FOB is useless!

[mummyosborne]

Im not sure if any of you have seen my recent posts about my ex, well basically we ended pretty messy about a week and a half ago. Ive been exteremely kind i think about his visitation even after everything he did to me, i let him have my LO every other evening for two hours and 3pm saturday till 3pm sunday. But hes just not making an effort, he called me to say he has nothing to feed her tonight, he didnt pick her up till half 6 when he only has her till 8 anyway!!
i just dont understand why he isnt making any effort to see he daughter, tonight is the first time he's come to get her, every other time ive had to take her to him and it takes me an hour to walk there and then an hour back, twice every other night, its just mad.
sorry just needed to rant!

 

[Jade--x]

Personally if he doesn't have the motivation to involve himself I'd leave him to it. It's not your place to run around for him, he has to do that himself, he can't expect you to run around after him to make it easier for him. I hope things get better soon x

 

[Dezireey]

As hard as it may sound, I wouldnt make any effort anymore with him. Whether its contact or going to his place. He doesn't deserve any effort from you if he cant give that to his own child. Its really quite stressful lugging around a baby and all the equipment needed such as bottles, nappies etc so let him always come to you. You cant force someone to make more of an effort if they don't. I have given up on my FOB and I hardly ever contact him now. My boy is worth millions of him and I'll be damned if me and my son are going to run around after him. When my son is older he will just think its normal that he and his mother have to make all the effort to contact and go and see his father , so he will end up accepting crumbs from his Dad like I did, if I am not careful. Nope, he can damn well come and see his son when its convenient for us.

 

[Ceejay123]

You're offering way more contact than most people would, you're doing your bit. You shouldn't have to push him to visit his child - good men would be there every chance they got. He's obviously not appreciating the time with his child, it'd be different if you were denying access, then he'd be playing the doting Dad. Men. I hope he gets his act together. x