General rant. NO Judging please! (Put it in the wrong forum before:/)

[KitaaAndBump]

I HATE judge-mental people! Seriously!
I just finished watching a film in a happy mood, came upstairs, about to go to bed all happy and well...
Next minute I check facebook to see if I have any messages...
Scrolling down my newsfeed.. la da daaaaa
BAM! People judging pregnant teens...
'Oh you're going to be a mum, you shouldn't be arguing..'
-Well, sorry, but if you're calling someone who's pregnant, they're not going to sit back and let you call them and slag them off...
-'Oh, well I finished school, went to college and got a job... What did YOU do with your life?!'

Erm.. I got pregnant, I'm starting a family, I can get a job after my baby is born.
Not ALL jobs require qualifications...

Which brings me on to the next part of my rant!
SCHOOL.

Okay. I don't go to a normal high school... Its like a part-time one...
I get taxi's there and taxi's back.
By rights I'm allowed 6 weeks maternity leave... and then LEGALLY which I found out off my family nurse... I'm allowed 18 weeks off after the baby is born.

I have PGP/SPD and something else which I forgot the name of.
BUT still, they're trying to get me to have 2/3 weeks maternity leave, and only 3 weeks off after the baby is born!!!!

I've been off for the last two weeks because I'm in so much pain... and can't really walk up all the stairs in the school (The classrooms are upstairs.)
My maternity leave is due to start on the 31st of this month, but the school finishes for Christmas break on the 19th.
Oh, and they kept my letter about my mock GCSE's so I didn't know I had them, until AFTER the dates had past.
So now I have no predicted grade, and they've took me off the list to do most of my main GSCE's. So either way, I'm not going to get into any college around here, because you need a certain amount of grades.

Anyway, back to the main part!
Yeah, It REALLY annoys me when people say things like
'Oh, you have no education...'
'You can't get your GCSE's or any other qualifications!'
'You're not going to be able to provide for your child!'
'You'll be sponging off everybody else!'
'You've ruined your future!'

NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO!!!!!!!!!!!!
I haven't ruined my future!
I just started mine earlier than you did!
MY FUTURE IS MY FAMILY!
I can go to college after I've had him, I can get a job when he's born!

Oh, another thing too.
MEN/BOYS.
Now, no judging but the father of my baby is 20 almost 21...
I'm 15.
No, he didn't take advantage of me.
I knew him for four years, met him twice, and ended up pregnant.
Anyways, I don't understand, why and how, you can sleep with someone, unprotected... knowing there is a chance you could get them pregnant, and not intend to stay when you find out they are?!?!

The funny thing is though...
As soon as I showed him the pregnancy test... He said...
-This is the funny bit...-
'It can't be mine, I can't have kids!'
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAH, BULL!
After that though... he never once protested that it was his.
Whatttttttt?

To be pretty honest though, I couldn't care less.
I have a beautiful little boy on the way, and I couldn't be happier.

GAHHHH! People. I dislike people. Not ALL people. Just some.
The kind that -while you're out shopping or walking- look at your belly, then look at your face, and raise their eyebrow.
The kind that judge people.
The kind that -basically- I DO NOT LIKE!

On the bright side... I have ANOTHER scan on the 21st
THEN ITS CHRISTMAS!
Woooooooooooo, yay.
I'll be 34 weeks exactly on Christmas eve.


If anyone's bothered to read this... then thank you!
YOU'RE ALL BEAUTIFUL! WE LOVE YOU ALL

 

[ClairAye]

You sound like you're doing so well! I had really bad SPD and barely did anything when I was pregnant tbh!

Hang in there hun! x

 

[KitaaAndBump]

I'm trying ha ha, thank you for reading and replying xx

 

[ClairAye]

No bother! Happy to help
I learnt to ignore judging people, because I am so bloody proud of our son so they can shove it up their bums! x

 

[KitaaAndBump]

Ha ha! I get wound up too easily, and take almost everything too heart:/ xx

 

[ClairAye]

So do I! But we've been through a lot with Jason so when people say young mums are bad mums etc I can happily turn around and say that I most definitely am not! I'm really proud of him and being his mummy! There will always be judgemental people but you need to rise above them all because you're better than them! x

 

[x__amour]

Ignore them. Keep your head held up high.

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Ignore people, they will always talk I'm 20 in a month and I get looks and comments when out with the pram.

Also hunny, could you not go and discuss your GCSE's with the school.. it's seems a bit ridiculous that you're going to miss out on getting a good set of qualifications because of something they've done. If you go and talk with someone, I'm sure you're within your rights to get that changed.. you'll obviously be set up better for life if you get a basic set of GCSE's (which is totally achievable with a baby) and have way more options.. I would definitely consider putting my foot down and making sure I took the exams if I were you.

I got a lot of crap when I was pregnant about ruining my life.. I had plans to work and still study with a baby but everyone told me that babies are such cripplingly hard work that I wouldn't even be able to try.. I was told that I'd never be able to achieve my dreams, have no life, no degree, no job, no money and that me and FOB would split under pressure. Well, my LO is 11 months old now and I work three days a week as well as study for a uni degree.. it is HARD work but I find it manageable. Me and the FOB are happy and engaged and I find that money is comfortable.. it just goes to show what people will say to upset you, and how a lot of the time they have no idea what they're on about. xx

 

[jozylynn896]

What really gets me is those moms who really are bad moms.
Say there's one 30 year old mother, gets drunk all night evert night, just parties, dumps her kids at a familys, and does nothing for them. And there's a teen who does the exact same. The teen will be judged 10 times harder. That really bugs me.
I'm 16 years old, 5 months pregnant. And I know I'll be a great mommy!

People say "You have no futrue" "Be ready for a lifetime of unhappiness". Its like STFU.
When the going gets tough, the tough get going!
"You're sponging off the government".
That one really pisses me off. What do you think I'm gonna pull all the money to raise a child out of my ass?!
Haha. People are so quick to judge, it is sad.

 

[haydenmummy]

Yh being a mum at 15 Is hard but so much worth it. I found who my true friends were to when I found out I was pregnant and I know for a fact I'm a good mum he is now 3 an half and I now have a 20 day old lil girl too so I know I'm a good mum I don't go out iv had two nights off since hayden was born. When I was pregnant I got told your OH won't stivck by you his 17 and still wants his life his a typical lad haha all that bull people try to put in your head but now 5 years down the line e are still together and very happy x
I also had spd when I was pregnant I was in pain from in the morning till I went to bed I found it really harrd to do stuff and I had my son to so it was hard playing with him and taking him park and walking him to nursery every day xx

 

[KitaaAndBump]

Thankyou all!
Like I said on the other one I posted, all of your replies made me smile
I've only just woke up too, so thankyou all sooooo much

and jozylynn896 I know quite a few people around 30/ish that are exactly like, that, one of them was my old best friends mum, she died about 7/8 month ago though, just before I found out I was pregnant, don't get me wrong, she was soooo nice, she'd do anything for me, but she was constantly leaving her daughter home alone, to go drinking, and taking drugs and things, and out of all the people that knew what she was doing, no-one confronted her or judged her about her parenting!

 

[Supa]

I HATE judge-mental people! Seriously!
I just finished watching a film in a happy mood, came upstairs, about to go to bed all happy and well...
Next minute I check facebook to see if I have any messages...
Scrolling down my newsfeed.. la da daaaaa
BAM! People judging pregnant teens...
'Oh you're going to be a mum, you shouldn't be arguing..'
-Well, sorry, but if you're calling someone who's pregnant, they're not going to sit back and let you call them and slag them off...
-'Oh, well I finished school, went to college and got a job... What did YOU do with your life?!'

Erm.. I got pregnant, I'm starting a family, I can get a job after my baby is born.
Not ALL jobs require qualifications...

Which brings me on to the next part of my rant!
SCHOOL.

Okay. I don't go to a normal high school... Its like a part-time one...
I get taxi's there and taxi's back.
By rights I'm allowed 6 weeks maternity leave... and then LEGALLY which I found out off my family nurse... I'm allowed 18 weeks off after the baby is born.

I have PGP/SPD and something else which I forgot the name of.
BUT still, they're trying to get me to have 2/3 weeks maternity leave, and only 3 weeks off after the baby is born!!!!

I've been off for the last two weeks because I'm in so much pain... and can't really walk up all the stairs in the school (The classrooms are upstairs.)
My maternity leave is due to start on the 31st of this month, but the school finishes for Christmas break on the 19th.
Oh, and they kept my letter about my mock GCSE's so I didn't know I had them, until AFTER the dates had past.
So now I have no predicted grade, and they've took me off the list to do most of my main GSCE's. So either way, I'm not going to get into any college around here, because you need a certain amount of grades.

Anyway, back to the main part!
Yeah, It REALLY annoys me when people say things like
'Oh, you have no education...'
'You can't get your GCSE's or any other qualifications!'
'You're not going to be able to provide for your child!'
'You'll be sponging off everybody else!'
'You've ruined your future!'

NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO!!!!!!!!!!!!
I haven't ruined my future!
I just started mine earlier than you did!
MY FUTURE IS MY FAMILY!
I can go to college after I've had him, I can get a job when he's born!

Oh, another thing too.
MEN/BOYS.
Now, no judging but the father of my baby is 20 almost 21...
I'm 15.
No, he didn't take advantage of me.
I knew him for four years, met him twice, and ended up pregnant.
Anyways, I don't understand, why and how, you can sleep with someone, unprotected... knowing there is a chance you could get them pregnant, and not intend to stay when you find out they are?!?!

The funny thing is though...
As soon as I showed him the pregnancy test... He said...
-This is the funny bit...-
'It can't be mine, I can't have kids!'
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAH, BULL!
After that though... he never once protested that it was his.
Whatttttttt?

To be pretty honest though, I couldn't care less.
I have a beautiful little boy on the way, and I couldn't be happier.

GAHHHH! People. I dislike people. Not ALL people. Just some.
The kind that -while you're out shopping or walking- look at your belly, then look at your face, and raise their eyebrow.
The kind that judge people.
The kind that -basically- I DO NOT LIKE!

On the bright side... I have ANOTHER scan on the 21st
THEN ITS CHRISTMAS!
Woooooooooooo, yay.
I'll be 34 weeks exactly on Christmas eve.


If anyone's bothered to read this... then thank you!
YOU'RE ALL BEAUTIFUL! WE LOVE YOU ALL

I'm glad to see you are trying to continue to get your education. I can relate to you. I got pregnant a month after I turned 17 and my school wanted me to come back really soon after having the baby also. I got my doctor to write a note saying I was physically unable to return back after a short amount of time.

Don't worry about what other people say. I graduated high school and even went to college for a while. Right now i'm working and about to start a CNA program , don't let anyone tell you that you can't do it.

Oh and the father of this child i'm carrying is 27 and i'm 21. We are in our 20's but that's about the same age difference as yall so I understand where your coming from. But it sounds like he TRIED to take advantage of you. I know you said it was a mutual thing because you wanted it to but I'm getting the hint because of the "It can't be mine I cant have kids" things. It sounds like he just had intentions of sleeping with you and going and didn't think it was a possibility of you getting pregnant and then he was trying to get out of it and that just pisses me off.
But I believe he realized there was nothing he could do and just accepted the fact so i'm glad he's not denying your son anymore.