Going back to college? - In two minds about it!

[Buddysmum89]

Ive been looking at college websites all day..'Umming and arring' about whether to go back or not..Im going stir crazing being stuck in the house with my mother in law who has alzheimers..Shes very annoying at times, but i suppose its not her fault

I started college back in 2011 but had to leave near the end as i got pregnant at the beginning of the course!, my son is now 14 months..He came as a huge surprise so i was quite shocked and quite sad i had to give up college quite close to my due date ..My teachers we're lovely and totally understood when i needed time off for midwife appointments and scans but if i did go back im scared of using them as a reference incase they say something bad about me and the amount of time i had off ..My minds spinning around on itself trying to reassure me it'll be okay and that there not allowed to say anything bad!..And im also not getting any younger..I turned 24 last month

I already have a 2 year qualification in the subject i want to go back and do!..Surely that'll go in my favour!..And then i have the guilt about leaving my son for the day with OH :\

What do i do ..Anyone else go back to college when their kids we're older or did they just throw in the towel..Im dying to know!

Thanks guys

 

[LDC]

I gave up uni (well deferred) when my mum was terminally ill and I really wondered whether to go back and complete the year or not. I did and then went on to do further studies and it was the best decision I ever made. It's really helped my career and I'm so glad I finished, it was a real sense of achievement.

I know it's not the same, but I think the feeling of confusion is.

Can I ask what you'd do if you didn't go back to college?

I know being a stah mum is an option, but I always think at some point you're going to have to go back to work and this could be a real stepping stone to getting a good career. I know that's not the be all and end all when you've got a child but that was my own personal reasons for taking a promotion at work despite having reduced my hours in my previous position.

Plus it sounds to me that you might be caring for your mother in law if she's having a particularly bad day (I used to work for the Alzheimer's society and know how difficult emotionally and mentally it can be caring for someone with the disease), so it would probably do you good to have something to focus on.

I don't think you should feel guilty about leaving your child with his dad! It will be good for their bonding, when I return to work lo is being looked after by my oh, mil and nursery two days a week. I'm really pleased with this as she's settled in well at nursery, built up her social skills and then she gets time with her dad without me always being around, it's really helped with his confidence and lo completely dotes on him now

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