have the right to request a night less? Your her mum, you carried her, brought her into the world & seems like you were her main carer for her even when you & your ex were together. 3 nights does seem alot & it would cripple me hopefully, if it stays at 3 nights, it will get easier for you. Maybe suggest friday morning to sunday evening? X x

i agree with mammy2jooj especially if he really didn't do anything to help you out. My husband was amazing at playing with our baby but wouldn't have a clue at looking after him on his own there's no way i'd want him to be away from me for as long as you've let your little one. Could you not leave it a couple of weeks to see how they get on and if your still not happy try and change the arrangement?

 

[CaptainMummy]

I know he is capable of looking after her, he was just lazy more than anything, but maybe now that he HAS to, he may step up a little, and put in the effort. I dont worry that he wont look after her well.

We have decided just an hour or 2 ago, that he will have her 3 nights (wed/thurs/fri) and I will take the other 4. This arrangement it okay for me, although Im guessing it will take a while for me to get used to being away from her so much. I just dont want her to love me less for not being there

 

[janinio87uk]

U just wait until ur lil one see's u when u get her back! I bet her lil face will be a sparkling picture! If my lil boy is away for even an hour he comes running over 2 me all excited can u imagine the reaction after a few days!? You'll feel like the most loved mummy ever I promise you xx