FOB's family

[pinkneon]

FOB is not having any involvement with the baby ... Does his family get any rights to see the baby? I don't want them to for the main reason that I don't know them very much, they live a coupld of hours away on a bus, and obvious;y cos FOB isn't going to be involved. But FOB's mother has been buying baby clothes and stuff ...

 

[billy2mm]

if you dont want them involved then dont let them. its your decision hun

 

[jeanettekaren]

They don't have any legal rights but why not try and get to know them before baby comes, perhaps by email or just by keeping them in the loop. They might be really nice people and an asset to your child's life. I don't know your circumstances but it seems a shame to spite them just for having a son who isn't sticking around

 

[pinkneon]

I kinda think if they are involved then FOB gets a right to be and he doesn't want to anyway but I don't want him to be invilved and don't think it would very good for me or the baby to have him involved ...

 

[scottishgal89]

They don't have any legal rights but why not try and get to know them before baby comes, perhaps by email or just by keeping them in the loop. They might be really nice people and an asset to your child's life. I don't know your circumstances but it seems a shame to spite them just for having a son who isn't sticking around

I agree with this.

Just cause his family are involved doesnt mean he has to be.
My Mum's been cut off from my brothers ex girlfriend who's due anytime now and shes totally heartbroken, that's her granddaughter too.
Just because he doesn't deserve to be in you and lo's life doesn't mean his family should suffer

 

[LittleMadam]

Do what's right for you. I have nothing to do with FOB's family and I am quite comfortable with that.

No, they don't have any legal rights nor does FOB unless he is on the birth certificate.

 

[xoxsarahxox]

they dont have any legal rights although they can still protest it in court but wouldnt get very air unless they could proove u are and unfit mother or something serious like that x

 

[Novbaby08]

Not sure about the UK, but my ex's family doesn't get to see Harley unless I say otherwise.

 

[Pyrrhic]

They don't have any legal rights to see their grandchild.

My ex's family seem to think it's ok to treat me like shit, then invite themselves over for Christmas to see my LO. Ha!

 

[jenmc226]

In the US there are Grandparents' Rights. Though, they'd have to fight for them. But essentially it'd be a placement schedule - 1 weekend a month (or something). With them living so far away it'll be hard for them to maintain any kind of relationship anyways. Why not humor them? Let them help as much as they want to. Just don't go out of your way to have them involved. If they volunteer to make a day trip to visit, free up a couple of hours for them.