kmbabycrazy
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I have always imagined having a bigger family and when me and OH first discussed having a family together we agreed we wanted 4 kids (including my son from a previous relationship). After DD was born I felt like I could have 1 more and I'd be happy and feel the family was complete and for a while OH agreed, but now he is adamant he doesn't want anymore.
I'm not wanting to try any time soon as I will be starting uni at the end of the month and would like to get started in my career before having another, and I am happy to wait that long but OH says no and that when he's 30 (3 years) he will be having a vasectomy. I'm heartbroken and don't know what to feel. Part of me feels like if he doesn't want anymore that's the way it has to be and I can't force him, but another part feels like he's being a little selfish. Then again maybe that's the part of me that's being selfish. I just don't know.
Has anyone else been in this position that could offer any advice/comfort?
I'm not wanting to try any time soon as I will be starting uni at the end of the month and would like to get started in my career before having another, and I am happy to wait that long but OH says no and that when he's 30 (3 years) he will be having a vasectomy. I'm heartbroken and don't know what to feel. Part of me feels like if he doesn't want anymore that's the way it has to be and I can't force him, but another part feels like he's being a little selfish. Then again maybe that's the part of me that's being selfish. I just don't know.
Has anyone else been in this position that could offer any advice/comfort?