Had a ERPC yesterday

[surreysharon]

Unfortunately i have just come out of hospital as had a miscarriage 2 days ago. I was 7 weeks 1 day. I had a dating scan at 6wks 4 days and everything fine, told me strong heartbeat visibility etc. I started to bleed on Monday evening at midnight. Went to bed with a pad on and woke up at 1am still bleeding. Monitored it for another half hour before taking myself to a&e.

They put me on a gynae ward and at 9am the next day gave me a vaginal scan. The baby was still in the sac, in the right place, but no heartbeat. They then sent a doctor in to see me with options. Decided on a erpc. Had this yesterday morning. Came home last night.

Cried myself stupid 2 mornings ago and now kinda just numb to it. I am feeling ok with little bleeding but kinda being strong, maybe too strong. My sister is pregnant and due in July so she is feeling terrible that she still has hers and i dont. So i am actually comforting her which is odd. Dunno just be nice to talk on here i think.

xx

 

[Tilly]

Sorry to hear that

 

[sam76]

im so sorry, i have had 2 m/c and its so hard xxx where all here for you always xx take care

 

[sarahhoney]

I understand what you mean, I was at about the same stage as you and the same situation, baby but no heartbeat, except I'd heard the heartbeat 2 days before.

I am a strong positive person by nature but I do hear myself sometimes saying I'm fine like I'm chanting a mantra and that maybe if I say it enough it'll become true!!

I really do feel ok apart from I feel like I'm getting over a bug (terrible way to put things) I find that now a couple of weeks down the line I'm doing ok but having a good cry at silly things like tv shows or stories I read on here. So my advice would be stay strong but let yourself have a good cry or scream when you want to. I'm sure in a weird way comforting your sister is probably like comforting yourself x

We're all here if and when you need us.
xxx

 

[Jessa]

I absolutely agree with sarahhoney. It's important to let yourself cry and feel the emotions that you need to. I think it's such an integral part of grieving. Use the forum as a place to talk to others who have experienced the same thing and know exactly what you're going through.

 

[RobenR]

Cry, scream, rant, whatever helps the grieving process for you. Believe me it helps, and the women on this forum are also great for advice and listening.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[surreysharon]

Thank you ladies, wise words. Its just dumbfounding because of the scan 3 days before.

I know miscariage can happen at any time but would the dating scan done by trans-vaginal method of not helped. i had a little bit of red/brown spotting after she did it and i told her this when i wiped myself. She said its fine and didnt recheck me.

im convinced stemmed from that.

 

[Jessa]

I would put money on the fact that the vaginal scan had absolutely nothing to do with your miscarriage. To give you another example, we had our 12 week scan and saw our baby for the first time the beginning of January. At our 16 week appointment last Monday, we were told that our baby's heart had stopped beating. When I asked the doctor if he knew when, he said it appeared as though it was mere days after our scan....and our baby was that much farther along than yours so was even more developed.

Why do I tell you that? Because I think it's important that you realize that these things just happen. Most of the time there isn't a clear reason other than that the baby didn't develop properly. I know it's natural to, but try not to get too hung up on the "Why did this happen?" question.

I'm thinking about you. Hope you're having an okay day today.

 

[Rebaby]

I just wanted to say how sorry i am for your loss

I am a newcomer here too, i found the site the day after i started to miscarry, last week, and so far it has been a real help. I hope it will be for you too