Good old best way to conceive

[baby_rose]

Is not to try at all..... I'm a returning member had given up after a year of ttc ovulation sticks vitamins legs up temping etc.... After falling into depression I gave up decided to focus on something else instead to stay mentally sand and that way weight loss.... 30 pounds lighter from 200 to 170 and 6 months after all this I conceived without even trying I left June to chance and we got our little baby..... Thought this could help some of you girls don't be so hard on yourselves.... I used to hate when women would post saying this but it's true well at least for me like them it happened on its own cheer up girls enjoy the holidays leave a few months to chance

 

[KatO79]

Glad to hear you managed to get pregnant!

However although I'm glad that this "method" worked for you, it's not going to work for everyone trying to get pregnant. Some do need to be more proactive and e.g. go through assisted conception to get pregnant. I myself have been diagnosed with unexplained infertility, we've been TTC for a little over 2 years and been through 6 failed medicated IUIs (all BFNs) and 1 IVF that resulted in a chemical (doing IVF #2 in January since we ended up with 0 embies viable for freezing). Before that chemical after my IVF, we haven't had anything close to a BFP although I suspect I may have had a chemical for our 7th cycle in April 2014.

So yeah, us ladies with infertility already get an earful that we just need to "relax" but unfortunately, people that are truely infertile won't get pregnant by not trying (at least not in the short term, if at all!). So it's definitely not the best way for everyone to just stop trying!

 

[Ltweety]

Congratulations on your healthy pregnancy baby_rose. I can see that you had the best of intentions here and I really hope your baby turns out perfect Relaxing can be a bit harder with losses or diagnosed infertility though, so I can definitely see where Kat gets frustrated too. The best to all and Merry Christmas!

 

[KatO79]

Relaxing can be a bit harder with losses or diagnosed infertility though, so I can definitely see where Kat gets frustrated too.

Relaxing also doesn't help those with infertility - it's like telling a cancer patient to just relax and they'll be healed. It doesn't work that way It has nothing to do with "Relaxing can be harder", relaxing doesn't help if you truely are suffering from infertility!

OP, perhaps also calling it the "best way to conceive" is also hurtful to those of us that truely need IUI or IVF to conceive. Because what, conceiving after fertility treatments makes those parents less in some way or the method they needed less worth than conceiving naturally? Be careful with your wording in the future please.

 

[DannaD]

Being very pro active got me pregnant. After 6 months "trying" (with basically no periods and no signs of O), I forced a fertility exam and they found I have PCOS, strong doses of fertility drugs have been required to get me to O. Waiting and relaxing would have done nothing, losing weight wasn't needed for me, and my mind had been busy with other stuff for 26 years before and that didn't stop my ovaries from getting full of kysts ;P

I know you mean well, and I'm glad you got pregnant. But "just relax" isn't gonna help everyone, not even most I'd say.

 

[youngmommy26]

Congratulations on conceiving, I'm very happy for you. On the other hand, this post kind of upsets me a little bit. Me and DH have been TTC #2 for almost 4 years now. I have unexplained infertility and will be taking clomid to help me ovulate. Sometimes just relaxing and waiting for it to happen never happens for some of us. I'm glad and happy for the women on here who conceive really easily, but don't disregard the women who have fertilty issues. The "wait and see" attitude isn't a fix all. Neither is losing weight.

 

[2ducks]

I thought long and hard before replying to this post....I understand your intentions are to be supportive and uplifting but this post came across to me as thoughtless and insensitive. You said you were trying for years before conceiving, just remember how you felt when people told you "oh it will just happen". Please don't forget that every woman's journey ttc is different and while "not trying at all" may have worked for you that will not work for everyone. Also, it clearly states in the TTC#1 forum rules that this is not a place to announce your BFP. Like i said, I understand that you are trying to be supportive and that you have had a long journey of your own but don't assume that all of our stories will end up like yours.

Congratulations on your BFP and I wish you and your DH good luck!