getting worried :(

[BumbleBee10]

Hello all.
Been trying for 6 months now and I'm sure that doesn't sound long but it feels like an eternity to me and OH.
After a 37 day cycle last month (usually only 30 days) AF arrived again this afternoon a week before expected. I've always been regular for the past decade so who knows what's going on there.
I'm just beginning to worry about fertility - me and OH are both 22 and healthy so I don't see why it hasn't happened yet. All I've ever wanted is to be a mum and after WTT for 2 years I feel like I've been tortures for long enough went to a wedding today and was surrounding by lovely babies and toddlers so maybe I'm just feeling sorry for myself after coming back home to our empty house.

Sorry for the rant everyone, just feeling blue tonight
Xx

 

[ToughhGal]

I tried for 3 or 4 years before I finally got pregnant. I had hormonal imbalance and suspected infertility. Six months does NOT mean you have issues. My friend took more than six (less than 9 I believe) to concieve my wonderful godson. I'm sure you are just fine dear

Btw, my secret was Fertilaid, his and hers.

 

[ScorpioLoz]

6 months in the eyes of professionals is nothing, but I completely understand that it feels like too long. Each month is as painful as the one before, I know.

But... Keep note that you are ttc for 6 months, present to your doctor that this is what you have been doing. Usually between 9 - 12 months of trying, they start to take notice and refer you to have scans and tests done. This all depends on if the doctor thinks you are healthy enough, need it enough and in some cases worthy enough. They more than likely won't provide fertility help/referrals to someone less stable than another couple that are. It's all about whittling down prospects unfortunately.

I was told at 6 months to try and lose weight so that when 12 months comes round, I'll be healthier. Luckily I got in early at 9 months. I still hadn't lost any weight. But my main issues were pcos and lack of periods.

Perhaps you could ask for them to check if you have pcos. I really think all girls between 18-25 need to be tested as many go undiagnosed. I was 21 when I went to doctor, at 22 I got treatment and was pregnant but lost it. I'm now 23 and pregnant... Naturally!

Push your doctors, I did.

 

[Lirpa11]

I know where you're coming from Bumblebee! We haven't used Bcp (other than maybe twice in September) since august. We officially started TTC in November, and should now be on cycle 7, but I'm stuck in cycle six with no ovulation.

I understand it isn't long and some women may take years, but that certainly doesn't make me say oh thank goodness I'm now on month 7 of trying. It doesn't make it more easier for me and if anything makes it more worrying for me as I don't want it to take years!

It's even more frustrating when everyone around gets pregnant by smiling at each other! Why can't we be that fertile ha ha

It may not mean something is wrong. But then again it doesn't necessarily mean hey you're 100% ok either as nothing has been tested.

Have you been keeping track of AF/bd/o date etc? Temping?

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

I'm feeling exactly the same way. Spotting started today on cycle four and so we are onto cycle five. I am so sick of people saying "there's nothing wrong, it just takes time" and this comes from people who are either pregnant, mothers, or people who got pregnant after two months. My friend who got pregnant second go said "it's hard when we try and don't get pregnant as fast as we want to" - um, no shit sherlock but you got pregnant the second time you tried! I'm sorry. I'm feeling really upset and pissed off so that's why I'm coming across quite fiery...

I just want to be pregnant so badly.

We have a fertility appointment on June 3rd. That's at the end of the 5th cycle trying. It will be interesting to have a discussion. We are paying for the appointment so will essentially get what we want I guess... if we pay for it. We will get a SA done, I'll get some tests or some scans to just make sure.

I just can't shake this feeling that something isn't connecting.

And you are totally right Lirpa, the fact it could take a long time doesn't make me thankful that I'm only on cycle 5.

Right now I'm in such a pissed off, worried, upset, frustrated, jealous, horrible mood and it's at this sorta time I wonder how I'm going to get back to DTD for goodness sake!

Sorry to be so negative!!!