Hello everyone.. Help needed...

[KateisTTC]

Hello everyone,

I am 36, I have an 11 year old darling daughter. My husband (47) and I split up 6 years ago, but reignited our love and marriage 2 years ago. I desperately want another baby and approached the subject recently. First off he was a firm No, due to finances, our daughter being older and him wanting a nice quiet life lol

However recently after much babysitting of my friends 6 month old twins he has warmed to the idea and has agreed to us start trying Hurrah!!!

Sadly since we have been back together we have not used any form of contraception and it hasn't happened. My husband has agreed for us to start trying, but says that he doesn't want to have the pressure of tests ETC...so we agreed that I'll monitor dates etc and we'll see what happens...but I literally have no idea where to start - temps? Ovulation tests? Soy Iso thingys?

Any advice?

Thank you in advance xxx

 

[Jazzbird]

Hello!

I would start by some loose charting - note day your period starts, any cervical mucus changes - particularly egg white cervical mucus, length of cycle etc. I would also do ovulation tests in middle of your cycle. All this shows is that the egg release hormone (lh) has surged which triggers the release of your egg 12-36 hours later. Once you get a positive test, have sex every day or every other day for 5 days. Try the internet cheap ovulation tests - you can buy 50 for £5 or something similar. I found them just as useful as the shop bought ones.

If you are still having no luck you can chart your temp. Every morning take your temp on waking before you get out of bed. Once the egg has been released your temp should jump so you can confirm your ovulation date this way.

 

[Mdc]

I agree with charting. Fertility friend really helped me. I was keeping track of my start and ovulation dates manually but realized I was counting the days wrong. Best the site is free, and you get a month of the Vip extras for free. Good luck!

I have been off BC for a year also, but really started trying 5 months ago. The key is to figure out your cycle. Sounds easy but whenever I think I have it nailed down my body likes to throw curve balls.

 

[AnnieMac2]

It might also be a good idea to try to estimate when you ovulate by another method instead of exclusively relying on the test. Because sperm can hang out for a few days, having sex shortly before the ovulation test is positive will give you some extra chances. Good luck!! And congratulations on renewing your relationship!

 

[Jazzbird]

Ps I always think it's good to have sex when you see egg white mucus as that is evolutionarily designed to help sperm travel to the egg and stay alive longer. I usually ovulate 2-3 days after I first see ewcm. So basically have sex every day/other day for a week starting the day you see ewcm - but confirm ovulation with test strips!