help

[JJ44KK]

Hi, i'm a 16 year old, i got pregnant by a 16 year old

I need someone to talk to

 

[dawny690]

Awww hun are you going to keep the baby or have you not decided yet? Also have you told anyone yet? xx

 

[JJ44KK]

I'm going to keep them Personally i don't agree with abortion

I havn't told anyone

 

[dawny690]

Awww bless them? Is it twins? Does the father know yet or is he out of the picture hun? Are you close to your mum and dad sweetie? We are here for you if you need us xx

 

[JJ44KK]

The father doesn't know, he's pretty arkward to talk to I'm closest to my mum, but she's quite strict about most things and i have nothing to do with my dad(long story)

 

[dawny690]

Awww sweetie, I would suggest trying to talk to your mum about the baby and tell her your keeping it im sure she will respect your wishes and she may not be thrilled at first but she will come round, besides she will be a grandma and she will love her grandchild, but hun you must try to tell her, you might need her help and support plus you wont be able to hide it for long. How far gone are you if you dont mind me asking? xx

 

[JJ44KK]

2 months i think:S

 

[dawny690]

Awww bless have you seen a doctor/midwife and booked your scan yet hunny? Just to make sure bubs is doing as it should be xx

 

[JJ44KK]

I havn't done anything but take the test yet I feel that people are going to look down at me and i'm unsure what to say/do.

 

[dawny690]

Awww sweetheart you must go and see a doctor or a midwife and remember your 16 so whatever you tell them is confidential, nobody is going to think badly of you, when did you do your test and when was your last period hun and are they normally regular? xx

 

[JJ44KK]

I did the test at the start of this month. My periods are usually every 3 and a half weeks, i've not had one for a while now

 

[dawny690]

Thats good that you have a sticky bean inside you hunny, I would get yourself to a doctor/midwife asap and get a scan as soon as you can to find out how far gone you are for certain, it sounds like you are about the 12week mark, have you got a good friend you can take for moral support when you see a doctor/midwife? What area do you live in if thats not to nosy? xx

 

[JJ44KK]

I don't have any close friends, i used to have lots of friends but then spread REALLY bad rumours about me

I live in Nottingham

 

[dawny690]

Awww hun, really please try to talk to your mum and please please go see a midwife, no one will judge you. yo dont live that far from me im in leicester. Im here whenever you want to chat, there are a few young girls on here that are pregnant so your not alone no one on here will judge you and neither will a doctor or midwife. Promise you will book to see someone for your babies sake, and just try your mum hun. You still living at home? xx

 

[JJ44KK]

I promise Yes i still live at home, although i was wanting to get my own place.

 

[JJ44KK]

This is a bit random, but i'm unsure, will the fact that the dad does drugs, harm the baby in anyway?

 

[dawny690]

OMG and your mum hasnt noticed your expanding waist band and lack of you using monthly supplies? You will be a great mum im sure let us know how you get on with your mum and at the doctors/midwife, you will need to tell them when your last period was and when you had your hun they will work out how far gone you are and ask them for a scan and if they ask why you havent been before to see someone just tell them that you were scared and thought they would think badly of you or whatever you feel they want to know hun. I promise you that they wont think badly of you hun and they by law cant tell anyone xx

 

[dawny690]

I wouldnt have thought so hun, it only really effects baby if you take them as baby takes things from your blood like food etc to survive from 6weeks onwards, but im not a medical expert and I suppose it depends what he was doing, Im not going to pry but explain this when you see a doctor/midwife hun as they should be able to answer you fully xx

 

[JJ44KK]

To be honest, i am petite and wear pretty baggy clothes, i don't tend to go out much, except school, i usually just stay in my room.

Should i go to the doctors or a family planning clinic?

 

[dawny690]

Doctors hun and they will help you get a midwife, and the doctor might want to confirm pregnancy so go there first hun let me know how you get on xx