2MommiesinAZ
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Hi guys! I'm new to the board. This is my first post. Man, I have a lot to talk about... get feedback on..and share my personal experiences on! There's just so much. Woo hoo for having a same sex parenting section. I'm excited. Here we go...
My girlfriend and I recently purchased a home. She has an 8 year old boy, full custody. I absolutely just love him to pieces. We are far enough along in our relationship that he calls me "mom" and I call him my son. It seems right, and natural. He calls me Mom and her Mommy, to keep track of who he's talking about.
We just started classes for foster care/hoping to adopt a baby. We are getting the baby's room ready and been making purchases to fill the room with crib, toddler bed, clothes, toys, etc. How exciting!!!
Now. We've reached this part where our son is testing me. Trying to see if I'm going to stay around for awhile and seeing what he can do to push me away before I leave. Seeing how consistent my rules and boundaries are. Telling me I'm the worst person he's ever met in his life. Which clearly is not the case.
My partner is starting to really distance herself from me. "Why can't you love him as much as I love him." "It seems like you put yourself first and he needs to be all you think about all day, he's your number 1". "When the new baby comes, I'm going to be bad if you love that baby more than our son" She doesn't want to be around me when me and him aren't getting along.
I'm really just so lost here and there's so much pressure on me to make this right. Anyone have any suggestions or have you been through this?
My girlfriend and I recently purchased a home. She has an 8 year old boy, full custody. I absolutely just love him to pieces. We are far enough along in our relationship that he calls me "mom" and I call him my son. It seems right, and natural. He calls me Mom and her Mommy, to keep track of who he's talking about.
We just started classes for foster care/hoping to adopt a baby. We are getting the baby's room ready and been making purchases to fill the room with crib, toddler bed, clothes, toys, etc. How exciting!!!
Now. We've reached this part where our son is testing me. Trying to see if I'm going to stay around for awhile and seeing what he can do to push me away before I leave. Seeing how consistent my rules and boundaries are. Telling me I'm the worst person he's ever met in his life. Which clearly is not the case.
My partner is starting to really distance herself from me. "Why can't you love him as much as I love him." "It seems like you put yourself first and he needs to be all you think about all day, he's your number 1". "When the new baby comes, I'm going to be bad if you love that baby more than our son" She doesn't want to be around me when me and him aren't getting along.
I'm really just so lost here and there's so much pressure on me to make this right. Anyone have any suggestions or have you been through this?
