Gifts for the passing of a mother

[Eternal]

Someone from my church's mum passed away today, she was an olds child and carer of her mum, she is divorced too so her mum (and daughter) are her whole world. I know she would probably prefer company, but we are ill, I don't know her well and I doubt she will appreciate me dragging alone my three and them wrecking her home, I might make some food but even nervous about that as she think she is an amazing cook and likes to tell others what they did wrong, how to improve etc.

So I was thinking a little gift and note so she knows we care and perhaps a care package, with sweets and comfort bits in for her.

Any ideas?

 

[Princess Lou]

Personally, when my Mum passed away, I didn't really want anything from anyone, including company.

A card is probably the best thing as it shows you are thinking of the bereaved and lets them know that you are there for them.

To many, a gift is a celebratory thing to do.

 

[Banshee]

I would definitely suggest a card so she knows you are thinking of her. I really appreciated them when my mum died last year. I think a care package might be a nice idea, or maybe flowers - but only if they come already in their own water as who can be bothered with flower arranging at a time like that?

 

[Eternal]

Personally, when my Mum passed away, I didn't really want anything from anyone, including company.

A card is probably the best thing as it shows you are thinking of the bereaved and lets them know that you are there for them.

To many, a gift is a celebratory thing to do.

No, this person has wrote in her Facebook she wants company, texts etc, given her address for flowers and gifts to be sent.

I know what you mean though, I'm like that I think, I tend to grieve inwardly and don't want others around to upset me.

 

[Eternal]

I would definitely suggest a card so she knows you are thinking of her. I really appreciated them when my mum died last year. I think a care package might be a nice idea, or maybe flowers - but only if they come already in their own water as who can be bothered with flower arranging at a time like that?

Thanks, and very good point on the flowers. Thanks for the tip.

 

[Redhead84]

I would send a card, and then organise flowers to be sent to the funeral.

I have never heard of someone asking for gifts to be sent to them when bereaved - maybe it's a new thing, I haven't really been around anyone who has died for about 10 years.

 

[lau86]

Did she ask for gifts to be sent?? Personally I think that's a bit weird. The only things I would do are flowers, card or charity donation or if I knew the person well I would take some meals over x

 

[Cleo]

When my grandfather passed, my mil gave me a little stone angel that was to go in the garden. I thought it was a lovely gesture and quite a nice way to honour his memory. In Canada, most of the memorial sites have treed areas and you can plant a tree in memory of someone as well...not sure if they have anything like that where you are?

 

[Eternal]

Ok, I think I won't then, just a card and flowers. Thanks everyone.