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[Mouse]

I've only been pregnant 2 or 3 weeks, but tonight I have bleeding and the worst cramps of my life. I know our baby has gone. I haven't told my husband yet because it happened in the night and he is still sleeping (it's 5.20am) I have my brother and his friend over for a visit at the moment and neither of them knew I was pregnant. The next couple of days are going to be so hard trying to act like I am fine around them. I am dreading telling my husband about it in the morning.

This was my first pregnancy, I guess I should not have been so naive to think everything would go right the first time.

My book on pregnancy says I should consult a doctor if I miscarry, but that section is on the whole first trimester. Do I need to see one when it happened so early?

 

[Aussie Jen]

Hi, hun. First of all . I know how you are feeling right now and it's a terrible place to be. Please know that things will get better - you will conceive another little one in the future (although I understand you will always feel the loss of this one..).

Take time to deal with and come to terms slowly with what has happened. Don't be afraid to ask for support and surround yourself with people who won't try to offer any explanation (there must have been something wrong with the baby, etc etc) but will just listen and love you.

Regarding seeing the dr, I would see how your bleeding and pain management go. If you are experiencing more pain than normal Paracetemol can cover or you are worried about a strange odour in the discharge, then it probably would be best to see one. You may need a d&c (dilatation and curette) if your uterus doesn't work well with completing the miscarriage.

All the best, hun.

 

[catfromaus]

Hi,

I am so sorry for what happened. I know how hard it is. As for seeing the doctor, I would recommend it, just to check on your hormone levels and make sure your body has returned to 'normal'. If anything is left behind it can cause you serious infection.
Wishing you all the best, and again, I'm so sorry it happened.

Cat
xxx

 

[Mouse]

Thank you Jen and Cat, I appreciate your support. The physical pain is not a bad as it was at 4am this morning, and paracetamol seems to be covering it ok for now. I have told my husband now, although we have not had much of a chance to talk yet because our guests are here. He just held me and let me cry, I am so lucky to have him.

I am feeling strangely calm now, which is weird. I guess it is shock. or maybe denial.

 

[superp123]

 

[CarCam]

Oh hun, I am soooooo sorry. You will probably be in shock for a while, but make sure you let yourself grieve the way you need to. I am glad that your husband sounds wonderful.

Lots of