Hello

[Groovychick]

Hello girls. My name is Sarah and I am new to this section of the forum. I have a two month old daughter and am currently residing with my parents while I sort out a place of my own.

I am still with FOB but not for much longer I fear. He wants to be with me but have nothing to do with our daughter. I really don't see how this has any possibility of working although he doesn't seem to think there is a problem.

My parents are also pushing me to push him for child maintenance. I have applied for all the other benefits I can and have been successful in getting them but there is no way I can care for a little one on these meager offerings. He is adamant he won't pay a penny and I know I will have to take things further even though I know it will mean us breaking up.

I'm just confused, scared and frightened.

 

[kirst1805]

hun, He can't really expect to have nothing to do with your LO. Totally unrealistic.

Pushing for maintenance is a good idea hun, Even though you may not like doing it, he needs to realise LO is his responsibility as well as yours.

kirsty
xx

 

[nay4701]

Hi Sarah.

He sounds like a right selfish idiot! You must go for maintenance it will help you a lot and they now don't take maintenance into account re your benefits.

Xx

 

[Snowball]

Take him to the CSA hun, he clearly just wants the best of all worlds

 

[Groovychick]

Thank you for the advice girls. I think I'm just hanging onto him for fear that I might not find anyone else.

 

[sophxx]

you will find some one else when your ready. theres no need to hang on to someone who doesnt even want to see his own daughther be the stronger person hun as hard as it is walk away and give you and your daughter a better life. xx

 

[Groovychick]

I'm not normally a strong person, but will muster together as much strength as I can to deal with this situation.