FOB gets visitation rights... Questions.

[BabyDragon]

So as court ordered, FOB will be getting DD two days a week, 9am-7pm, for two months, then after that when she's a bit older and gets used to it, overnight, from 9am until 7pm the next day.

He gets credit for his visitation time.

Questions, do I have to send a bag with her with her supplies? Diapers/wipes/clothes/food etc?

Or should I expect him to provide all of that?

 

[Kate&Lucas]

I provided milk/food/nappies etc at first when Lucas was smaller, until his Dad got into a routine and bought his own. Now when he stays over I send pyjamas, a change of clothes and treatment for his eczema. Now and then I'll send a book/toy he is attached to but I think FOB has bought copies of his favourite books now anyway.
I know people who don't send a thing but it only takes minutes to pack a bag so I'm not bothered, he bought some of the clothes anyway.

At the very least I'd expect him to have nappies (when he was smaller), food/milk and spare clothes at his house.

 

[sillysapling]

I think it's important to include a toy or blanket that smells like you/home. I imagine your baby is still napping, and having that will help her be comfortable enough to sleep. Having a few familiar toys is a good idea as well, although he should buy his own replacements. I agree with a PP that it isn't much trouble to pack a bag, it's not a bad idea to at first just because he may forget things.

The biggest thing is how much your trust FOB. If you do trust him a lot, I'd pack a small bag just in case he's forgotten something (a single diaper, small thing of wipes, diaper cream, etc)- that way if she needs a diaper change, he doesn't have to leave her dirty while they go to the store to get diapers/wipes/whatever. You shouldn't have to do this all the time, but at least the first time I think it's polite to give him the back up. You also should include a change of clothes/warmer clothes while it's cold unless you know he's got warm clothes in her size.

If you don't trust him, pack everything. This isn't about him- it's about making sure your daughter is comfortable, it's about making sure FOB has no excuse to leave her in a dirty diaper for hours or let her go hungry. I really hope that this isn't the kind of person your daughter's father is, but it's possible.